Inkinga yonyaka wokuqala wokuphila ibangela ushintsho olukhulu empilweni yokuphila yengane nendlu yakhe. Futhi akumangalisi. Ngalolo suku ingane yayinezinkathazo, kodwa ngokuzumayo iba yinkimbinkimbi, ingenasiphelo futhi ingenangqondo. Kusho ukuthini i-psychology yobudala mayelana nenkinga?
Inkinga yonyaka wokuqala wokuphila kwengane: izimpawu
Inkinga yonyaka ongu-1 kubantwana kulula ukucacisa ngezibonakaliso zayo. Okokuqala, ingane ihlala ingapheli. Kungaba nzima ukulala kwakhe, isimo esijwayelekile emini. Izingane zingakhala kakhulu ("uphazamise noma yini"), wenqaba ukwenza lokho esekuvele kahle (isibonelo, ukugcina i-spoon ngenkathi udla, uhamba, uhlezi ebhodweni).
Kungani sidinga inkinga yonyaka owodwa?
"Ingabe inkinga enganeni? Kwenzeka kanjani lokhu? "- Abantu abaningi abadala bayamangala, ngoba isithombe sokubantwana sinamfanekiso angenalutho wokunganakwa, inhlalakahle kanye nenduduzo enkulu. "Ngempela, ingane ingakaze ibhekane nezinkinga zangempela zokuphila!" Ngempela, oneminyaka eyodwa ubudala akasazi ubunzima bokuba umuntu omdala, noma kunjalo, izazi zengqondo zithi izinkinga ebuntwaneni ziyingxenye ebalulekile yenqubo yokuba umuntu, futhi akekho ongakwazi ukuphatha ngaphandle kwabo. Ngesikhathi esincane kunazo zonke kukhona ukungqubuzana phakathi kwezintshisekelo zomntwana ukufeza imigomo ethile (hamba, thola into ...) futhi uhluleka ukuthola izifiso zabo.
Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi isigaba esiyinkimbinkimbi sibhekwa ngabanokusebenza kwengqondo hhayi njengesigaba esibi sokuthuthukiswa. Njengoba kusesikhathini sokunqoba izinkinga ukuthi intuthuko ngokwayo iyenziwa. Ukuthuthukiswa nokuvumelana okuphelele phakathi kwezwe nomntwana akuhambisani. Ngakho-ke, ukuze ube ubuntu bomntwana, indima ebalulekile idlala ngokuphikisana njalo nezwe nokunganeliseki ngesimo esikhona.
Akufanele kusimangaze lapho ingane enzima ukuhamba ngezinyathelo iqala ukwenza amahloni ngunina, oye "efuna ukumsiza." Into ewukuthi esimweni esiyinkimbinkimbi ingane ngeke isanelisekile ngosizo olunikezwe ngumuntu ukuletha isimo sakhe "esimeni esivumelanayo". Kulokhu, ingane ihlola eyakhe "Ngiyakwazi." Futhi lokhu kungqubuzana kwakhe nezwe langaphandle, hhayi umama wakhe nobaba, abangazange basize, abazange basekele.
Khumbula, maduzane le mpikiswano izonqotshwa, ingane izokwazi amakhono amasha, ithole ulwazi olusha, bese kuthi kusukela enkathini yenkinga yonyaka owodwa kuphela izinkumbulo zizohlala.
Indlela yokunqoba inkinga yonyaka owodwa?
- Ingane ngayinye iqala kuphela ngesilinganiso esivumelana nayo. Abazali akufanele banake kakhulu umakhelwane uMaxim, osevele ethi "Umama" no "Baba", uhamba izinyanga eziyisikhombisa futhi adle eyedwa. Ingane yakho akudingeki ilandele uhlelo lomuntu. Ngakho-ke, umthetho wokuqala wokusiza ingane enkingeni akumele umhlazise "ngokungabi nesikhathi" nokudumisa ngemiphumela encane kakhulu. Ingane ngayinye inezinga elihlukile lokuthuthukiswa.
- Ingane eneminyaka elilodwa ingakakulungeli ukuxhumana eqenjini, ngakho zama ukunweba isikhathi sokuhlala ekhaya,
ukuxhumana naye, kufanele aqiniseke ukuthi ungathembela kubantu abadala, futhi bahlale bekhona. Umthetho wesibili: ukuxhumana nengane futhi uyisekele. - Okokugcina, umthetho wesithathu uhlobene nokubusa kosuku lomntwana. Yiqiniso, uma ingane ichitha isikhathi esincane emgwaqweni, ingalali isikhathi eside, kunenkinga yomkhaya emphakathini (abazali bephikisana njalo) - zonke lezi zici zandisa isimo esibucayi somntwana. Ngenkathi ingane ibhekene nenkinga yonyaka owodwa, njengoba ingxabano phakathi kwezwe namathuba omntwana, "okungaziwa ngenkathi ekwazi ukuhamba," kuzama ukwenza kube yinkinga kuphela ebhekene nayo.