Amaphupho mayelana nomshado angabangela nje ukutholakala kwamuva kumkhosi onjalo empilweni yangempela. Kulesi simo, akufanele ukuhunyushwa. Kwesinye isimo, indaba enjalo ingathatha ulwazi olubalulekile nolusithakazelisayo. Ukucacisa okunembile kunazo zonke, khumbula imininingwane eyinhloko yesakhiwo nokulayisha ngokomzwelo. Kumele futhi kukhunjulwe ukuthi izincwadi ezahlukene zephupho zivame ukunikeza ulwazi oluhlukile, ngakho-ke kunconywa ukuba uqhathanise nezenzakalo zokuphila kwangempela.
Kungani uphupha ngomshado womunye?
Ukuze ube khona ephusheni ngomshado womunye njengomvakashi isisindo esihle esichaza ukuthuthukiswa kwezindaba, emsebenzini noma ebhizinisini. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungathembela ekusetshenzisweni kwesifiso esithandekayo. Uma lo mphupho engumvakashi ohlonishwayo, khona-ke umuntu osondelene naye udinga usizo. Iphupho, lapho ungabona khona ukushada komshado, kuyisibonakaliso esihle, ukubikezela ithuba lokunqoba umuntu omthandayo. Ukuze uphuphe umshado womunye umuntu, udlule ngasese kwezinye izihlobo, kusho, maduzane kukhona umhlangano nomfazi wesifazane ozokwenza imizamo yokuzuza. Uma umphuphi edilini lomshado ocebile, esikhathini esizayo uzokwazi ukuya emcimbini ojabulisayo nabangani, lapho kunethuba lokuhlangana nomphefumulo wakho womshado. Iphupho, lapho kwakudingeka khona ukuba isixuku esixukwini, siyisixwayiso sokuthi kubalulekile ukuthi ungadideki ezinhliziyweni zakho.
Ukuchazwa kwamaphupho ngomshado womunye umuntu kuxhomeke kulowo owayengumakoti noma umkhwenyana. Ukubona umshado womama wakho kusho ukuthi kufanele umvakashele, ngoba uhlushwa okuthile futhi ngesisekelo salesi sifo singakhula. Uma indoda noma umfana ehamba phansi, lokhu kuyisixwayiso sokuthi kuzodingeka bahlupheke ngenxa yokusola okungenangqondo. Ukuze ubone ukuthi umshado uthembisa kanjani indodakazi, kusho ukuthi maduzane uzokwazi ukuqeda ukukhathazeka okwamanje. Umbono ebusuku, lapho kwakudingeka ngiye khona ukugubha udadewethu, ukuphakanyiswa kweziprofetho emkhakheni wezemisebenzi.
Kubantu abasemshadweni, iphupho lomshado womunye umuntu liyisimangaliso sezimanga. Ukulala, lapho ngifanele ngihambe ngomshado womunye umuntu, bese ngiphonswa kuwo, kuyisibonakaliso esihle, esibonisa ukuthi akufanele ukwesabe izinkinga nezinkinga esikhathini esizayo esiseduze. Ukuze ube ngufakazi emshadweni, kusho, maduzane ungalindela izinguquko ezinhle empilweni yakho. Kungase futhi kube yimbangela yokuthola izindaba ezingathandeki. Ukulala, lapho kwakudingeka khona ukuba umphathi wezinsizakalo, kungabonakala njengesixwayiso sokuthi kumele uqale wenze wonke umsebenzi bese uyajabula. Uma kungenjalo, ungalindeli ukufeza umgomo. Intombazane encane yokubona ephusheni emshadweni womunye womuntu olilayo,
Uma iphupho lomunye lomshado kumuntu, kulokhu, ibhuku lephupho libikezela impumelelo emsebenzini kanye nokwandiswa kwebhizinisi. Ukuze ummeleli ocansini oqinile, iphupho, lapho engufakazi, kubonisa ukuthi kungekudala umuntu uzodingeka afunde imfihlo yomuntu. Umbono ebusuku, lapho umphuphi ezama ukucasula umshado wabanye, uxwayisa ukuthi esikhathini esizayo uzobhekana nezithiyo ezihlukahlukene. Kuphela ngale ndlela kuzokwazi ukufeza lo mgomo. Ngentombazane, iphupho, lapho umncintiswano ehamba khona ngaphansi komqhele, kusho ukuthi maduzane uzogcwala umona, kodwa ngeke kube nesizathu esingenasisekelo.