Lapho abantu bengibuza mayelana nobuhlobo bami be-platonic, into yokuqala efika engqondweni yizikhumbuzo zomngane wengane. Sasihlala sihamba ndawonye, ngokuqinisekile sibamba izandla, futhi ngisho nangezinye izikhathi, ngesikhathi sokushintshwa kwesinye isikhathi sabazali bomuntu othile, sasilala embhedeni owodwa olubanzi, ngokuthula ngokushaya wonke umuntu ngesigamu sethu. Isiqubulo esiphikelelayo esithi "Tili-tiri-inhlama!" Sasishushisa yonke indawo; Umakoti nomkhwenyana! "Akumangalisi kakhulu, njengengoma ezinhlelweni zethu ezide kakhulu.
Ngakho-ke, masiqonde ndawonye ukuthi inkulumo ethi "ubudlelwane be-platonic" isho ukuthini. Ngokwesiko, le nkulumo ibonisa ubuhlobo obunothando obuhle kakhulu, lapho kungekho khona ubulili nhlobo.
Uma sikhuluma ngezinto eziphakeme, uthando lomama wengane, imizwa yomfundi othandekayo yothisha wakhe, uthando lwe-Fatherland, ngoNkulunkulu ingaba izibonelo ezinhle kakhulu zobuhlobo be-platonic.
Kodwa ake sibuyele othandweni lobuhlobo be-platonic. Yiqiniso, kunezizathu ezinhle kakhulu zokuphakama okunjalo - isibonelo, ubudala obukhulu kakhulu obuthile noma ezinye izifo ezithile ezingavumeleki ukuba baphile impilo evamile yobulili. Lapha ungakwazi ukunikeza izibonelo eziningi ezivela ezilasini. Isibonelo, "Ukuhamba Ngomoya" U-Ashley Wilks waphoqeleka ukuyeka ukuphila kobulili nomkakhe, ngoba wayengakwazi ukuzala. Kodwa ngokuvamile ukukhanga kwe-platonic kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokwenyuka kuya enqabeni elimnandi okuthiwa i-Love. Ngempela, uthando lwangempela luqala ngokubonga ngenhloso yemizwa yethu namaphupho enubudlelwane obuhle, obuhlanzekile nobuhlanzekile.
Iqoqo elilinganiselwe lamaphupho mayelana nothando lomlingani luhlanganisa nokuba khona kwekhwi elivumile ngenxa yenkosikazi yakhe nganoma yikuphi ukuthanda nokuqhosha, ngisho nokuqhosha kakhulu. Futhi induna yenhliziyo ngaye, yebo, iyinhle futhi ingenakutholakala nobuntu, okuthinta ngayo ukuthi kungumcabango ongacabangeki.
Kubonakala sengathi lokhu kuhlobene kanjani nokuphila kwangempela? Kungenzeka yini esikhathini sethu ukuba sibe uthando olunjalo lwe-platonic?
Eqinisweni, lesi simo sivamile, ikakhulukazi phakathi kwentsha. Kulo nyaka ubudala ukukhangwa kukaPlato kuyisigaba esivamile sokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo kwengqondo yomuntu ngamunye.
Mhlawumbe, ngamunye wethu uzokhumbula umfundi wesikoleni esiphakeme, oye waphakamisa amehlo ekushintsheni kwesikole, kanti ngisho nomfundisi osemusha, othandekayo, onesihloko sakhe esinezinkathazo ezikhethekile. Ngakho-ke, naphezu kwamaphupho wokuthinta okungahleliwe, ukubuka kanye ne-caresses, safika engqondweni engqondweni mayelana ne-banal sex.
Ngokuvamile ngalesi sikhathi, kuyingqayizivele ukuthola izithombe phakathi kwabadlali, abadlali abathandwayo nabahlanganyeli embukisweni we-TV. Phela, uxhumano olunjalo lwe-platonic ngokomoya olukude kanye nangokunokwenzeka luphumelela lwazi isidingo semicabango ephakanyisiwe kanye nenhloso yokukhulekela kwabo, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo azenzele noma yikuphi umphumela. Yebo, ukukhanya kwemizwa, ukungenakwenzeka kwezinto zokudumisa kuzokwenza ukuthi ukuhlangenwe nakho kobuhlobo be-platonic bukhunjulwe kakhulu. Ubani ongakhumbuli uthando lwakhe lokuqala?
Konke lokhu, kuyiqiniso, kunothando, kepha izazi ze-psychologists zikhomba ukuthi noma yikuphi ukukhanga kwe-platonic kufanele kufike esigabeni sokuqaphela kwayo, okungukuthi, ukuzama ukuheha, ukuhlala yedwa, njll. Yilokho intsha efunda ukuxhumana nobulili obuhlukile, ilungiselela ukuguqulwa kobudlelwane obudala. Ukusuka ekusebenzeni okuphumelelayo kwalo msebenzi kuxhomeke ekuphileni kwabo bonke esikhathini esizayo kanye nokuthi kuzoba yini.
Uma sikhuluma ngabantu abadala abadala abanempilo, kuyinto engokwemvelo futhi evamile, uma ngokusondelana okungokomoya phakathi kwabo kuyoba nokukhangwa ngokocansi komunye nomunye.
Yiqiniso, umuntu unobungane esiteji sokuxhumana nge-platonic isikhathi eside, omunye umuntu. Kuxhomeke ezintweni eziningi: ukukhulisa, ukwesaba ukuhlolwa okungalungile, ukwesaba ukushiswa, ukungahambisani nomlingisi, futhi umncane kakhulu. Into eyinhloko ukuthi amaphupho othandanayo mayelana ne-Ideal ayonakali impilo yakho ngokulindela okungapheli noma ukuhlolwa komlingani ngamandla. Futhi uzicabange wena: kungakhathaliseki ukuthi siphupha kangakanani ngothando oluhlanzekile, ulwazi lokuthi uyathandekayo kumuntu wakho, lisenza sijabule ngempela futhi sizethemba thina kanye nobuhlobo.