Abantu baxoxisana ngomlomo ngamazwi nangezwi, kepha ukukhulumisana ngamazwi okusebenza njengendlela eyinhloko yokuxhumana. Ukukhulumisana kwenkulumo kubhekisela ekukhulumeni ngamazwi; ulimi oluzwakalayo oluhlanganisa igama, intonation, ithoni yezwi, njll. Ngesizo senkulumo, sidlulisela ulwazi komunye nomunye, sibheke imibono, njalo njalo. Kodwa, akunakwenzeka ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuba "udlulisele" imicabango yakho ku-interlocutor futhi, ngokusemthethweni, ixhunywe nobumpofu ngamazwi.
Ukusho kobumpofu ngamazwi kusho ukuthini?
Ukukhulumisana ngamazwi kubaluleke kakhulu empilweni yomuntu, ngoba ikhono lokuveza imicabango yakho ngolimi olufanele nolungile lingaxhomeke emsebenzini wakho wesikhathi esizayo, isikhundla emphakathini, njll. Inkulumo "ukuguquguquka" kuzo zonke abantu zihlukile, kepha umuntu owazi ukuveza umbono wakhe kahle, ukuxhumana ngokuhlakanipha nangokucacile, uzohlonishwa njalo futhi aphumelele.
Uma ungenakukwazi ukuchaza lokho okufunayo, awukwazi ukuletha imininingwane yakho ku-interlocutor, uma isilulumagama sakho sincane kakhulu, khona-ke abantu abaseduze nawe ngeke bakuqonde. Kuyinto "ukukhathazeka" ekukhulumisaneni, ukungakwazi ukuveza nokuveza imicabango yomuntu kubizwa ngokuthi ubuphofu bemlomo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzama ukuzichaza kanjani, ngeke uzwakale, ubumpofu bakho obungamvumeli ngeke buvumele ukuba wenze lokhu, okusho ukuthi uzozizwa unesizungu, ungaqondwa muntu, ngakho-ke izinkimbinkimbi, nokungavikeleki, nokufihla.
Iyini imbangela yokuhlupheka komlomo?
Isizathu senkinga ngokuxhumana kwenkulumo kungaba:
- Ukuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo okubangelwa ebuntwaneni . Ukuhlukunyezwa okunjalo kungatholakala ngenxa yokuthi ingane yayingavunyelwe ukukhuluma, iphazamise njalo izindaba zakhe, njll, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, isifiso, futhi ngokufanele ikhono lokuveza imicabango nokucabanga liyanyamalala ngokuphelele.
- Ukuzethemba okuphansi . Ngenxa yokungavikeleki, umuntu uyesaba ukuveza umbono wakhe, ecabanga ukuthi zonke izindaba zakhe azithandeki kwabanye, futhi ukwesaba ukubuka ubuwula "kwenza" uthule, ngakho-ke, ukuntuleka kokukhuluma kuholela ezinkingeni zokuxhumana.
- Ukuvimbela ukungakwazi ukufunda nokubhala . Ukuzivumelanisa ngokweqile akuzalwa nomuntu okhuluma kahle, ukuze abe nesilulumagama esikhulu, ukuze afunde inkulumo enhle, umuntu adinga ukuthuthukisa. Ukufunda izincwadi, ukuxhumana nabantu abahlakaniphile, ukubukela amafilimu amahle, njll. konke lokhu kusiza ukukhulisa ukukhanya futhi, nakanjani, kuthuthukise ulimi olukhulunywe.