Inkinga yokuxhumana phakathi kobaba nezingane, ukuba yizingane ezisemthethweni kanye nabazali bazo, zivela cishe zonke izizukulwane futhi zimelela ukuphikisana okuphakade. Kodwa-ke, manje, kunanini ngaphambili, ukuziphatha kwezintsha eziningi akugcini nje kubangele ukukhathazeka kwabazali, kodwa futhi kuyingozi engozini yomphakathi. Lokhu kubangelwa ukuphakama kwesizukulwane sesimanje ekuziphatheni okungahambi kahle. Kungani izigebengu ezingabantwana nezikhukhula zikhulela emindenini evamile futhi ephumelelayo? Sizozama ukuphendula lo mbuzo.
Izimbangela zokuziphatha okungahambi kahle
Ngokusho kwengqondo yobudala, cishe eminyakeni engaba ngu-12, wonke umntwana uyindoda ekhulayo enezintshisekelo ezinganeni futhi ezingenacala. Kodwa ngemva nje konyaka ingane efanayo ngezinye izikhathi kunzima ukuyiqaphela. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi intombazane ingumfana noma umfana, abazali baqala ukuzwa ukukhwabanisa nokuhlambalazwa ekhelini labo, qaphela ukuthi ingane yabo ishintshile kanjani ekubukeni, kusukela emabhokisini asebuntwaneni futhi iphela ngezembatho ezingakahleleki. Yile ndlela ukuqala kwenkathi yokukhulelwa noma njengoba kubizwa - isikhathi sokuguquka - kubonakala. Ngisho nezingane ezilalelayo kakhulu ngesikhathi esisodwa zingaba zingalawuleki. Kule nkathi ngesikhathi lapho izazi zengqondo ziveza ukuzalwa kokuziphatha okungahambi kahle ezinganeni nasebancane, okungukuthi, indlela engamukeleki emphakathini ukusebenzisana nokuphulwa kokuziphatha, ukuziphatha kanye nekhodi yobugebengu.
Izimbangela zokuziphatha okungaziphathi kuzo zonke izinkinga "ezinzima," njengomthetho, ziyafana:
- Ukuhlolwa kokuthuthukiswa komzimba. Intsha enamandla nesibindi cishe ayidingi ukuzama ukuthola ukuthembela kwabanye. Abafana ababuthakathaka, abancanyana nabaphansi, ngokuphambene nalokho, bahlale bephoqelelwe ukufakazela ukuthi bayabaluleka kwabanye, futhi bazame ukuphumelela ngezinye izikhathi ngenxa yezenzo ezingabaza kakhulu.
- Ukuvuthwa ngokocansi kuhambisane nokuvama kwamahomoni okuholela ekufutheni okusheshayo, ukuhlukumezeka, ukungalaleli, njll.
- Ukungahambisani kahle ezingeni nasezingeni lokuthuthukiswa komuntu. Ngokuvamile, inkinga yokuziphatha okungaqondakali ukuthi umqondo wokuba umuntu omdala nokuvumela ukuba izingane zihlangabezane nokungaqondi kahle izifiso zakhe kanye nezicelo ezivela kubantu abadala.
Izingane zisabela kabi ngokugxeka abantu abadala. Ukuziphatha kwabo cishe kuhlale kungazinzile futhi kungashintsha kusuka kwimoya evamile embi ukuya esimweni esibucayi.
Ngaphezu kwalokhu okungenhla, ungathola izibonakaliso ezinjalo zokuziphatha okungahambi kahle njengokuhlukunyezwa kwabaselula , izinga eliphansi lokuhlakanipha, isimo sengqondo esibi mayelana nokufunda, izingxabano zomndeni, ukuphunyuka ekhaya, ukungalungile okuncane ezingeni lokuphula umthetho nokulawulwa komthetho, kanye nezinkinga eziyinkimbinkimbi ezibandakanya izinhlawulo zobugebengu.
F. Pataki wagxila ekwenzeni kwakhe iziqondiso eziyinhloko zokuziphatha okungahambi kahle kwentsha:
- ubugebengu;
- ukulutha izidakamizwa;
- ukuphuza utshwala;
- ukuzibulala.
Phakathi kwezinye izinto, namuhla ungakwazi ukuhlangabezana nalezi zindlela eziphambene zokuziphatha zezingane:
- ukusebenzisana;
- kleptomania;
- umdlalo kanye nokulutha komshini kwezingane ;
- ukuxhaswa kokudla (bulimia, i-anorexia);
- ukuphambuka ngokocansi (ukudoba umzimba, i-zoophilia, necrophilia).
Ngokuvamile, ngemva kokuphela kokusheshe, ukuhlupheka kwesikhathi sekuphelile, futhi ukuziphatha kwentsha kuvamile. Uma lokhu kungeke kwenzeke noma ingane ibangela ukukhathazeka kubazali, kulokhu kubalulekile ukuthi usebenze ekwelapheni ukuziphatha okungahambi kahle.
Ukuvimbela ukuziphatha okungapheli kwentsha
Ukwazi izizathu eziyinhloko zokuthi kungani ukuziphatha kwengane kuqala ukuguquka kusuka evamile, ungawavimbela kusengaphambili. Kodwa-ke, abazali kufanele bakhumbule ukuthi ukuvimbela ukuziphatha okuphambene ngokuyinhloko kuthembela emndenini nasekukhulumeni okuncane nengane. Kuyinto izingxabano zomndeni ezivame ukuholela emiphumeleni engenakuqhathaniswa. Uma isikhathi siphuthelwa, ukulungiswa kokuziphatha okuphambene kungenzeka ngezindlela eziningana:
- Ukukwazisa ingane futhi nokwandisa ukufunda nokubhala kwengqondo ngokuqondene nalezi zinkinga ezithintekayo. Idatha yesayense, isipiliyoni sabanye abantu, njll kungasiza lapha.
- Isifaniso semfundo. Indlela elula futhi ephumelelayo kakhulu yokuthola ulimi oluvamile nentsha ukuthi uxhumane naye ngolimi lwamazwibela.
Kubalulekile ukumtshela ukuthi uhlangabezane nezinkinga ezifanayo naye. Lokhu ngeke nje kuthuthukise ukuzethemba, kodwa futhi kuzokhipha kahle isimo - Amakilasi ngezigaba ezahlukene. Uma unike ingane ukuba ibe semidlalo noma iqembu lokudala, ungakwazi ukuqondisa izithakazelo namandla akhe ngendlela efanele.
- Uma izindlela ezizimele zokuthola ulimi oluvamile nengane enzima akunakwenzeka, udinga ukusiza usizo kwengqondo kwengqondo. Ukubonisana kochwepheshe kuzosiza ingane ukuba iqonde futhi ixazulule izingxabano zangaphakathi.