Cishe wonke umuntu empilweni yakhe wabona isimo lapho ekhumbula ingqondo engaqondakali, ngemva kwesikhathi esithile, ngenxa yezizathu ezingaziwa, uqala ukugxila kulo futhi uma ufuna ukuphazamisa kulokhu, uma kuthinta kakhulu umuntu. Uma imicabango ingalungile, khona-ke iguqulwa ibe ukwesaba okukhulu. Ngokuyinhloko, abantu abangama-3% bahlupheka ngenxa yokuthi imicabango yabo ekhukhulayo ikhula ibe yikwesaba.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, abanye abantu bazimele ngokuzimela ngezindlela ezikhethekile ezizosiza ekunciphiseni isimo sabo. Futhi lezi, izinkolelo ezibizwa kanjalo, ziba isidingo kubo, ezingabangela ukuvela kwe-neurosis yezimo eziphoqelekile. Isimo sokuqeda ukwesaba, njengoba umthetho, sikhula kumuntu ozwelayo, okuyinto futhi, efuna kakhulu maqondana nayo. Kukholelwa ukuthi izidingo eziphakeme azenzayo ngokwakhe ziyamgqugquzela, ekubukeni kokuqala kwemicabango ukuthi umbono wakhe ubhekwa njengamabi futhi uyesabisa, ukuqala ukuvimbela.
Ukwesaba ukungafuni komuntu ukungena esimweni esithile esingamlimaza. Ngokuya ngesilinganiso sokumesaba okujwayelekile nokukhathazeka, inhlalakahle yomuntu incike. Kwezinye izimo, lokhu kungaholela ekunciphiseni kwamandla, kwabanye - ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo.
Nasi isibonelo samanye ukwesaba okukhulu, okubizwa nangokuthi phobias:
- Ukwesaba okukhulu kokufa. Izici ezivame ukubangela ukuthi lesi sibibe sincike esigabeni seminyaka lapho umuntu ekhona khona. Ngakho-ke, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi kunezigaba ezine zokubonakaliswa kokwesaba ukufa: phakathi kweminyaka engu-4 kuya ku-6, 10 kuya ku-12, eminyakeni engu-17 kuya kwengu-24 neminyaka engu-35 kuya ku-55. Kuphawulwe ukuthi abantu asebekhulile abahlushwa ukwesaba okukhulu kokufa.
- Ukuzibandakanya. Abantu abangaba ngu-13% bahlupheka ngenxa yokwesaba okukhulu kokumesaba ukukhuluma ngomphakathi. Isizathu salokhu kwesaba ngokuvamile kuvamile ukuzethemba, ukutholakala kwamakhono amancane okuxhumana.
Ungasusa kanjani ukwesaba okukhulu?
- Ngaphambi kwamehlo akho, gcina isithombe sokwesaba kwakho. Yamukela yonke imizwelo,
okuyinto oyothola ngesikhathi ucabanga ngalo. Bheka ukwesaba emehlweni akho. - Yenza umzimba wezemidlalo. Bashisa ngokweqile kwe-adrenaline, ngenxa yokuthi ubuchopho bakho budala ukwesaba okukhulu.
- Zamukele wena nazo zonke izinzuzo zakho nezindleko zakho. Ziqaphele njengento eyodwa. Ungesabi ukubonakaliswa kwakho. Phila ngokuvumelana nokuqonda kwakho bese ukwesaba ngokwabo kuzophela.
Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ukuphila kufushane kakhulu ukuze ungabesabi ngokwakho nazo zonke izinhlobo zemicabango. Jabulela wonke umzuzwana futhi uthuthukise umkhuba wokunethezeka kahle.