Izazi zengqondo zithi izinkinga eziningi zabesifazane banamuhla zibangelwa ukuthi azizithandi ngokwabo. Ukuzihlonipha okuphansi kuholela ekutheni umuntu uzibheka engakufanelekeli impilo enhle. Yingakho kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ungaqala kanjani ukuthanda nokuzihlonipha wena, ukushintsha okungcono futhi uqale ukuhlala kusukela ekuqaleni. Kodwa udinga nje ukuqonda ukuthi awukwazi ukuzenza uthandane. Ungaphumelela impumelelo ngokwamukela ngokwakho noma ukuqala ukulwa nokuhluleka.
Iseluleko sengqondo sokuthi ungaqala kanjani ukuthanda wena
Ukuzibandakanya ekuthuthukiseni ukuzithanda, kubalulekile ukuthi ungadluli futhi ube ngumlobi wezincwadi, obheka abanye abantu ukuthi bangaphansi kwakhe. Ukuzithanda kungumzwelo wemvelo owenza umuzwa wokuvumelana .
Amathiphu wokuthi ungaqala kanjani ukuzithanda:
- Okokuqala, kufanele uyeke ukufuna amaphutha ngaphakathi kwakho futhi uhlanganyele ekuzigxeni. Wonke umuntu unenkinga futhi omunye kumele awalwe, noma amukele khona.
- Ngokuvamile abantu basebenzisa isikhathi sabo samahhala bacabanga ngezinto ezithile ezingathandeki. Lena iphutha elikhulu futhi kudingeka ufunde ngokushesha, ume.
- Zithethelele ngenxa yamaphutha wesikhathi esedlule bese uyiqeda. Hlola isimo, udwebe futhi ungakhumbuli.
- Qinisekisa izinhlangothi zakho ezinhle. Indlela elula ukuwabhala kuqala ephepheni, emva kokuhlaziywa okuphelele. Kubalulekile ukuba ugxile ekufanelekeni kwakho futhi uthuthukise.
- Hlangana nokuzithuthukisa, isibonelo, ufunde izilimi, ukwandise amakhono akho okuqonda, uthole amakhono amasha. Ngenxa yalokhu, kuzokwenzeka ukwandisa amandla ayo, ufike ezindaweni eziphakeme.
- Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi konke okwenzeka empilweni yomuntu kuxhomeke ezenzweni zakhe nasekucabangeni . Thatha ukuphila ngezandla zakho futhi ube nesibopho sezenzo zakho.
Ekuphetheni, ngingathanda ukusho ukuthi izinguquko ekucabangeni yinto eyinkimbinkimbi kodwa efinyelelekayo.