Ngokushesha nje lapho i-crumb iphendulela unyaka ubudala, bonke abantu abazungezile baqala ukuthatha isithakazelo esishisayo, futhi uzokhuluma nini? Iningi lalo mzuzu ojabulisayo abazali abalindele. Futhi-ke, ingane iqala ukubiza amagama akhe okuqala , bese umusho. Kodwa-ke, emva konyaka noma emibili kunomama, umuntu angazwa izikhalazo mayelana nengane ekukhulumeni ngokweqile. Ukhuluma yonke imicabango yakhe, amapulani, ukuphawula ngalokho akubona. Eqinisweni, ukukhulumisana kwengane ngokweqile kunzima kakhulu kokubili abazali nabaziwayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngemuva kwayo kungaba nezinkinga ezinkulu.
Izimbangela zokukhulumisana kwengane
- Ilukuluku . Umcwaningi omncane unesithakazelo kukho konke okwenzekayo nxazonke. Okuthi umuntu omdala awunandaba, ingane ingabangela isithakazelo sangempela, ulwandle lomzwelo futhi, ngokufanele, imibuzo eyizigidi. Abaneminyaka emithathu ubudala abane abanakuphikwa ukuxhumana. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufuna ukuhlala ungathuli kangakanani, awukwazi ukunakwa ukunakekelwa.
- Isibonelo sabadala . Akwenza umqondo ukukhononda ngokuthi unomntwana okhuluma kakhulu okhulayo, uma wena ngokwakho ungahlali njalo, hhayi njalo, ngesikhathi senkulumo. Ingane isibuko sobudlelwane kanye nendlela yokuxhumana emndenini. Ukubuka amahora amaningi omama ekukhulumeni nabangani bakhe, intombazane encane ithatha le ndlela yokuziphatha, ibheka njengokujwayelekile. Futhi othisha bezinkulisa ezikhukhumezekile, abangenakuphikisa ukuxoxa ngezinkinga zokucindezela, ngokuvamile banikeza izingane isibonelo sokukhuluma ngokweqile.
- Ukucabanga okungenasisekelo . Uma ingane ikhuluma okuningi futhi masinyane, akasazi ukuthi angakha kanjani umugqa wengxoxo enenjongo. Ukumemezela amagama ngokuzwakalayo ngokusheshisa kunokuhambisa umqondo ukucacisa okunengqondo, ingane ingenakuzimela ngokuzithandela ithuba lokucabanga kahle. Esikhathini esizayo, lokhu kungahle kuphazamise ukufunda okuhle, ngoba "entabeni" uzonikeza izimpendulo zokuhlaselwa. Yebo, futhi kulindeleke ukuthi inkulumo yomsana wengane izokwazi ukufunda nokubhala, akudingekile.
- Ukungaqondakali . Uma uqinisekile ukuthi ukuxilongwa kulungile, ngakho-ke ngaphandle kosizo lwe-neurologist, isazi sengqondo (ezindaweni ezingavamile, isazi sengqondo) asikwazi ukukwenza.
Indlela yokuthola ukuthula?
- Ungavumeli ingane ikhulume masinyane . Misa ukugeleza kwenkulumo yengane ecela ukukhuluma kancane kancane, ngendlela efushane futhi eveza imicabango yakho ngokucacile. Nokho, ukumemeza nokufuna ukuthula akuyona inketho. Yebo, ingane izothula, kodwa hhayi ngenxa yokuthi yaqaphela ukungapheleli kwenkulumo yakhe, kodwa ngenxa yokwesaba. Ngemva kwesikhashana, lapho umama epholile, uqala ukuxoxa ngaphandle kokuyeka. Umsebenzi wabazali ukutshela ingane ukuthi akuyona indaba yalokho akukhulumayo, kodwa ukuthi kanjani nokuthi uthini.
- Puzzle imidlalo . Ngokuvamile ukudlala nengane emdlalweni, okumele ucabange ngakho konke ukuhamba noma isenzo. "Umbuzo-impendulo", imicu, amapuzzles, ama-charades - isisombululo esihle kakhulu. Buza ingane ukuthi yenze into engabandakanyi ithuba lokukhuluma. Isibonelo, vumela iphephandaba ukuthi ukhethe igama elithile noma isibalo ngombala oyithandayo.
- Izimfihlo nezimfihlo. Izingane zithanda ukugcina abagcini
izinhlobo zezimfihlo ezihlukahlukene. Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi "igcine umlomo wakho uvaliwe" ngokufaka uhlu lwezihloko ezingenakuxoxwa nabangaphandle ohlwini lwezimfihlo. Kungani unogogo emnyango engazi ukuthi ubaba usebenza kuphi nokuthi uthola kangakanani, yenza abazali bakhe baxabane futhi beza ukukubona izolo? Ingane izozizwa njenge-ejenti eyimfihlo, futhi uzongisindisa wena nomndeni wakho kusukela ezingxoxweni.
Uma isimo singashintshi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, futhi ingane iyaqhubeka ingxoxo ngaphandle kokuyeka, zithobe! Lokho kungumlingiswa wakhe. Ihlala kuphela ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu ukusebenzisa i-toffee noma i-candy, okuyinto, ngisho nemaminithi ambalwa, uzongena ekusakazeni kwenkulumo.