Mhlawumbe uhlangane nabantu abaqiniseka ngokuqinile ukuthi umkhiqizo owodwa ungcono kakhulu kunomunye, futhi akukho zimpikiswano noma izimpikiswano ezingase ziqiniseke ngenye indlela. Lokhu kungenzeka ngenxa ye-duckling syndrome - isici sengqondo esivamile kwabanye abantu. Lo mqondo akufanele udideke ne-ugly duckling syndrome. Sizocabangela kokubili okukhethwa kukho.
Isimiso se-duckling
I-duckling syndrome yinto engokomqondo lapho umuntu, ehlangene nendawo entsha, eqala ukuhlukanisa, into engcono kakhulu yinto ebambe ngayo iso lakhe. Isibonelo, umuntu owazama i-Coca-cola yokuqala, hhayi i-Pepsi-Cola, uzoqiniseka ukuthi ukunambitheka kwakhe kungcono kakhulu, futhi ngokufanayo.
Lesi sici sengqondo sabizwa isimiso sezakhi zofuzo ezithakazelisayo zamadada. Uma i-duckling ivela eqanda, into yokuqala ebona ukuthi uqala ukubalwa njengomama wakhe, noma ngabe iyidokodo, ikati noma inja, umuntu. Ngokufanayo, umuntu, ebona okuthile okusha, angakubona lokhu njengendlela engcono kakhulu, engayinaki ulwazi lomgomo. Umphumela we-duckling wenza umuntu abe necala futhi angahambisani nemibono yabanye abantu.
Ugly Duckling Syndrome
Isifo se-Syndrome esibi - lokhu kungenye into. Imelela ukwehlukaniswa kwelungu elilodwa lomndeni kusuka kulo lonke. Ngokuvamile lokhu kwenzeka ezingaphelele noma emindenini engasebenzi, kodwa kukhona okuhlukile. Umuntu osuka ngokungazelelwe engaziwa, ukhula enesizungu futhi engaqondi kahle, ebona ukuthi akahambisani nezilingo zabazali bakhe, ubhekene nalokhu.
Kulesi simo kubalulekile ukuthola ukuxhumana okungokomoya, ukuthola abantu abasondelene nabathembekile, abangene emhlambini wabo. Umuntu akakwazi ukuzwa ukhululekile uma ephenduka ukuba angabikho emphakathini. Njengomthetho, abantu abanjalo badinga ukwesekwa kwengqondo ethile, kodwa abaningi bayabhekana ngaphandle kwalo.