I-Coquetry - iyini futhi ukuthi ungayidlala kanjani nendoda?

Ngokomlando, amandla amakhulu awesifazane obuthakathaka bakhe. Ukumiswa komzimba kwabanika abamele ubulili obufanele ilungelo lokuba nesibindi nokuzimela, bephethe isikhundla esiphambili ngokubambisana namadoda futhi bathuthukise amakhono abo hhayi nje kuphela okuthiwa "izindaba zebesifazane". Kodwa kungani, uma unakho konke lokhu, ukhohlwa ukuthi ungadlala kanjani nomuntu, futhi ulahle izikhali zakudala ezivivinywe nezivivinyelwe? Ubuntombi, ububele, ukudlala - lezi zimfanelo nezinye eziningi zichazwa igama elithi coquetry futhi ngeke lilimaze ngisho nantombazane ekhululekile kakhulu.

Iyini i-coquetry?

I-Coquetry iyindlela engcono yokuphila nesenzo kunomkhuba osungulwe. Ngokuvamile, leli gama lichaza ukuziphatha komuntu (ngokuphindaphindiwe owesifazane), ofuna ukubonisa izimfanelo zakhe ngendlela enenzuzo yakhe, ukuthanda abaxhumanisi. Owesifazane ongu-coquette akafuni ukuxosha amadoda emkhakheni wabo wendabuko, kodwa akaba yindalo engenasisindo futhi engenayo, engakwazi ukwenza noma yini ezindabeni zabesifazane abavamile.

Ukudlala ngothando nokwabelana ngumuphi umehluko?

Phakathi kwamasu ajwayelekile wesifazane ekukhohliseni amadoda ngokuvamile kuvame ukubizwa ngothando. Ukuthandana ngakuphi okuhlukile kokudla? Umehluko oyinhloko wukuthi ukudlala ngothando kuyisithembiso esenzelwe into ethile, ukugqoka kuyindlela yokuphila nokuziphatha, akukho okuthembisayo, ukuhleka nokuhlehlisa lokho okungahle kube khona. Ngokomfanekiso, i-coquetry iyiphunga elimnandi eliyiphunga elimnandi lephunga elimnandi, elikhukhumeza le nkosikazi ngaso sonke isikhathi, ukudlala ngothando kuyindlela ecacile eyenziwe ngenjongo ethile.

I-coquetry inhle noma imbi?

Esikhathini sethu kunezinkolo eziningi, ukuziphatha kanye nokubukwa kwezwe ukuthi impendulo engapheli kulo mbuzo ayikwazi ukunikeza. Uma sicabanga nge-coquetry kusukela ekubukeni kwezimfundiso ezihlakazeka kakhulu, okulandelayo kuyotholakala:

1. Zonke izinkolo zezinzalamizi ezinjengobuSulumane nobuKristu banombono wokuthi ukudlala ngothando kuyisono. EbuKristwini, lesi sikhundla sihlotshaniswa nokuhlukunyezwa kuka-Eva nomqondo wokuziphatheka kwenyama, e-Islam - i-coquetry ingalungiswa kuphela ngokuqondene nomyeni wakhe.
2. Izimiso zokuziphatha komuntu kanye nemibono efanayo aziphiki izinhlobo ezihlukahlukene zokugqoka, uma lokhu kungeke neze kuphule amalungelo nenkululeko yabanye.
3. Emibonweni yesimanje esoteric-kwengqondo kubhekwa njengento efiselekayo futhi edingekile eyenza kahle inhlalakahle yowesifazane futhi inomthelela ekuqiniseni ukuzethemba kwayo.

Indlela yokudlala ngothando nomuntu?

Bonke abantu bahluke kakhulu, futhi kuze kube manje akekho odale ama-technical set of techniques, akazange achaze umyalo wezenzo, okuwumyalo wokudlala ngothando nomfana, kodwa amaphuzu ambalwa abalulekile angabonakala.

1. Izenzo ezidingekayo eziqaphela izingxenye zomzimba ezinjalo njengezintambo nezigqoko. Ayithwali isizinda esinjalo sobulili, njengokubonakaliswa kwezindawo ezingenangqondo ezibukeka njengezifuba nezinkuni futhi kubonisa ukuthi kukhona okunye okuyiqiniso, ububele kanye nokuzivikela. Ungalungisa izinwele zakho, udlale ngesongo noma ubuke i-strap, uphendule ikhanda lakho ngenkathi ingxoxo ... Into eyinhloko ukuthi kungokwemvelo futhi akukhenyi.
2. Ukunyakaza okumnandi okwenziwe kahle, ukungabi nobuciko obubukhali.
3. Ukuba khona kwesitayela sakhe ezembathweni nasekhono lokuthola ibhalansi phakathi kwezingubo ezinesizotha nezishukumisayo, ngaphandle kokushaya ngesikhathi esifanayo ukweqisa.
4. Ikhono lokusekela ingxoxo, inkulumo enhle nenembile , izwi elimnandi.
5. Hlonipha abanye, kungaba ngamadoda noma abesifazane.
6. Ukungenafinyeleleka, ikhono lokulondoloza ibanga futhi ugcine abantu besaba ngaphandle kokuwaxosha.

Indlela yokudlala ngothando nomuntu ngokubhala?

Ukuthandwa kokuthandana nge-intanethi, lapho umhlangano womuntu siqu uvele khona kuphela uma kuphakanyiswa i-interlocutor ukude, kudalwe kanye nezinhlobo ezintsha zokukhohliswa, manje umbuzo wokuthi udlala ngothando kanjani ngokubhala, usebenza kakhulu. Sekuvele kubonakale nezindlela ezibonisiwe.

1. Yiba ngowokuqala, kodwa ngaphandle kokugqamile. Akekho oyobonga i-interlocutor, ekwazi ukubuza imibuzo elula kuphela, kodwa akudingekile futhi ukuqala ngokushesha ukukhuluma ngezinkinga eziyinkimbinkimbi zefilosofi.
2. Yiba nesithakazelo empilweni ye-interlocutor.
3. Ungangeneli, kodwa ungenzi i-interlocutor ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi abe ngu-initiator we-correspondence.
4. Bhala ngaphandle kwamaphutha, zama ukulondoloza isitayela sokukhuluma esihlanganisiwe kuyo yonke imilayezo.
5. Ungalungisi amaphutha we-interlocutor.
6. Ungazami ukuziqhayisa. Ngokuxhumana komuntu siqu, iqiniso lizovuleka.

Ungamisa kanjani ukulingana nomuntu wonke?

Konke kuhle ukulinganisela, futhi ukugqoka kufanele kushiywe eceleni uma kuba yindlela yokuthola ukuphathwa kwamadoda azungezile noma okuvimbela lona wesifazane ngokwakhe ukuba aphile, alahle ubuhlobo bakhe nendoda ehlala njalo. Impendulo eqondile yombuzo othi "ukuyeka ukudlala ngothando" ingakaqalwa kanjani, kodwa lokhu noma kunjalo akusho ukuziphatha okunamandla ngokweqile nokwenqatshwa kwezici zesintu zendabuko. Mhlawumbe kufanele uthole okuzithokozisa okusha, shintsha umjikelezo wokuxhumana noma ucele abangani bakho ukuba balandele indlela yakho yokuxhumana .