Kuvela ukuthi kunezinkinga zokuthuthukiswa kwezingane ezineminyaka engaphansi konyaka owodwa, kanye nekhalenda ekhethekile ekhombisa ukuthi umuntu kufanele alindele ukulimala kwesimo sengqondo. Lezi zikhathi zenza ushintsho olubukhali ekuziphatheni kwengane. Akuwona wonke umuntu owake wezwa ngabo, ngoba inhlekelele ngokuvamile i- 3, 5 ubudala, nabanye, futhi izingane zikhohliwe ngokungenakuphikwa, kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi abanayo izinkinga ezinjalo ezinyangeni eziningana ubudala.
Iyini isimiso senkinga yengane kuze kube yonyaka?
Ngokusho kokubheka kwengqondo kwengane, iminyaka eminingi yokutadisha ukuziphatha kwezinsana, impilo yabo yonke ihlukaniswe ngezikhathi ezikhanyayo nezimnyama. Etafuleni lezinkinga, elele ingane engaphansi kweminyaka yobudala eyodwa, eyayiyenzile, iboniswa ngendlela yamaviki okuphila komntwana okuhamba ngayo. Ngamunye wabo unemibala engathathi hlangothi (umbala omhlophe), noma i-gray - ekuqaleni kwalesi simo esibucayi. Umnyama, kusho ngokuqondile isikhathi esibucayi, kanti ifu elinemvula, ngokusobala, izinyembezi zikamama - lezo zinsuku lapho abazali bekulungele ukukhuphuka odongeni.
Kodwa akuzona zonke izinto ezimbi kakhulu futhi ezingenathemba, ngoba ngaphezu kwezikhathi ezimnyama ezimnyama zibuye zishone, lapho izinyane lijabule, lisebenza futhi lijabulela ukuphila ngomqondo wangempela wezwi. Sekuphelele, kunezinkathi ezingu-7 ezinzima zonyaka kuze kube ku-5, 8, 12, 19, 26, 37 namaviki angu-46. Bahlala ezinsukwini ezimbili kuya kwezinhlanu futhi babe nezici zabo siqu.
Kungani izinkinga zenzeka enganeni engaphansi konyaka owodwa?
Ukubuka ngokucophelela ikhalenda yezinkinga zomntwana kuze kube unyaka, ungabona iphethini ethile - ngezinsuku "ezimnyama" zihlale zikhona zelanga, futhi azikho ezimbalwa zazo, futhi ukuphelelwa ithemba akufanele neze.
Kodwa yingakho lezi zikhathi zesikhathi ezingathandeki ziphakama akucaci ngokuphelele. Kuvela ukuthi babonisa ukuthi umntwana ukhula. Iphuzu ukuthi ngalesi sikhathi kukhona okuthiwa iqhuma ekukhuleni, kodwa hhayi endizeni yemvelo, kodwa engqondweni. Lokhu kufana nengane ishaya amapaneti afanayo phakathi nobusika, bese ikhula kuze kube ngubukhulu obuyi-3 phezu kwehlobo, futhi lokhu akusilo i-trousers, kodwa izifinyezo.
Into efanayo eyenzekayo ne-psyche, okuyinto ezinganeni ezisengozini kakhulu. Lapho nje ingane iqala ukuzibona njengento ehlukile kuMama, inhlekelele yokuqala ivela. Khona-ke uyaqaphela ukuthi unelungelo lemicabango yakhe - futhi lokhu kungokwesibili nokunye.
Akunakwenzeka ukugwema ngokuphelele izinkinga zonyaka wokuqala. Kodwa ukunciphisa ukubonakaliswa kwabo kungaphakathi kwamandla abazali, ikakhulukazi umama, ngoba yilokho ingane ikholelwa kakhulu. Ngezikhathi ezinzima, kubalulekile ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi ngangokunokwenzeka nengane.
Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuxhumana ngokomzimba, ikakhulukazi engxenyeni yokuqala yonyaka. Ngomntwana kudingekile ukukhuluma, ukupompa ezandleni, ubonise ukukhathazeka nokukhathalela. Khona-ke ngeke azizwe ngaleyo ndlela, ngoba ukuzethemba kukaMama kuzothunyelwa kuye kancane kancane.