Ngokudabukisayo, kodwa phakathi kwabantu abaseduze kuvame ukuxabana nokukhalaza. Akufanele sikugcine kuzo, kepha sisombulula impikiswano futhi uxolise.
Kwenzekani, ngijabule futhi ngishisa ukuxabana engikhulume kakhulu. Ungalindi kuze kube yilapho ukuhlambalaza umama kufinyelela emvuthwandaba walo. Kulula nje, lapho izinkanuko zihamba kancane (kungenjalo zingabangela ukuxabana okusha), uthi: "Ngiyaxolisa, mama, ngangiphutha". Noma: "Angijabuli ngokuthi ngikucasule, ngiyaxolisa, angifuni."
Uma ujwayele ukugcina izikhalazo kuwe futhi ungazi ukuthi ungacela kanjani intethelelo evela kumama wakho, ubhalele incwadi noma i-SMS, bese wenza okuthile okuhle kuye. Hlela umangala ongalindelekile, uthenge izimbali, isibonelo.
Ngezinye izikhathi sikhohlisa ngisho nabasondelene nabo, nakuba lokhu, okuyiqiniso, kufanele kugwenywe. Kodwa njengoba kwenzeka, indlela yokuxolisa kumama ngokuqamba amanga - kunele ukuchaza izizathu ezenza lokhu kwenzeke. Ngisho noma isizathu, kubonakala kuwe, ngeke sibonakale sihlonipha, manje akudingekile ukuqamba amanga. Zama ukuchaza imizwelo yakho. Umama uzoqonda, bese yena nomama.
Uma ungazi ukuthi kufanele ucele kanjani intethelelo evela kumama wakho, khumbula lemithetho emibili:
- Ungahambi masinyane emacala ("Kodwa wena ngokwakho unecala lokungilethela kulokhu!")
- Ungavumelani nomama wakho, uma ungavumelani ngempela, lokhu kuzokwenyusa nje ingxabano esikhathini esizayo.
Ngingacela kanjani intethelelo kumama wami oshonile?
Kufanele sikhulekezele, uma sikhuluma ngabantu abakholwayo, faka amakhandlela, ulalele esikhumbuzweni esontweni.
Manje kuzodingeka ukuthi ngikhumbule leli phutha impilo yami yonke, kodwa hhayi ukuzithuka. Ngempela, bonke abantu bayiphutha ... Zama ukuthatha njengesifundo bese ucela intethelelo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Amakholi, ngokuvumelana nemiBhalo, acele ukuthethelelwa yilokho usuku olufanayo lapho kuxabana khona, ngokuqondile ngoba abafuni ukuthatha isono esengeziwe emphefumulweni. Mhlawumbe, futhi awufuni? Buza ukuxolisa ngokushesha, uma nje uqaphela ukuthi awukho kahle. Lokhu kuzosindisa zonke izinkinga ezingadingekile.