Sasivame ukukholelwa ukuthi incazelo yothando ayinakwenzeka ukunikeza. Ngempela, ukuthi sithandana - lokhu akunakwenzeka, ngoba sigxiliwe imizwa eminingi yokuzizwa ukuze sikwazi ukuyiqonda. Kodwa ososayensi abathintekayo, abathintekayo ngalokhu kungaqiniseki, baqala ukudala imibono yothando eminyakeni engamakhulu amabili edlule. Owokuqala kwakunguPlato.
Umbono kaPlato wothando
Umbono wothando lukaPlato usetshenziselwa izingxoxo "Umkhosi". Isisekelo sothando ngoPlato - isifiso sobuhle. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uPlato onengqondo akaphiki ukuthi kukhona uthando - lokhu kokubili ukuthanda ubuhle, nokuqwashisa kwezinga eliphansi.
Wakholelwa ukuthi lokhu kungachazwa ngokuvela kwethu. Imiphefumulo yethu yaletha uthando kubo ezweni elihle, elihle, futhi umuzwa wasemhlabeni awukwazi ukugcwalisa ngokuphelele umdlalo wezothando wasezulwini, ufana nokufana kwawo. Ngakho-ke, ngokusho kukaPlato, uthando luyingozi futhi luhle. Konke okuhle okuthandweni, kunemvelaphi engavamile, yonke into embi.
Lesi sikhundla sikaPlato sivame ukubizwa ngokuthi yi-theory of love free. Ukuze kuvezwe incazelo yegama, kubalulekile ukucaphuna kusukela "emkhosini" wakhe:
"... ekhuphuka ngenxa yezinhle kakhulu ukuya phezulu - kusuka emzimbeni owodwa omuhle kuya kokubili, kusuka kokubili kuya kokubili, bese kusuka emzimbeni amahle ukuya emasikweni amahle ...".
Wayenesiqiniseko sokuthi uma sithanda ngempela, senza ngaphezu kwamandla ethu.
Imfundiso kaFreud
Imfundiso kaSigmund Freud mayelana nothando ngokujwayelekile isekelwe ekuhlangenwe nakho kwasebuntwaneni, okuyinto, nakuba ikhohliwe, ingathinta ukuziphatha kwethu ngazo zonke izindlela. Izingane (izinkumbulo zezingane) - zijulile ebuchosheni bomuntu wonke, kusukela lapho zihola futhi ziholele ekuboniseni okuhlukahlukene.
Okokuqala, u-Freud wadala, ngokusemthethweni, "isichazamazwi" sokufaka izifiso zakuqala zobuntwana nabantu abadala abadala. Okusho ukuthi, wanikeza incazelo nencazelo yemisebenzi yethu eminingi emdala.
UFrud uqala inkolelo yakhe yothando othandweni lwezokwelapha ngeqiniso lokuthi kusukela ebuntwaneni sivinjelwe njalo kulokho esikuthandayo. Ingane eneminyaka engu-2 ithanda ukuthumela izidingo zayo uma ithanda, kodwa ke iphoqeleka ukuba ijwayele ukuyobheka. Ingane eminyakeni engu-4 ithanda ukuphikisana,
Ngakho-ke, ingane iyajwayela lokho uma ifuna ukugcina uthando lomama, abazali bayo, kufanele ilahle lokho akuthandayo. Futhi amandla othonya lalezi zifiso eziphelelwe amandla ezinkumbulweni zezifiso, okungaziwa ngabantu abadala, kuxhomeke ekutheni impilo yomuntu ingcono kangakanani. Ngakho-ke, ezinye zikhula zibe ubuntu obunokuvuthwa kwengqondo, abanye bafuna indlela yokwenza izingane zabo zifise zonke izimpilo zabo.