Intsha ye-maximalism isifo?
Incazelo yencazelo ye "maximalism" ayisho neze ukuthi maximalism yezingane iyisifo. Lesi yisici esivela esihlokweni somuntu osemusha esikhathini esithile sokuthuthukiswa kwakhe siqu.
Ingabe i-psychology yobudala iyaphendula lo mbuzo, nini lesi sikhathi siqala?
Isikhathi lapho intsha iqala ukubonakaliswa yi-maximalism yentsha ayikhulunywe nanoma yisiphi isazi sezengqondo, njengoba iminyaka yokuguquka iqala ngomntwana ngamunye ngabanye. Omunye kwabayishumi nane, omunye oneminyaka eyishumi nesithupha, owesithathu kuya kweshumi nesishiyagalolunye.
Ukubonakaliswa kwe-maximalism yentsha njengenkinga yomndeni
I-maximalism yentsha ibonakala kanjani? Okokuqala, ingane ithathwa ukuhlola izisekelo zomndeni, izimiso zabazali bayo, ukuze zithole amandla. Ngesikhathi esifanayo uqala "ukunikeza iseluleko" kubo bonke abakuzungezile, njengoba ecabanga ukuthi wonke umuntu ozungezile akulungile. Yile indlela maximalism yokuziphatha ibonakala ngayo. Angathatha ngokuphelele noma yikuphi uhlobo. Kungenzeka ukuthi abazali bomntwana osemusha, ngokombono wakhe, abafundi okuningi, bazuze kancane, bachithe isikhathi esincane nomndeni, bangamnaki, noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, bayamkhathaza kakhulu.
Ngomntwana, izinkinga ezikhona emndenini ziqala ukuthatha isilinganiso esabekayo. Kule minyaka yobudala intsha engayithatha nabo "ngezindleko zayo" futhi ikholwe ukuthi yilokho ozosola konke. Lesi simo sinengozi ngenxa yokungatholi amandla okuxazulula isimo emndenini, ingane ingum maximalist, ingangena esimweni sokucindezeleka, ngisho nesimo sokuzibulala. Yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu kule nkathi yentuthuko yokungashiyi ingane yedwa ngezinkinga zakhe, ekholelwa ukuthi leli hulumende lizodlula ngokwalo.
I-maximimalism yentsha kanye neqoqo elilodwa lentsha
Phakathi nalesi sikhathi ingane ingaba yimbangela yokuqoqa kanye nokukhishwa kwayo. Kuncike ekutheni ingane yakho i-extrovert noma i-introvert, ingase iguqule leyo mizwelo emenza ibe nemibono emisha (ukubandakanyeka emidlalweni emisha njalo ngesonto, ukusetha ukuzijabulisa kubangane bakhe, ngaleyo ndlela ibe ngumkhiqizi obalulekile wemibono enkampanini) noma uzihlukanise (ukunikeza imizwa ebucikweni bomuntu ngamunye, okuhlangenwe nakho okuhambisana nendaba). Ayikho indlela "engcono". Abazali abanomntwana ongcolile bafika ekhaya kuphela emva kwamabili phakathi kwamabili "ngomusa" ongafisa ukuba abhale izinkondlo kangcono, futhi abazali bomfundi ohloniphekile, obuso bakhe bengazange bamomothele izinyanga eziyisithupha, bangathanda indodana enomuntu othakazelisayo ... Kodwa-ke, wonke umuntu osemusha uhlangabezana nalesi sikhathi ngendlela yakhe kanye nomsebenzi wabazali kulokhu akukona ukucacisa, hhayi ukuguqula, kodwa ukubuka, kancane kancane uphoqa ingane ngendlela ephakathi.
Ungasiza kanjani ingane ukuba iphile esikhathini esiningi se-maximalism yentsha?
Kodwa ukuthi ungamqhubela kanjani ingane, indlela yokuyiqondisa ukuze ungabi khona ku-maximalist efanayo ne-moralizer, njengokuthanda kwakhe. Okokuqala, yenza ngokungaqondakali futhi "kusukela ekuphambene". Vumela ingane ukuthi ikhululekile ngokuphelele, kodwa izothatha umthwalo wemfanelo ngezenzo zakhe. Kungcono uma ufundisa yona, hhayi umgwaqo.
- Uma ingane yakho "iphuma" futhi engafuni neze ukuhlanganyela empilweni yomndeni, makabe nomuzwa wokuthi angase futhi ahlale ngaphandle kokusekelwa kwakho. Ingabe uyothanda?
- Uma ingane iqiniseka ukuthi ontanga ayifanele ukukhulumisana nabo, musa ukumcindezela ukuba akhulume, kodwa ngokuphambene nalokho
umvimbele kuye. "Uma uthi izingane ezifunda nabo zihlanganyela ezintweni ezinjengokuthi uzisho, ngikuvimbela ukuba uhlangane nazo ngaphandle kwamahora esikoleni." (Ukuphikisana kwangaphakathi kwengane kuleso simo kuzokwenza umfana abuyele enkampanini futhi athole ulimi olufanayo nabangane bakhe.) - Uma, ngokuphambene nalokho, intombazane ingayitholi intshisekelo yontanga, mtshele ukuthi uya emndenini wonke endaweni lapho ngokuqinisekile efuna ukuya khona. Isibonelo, kumabhayisikobho. Kodwa-ke, tshela ukuthi awuhlosi ukuthatha nawe. Futhi ake ingane ingabi nomuzwa wokuthi akazange wenqabe ukukhuluma nawe, futhi wena - ekukhulumeni naye. Mhlawumbe esikhathini esizayo uzolalela kabanzi emazwini akho ongathanda ukuba asebenzise isikhathi esengeziwe nomndeni wakhe.