Ukuthandana njengento engokomqondo - izinhlobo nezinpawu

Ubuchopho bomuntu onempilo buyakwazi ukulahlekelwa imicabango engama-10 000 ngosuku. Kubantu abathandanayo, izimo zokuphila nezenzo zihambisana nomcabango owodwa ophezulu, ngenxa yalokho abakwazi ukushintshela ezinkingeni nezidingo zansuku zonke. Uma bephumelela, khona-ke kuyasebenza futhi okwesikhashana. Ama-fanatics ahlala ekucindezelekeni okuqhubekayo.

Ukuthandana - kuyini?

"Fanaticism" ihunyushwa kusukela kwisiLatini ngokuthi "inhlanhla." Abantu abahlukunyezwa yilesi sifo banokungabaza - bakholelwa emcabangweni noma kumuntu oye wabajabulisa futhi wabahlaba umxhwele, ekhuleka kahle. Ama-Fanatics ahlukile kubantu abavamile ngokuzimisela kwabo ukudela ukuphila kwabo kanye nabanye, ukuphika ukugxekwa, izinkambiso zomphakathi nokuqonda. Abantu abanjalo abaqapheli imiphumela ebhubhisayo yokuziphatha kwabo.

Ukuthandana yisifo sengqondo esingathinta noma iyiphi indawo. Esikhathini sokuhlukaniswa ngamazwe kunezinhlobo eziyisikhombisa zesifo, ezinye zazo zivame ukubonakala emphakathini:

• ezombusazwe;
• impilo;
• i-ideological;
• isayensi;
• inkolo;
• ezemidlalo;
• amasiko.

Izimpawu zokubambisana

Ukucwasana kunezigaba ezimbili - phakathi nobudlova. Izinga elivamile livame ukutholakala futhi libonakalise ukuthi umuntu uncike kumqondo ovelele, kodwa awuyikufika ekungeneni kokungaqondakali futhi akaphoqeleli kwabanye. Isimo esibi kakhulu sokugula kwengqondo kutholakala ukuthi singaphansi kaningi futhi siboniswa ngokuzikhandla okukhulu kwabanye abantu, ukucindezela kubo, kuhlanganise nokuhlushwa nezinye izinhlobo zobudlova ngokomzimba. Izimpawu zalesi sifo zibonakaliswa eziphambene ezilandelayo kusukela ekujwayelekile:

1. Umuntu onomdlandla ukhumbula izenzakalo eziphathelene nesithombe sakhe. Uhlupheka, awela ekucindezelekeni, aze azinikele ngenxa yomshado wesithombe, ukulahlekelwa yilabo abathandayo bebhola lebhola lezinyawo.
2. Umuntu uhamba nento yokukhulekela ekuhambeni, esebenza ekhaya, uthenga izesekeli nezimfanelo ezihambisana nayo.
3. Abantu abathandanayo bahlale bekhuluma "ngomqondo wokulungisa" - ezinye izihloko azibathandi.
4. Izintshisekelo nokuzilibazisa ezavame ukuba injabulo kuya ngemuva.
5. Ama-Fanatic agxeka kakhulu kunoma yikuphi ukuhlaselwa kwalabo abakuzungezile, ngokuphathelene nento noma isihloko sokukhulekela kwakhe.

Ukuthandana kumuntu

Lolu hlobo lwesifo sengqondo luhluke kwabanye ngokuthi umuntu uba yinto yokushushiswa nokukhulekelwa komuntu onothando. Ngokuvamile isisulu sokuziqhenya ngumculi odumile, umculi, umlingisi nomunye umuntu odumile. Ingozi enkulu yombuso onjalo ekuzinzile kwayo - ukusondela kwesithombe, kuyingozi kakhulu ukuziphatha kwabalandeli bakhe. Isiteji samanje sisazi amakhulu amacala lapho abalandeli behlambalaza begqoka izingubo ezigodini, baqhekeza emakhaya abo, baphishekela ukuvakasha.

Ukucwasana kungabonakalisa ngokuqondene nomuntu wobulili obuhlukile. Leli fomu lokukhungatheka livame ukudideka ngothando. Uthando lomfazi kumuntu luchaza ukuhlolwa okucabangelayo kokufaneleka nokudangala komlingani wakhe, futhi umdlandla wokushisekela umqondo uyamnqophisa futhi ulahle, ukhulekela, akaqapheli amaphutha, aqondise noma yimaphi amazwi nezenzo zobunkulunkulu bakhe.

Ukushiseka kwezemidlalo

Umuntu othandana nezemidlalo ngumuntu ovame ukubonakala emphakathini. Ibutho labalandeli bebhola liza kwamanye amadolobha namazwe ukusekela ithimba labo abathandayo. Ukufanisana kuphelile ngokuthula noma ngokulwa, okuyinto abalandeli abaqalayo. Emphakathini wanamuhla, lokhu kuziphatha kubhekwa njengokunyakaza kwezingoma, i- subculture noma ingxenye yomdlalo wezemidlalo. Ukuhlukanisa umculi ovela ku-fan evamile kungaba ngezizathu ezilandelayo:

1. Ukuhlukumeza ubhiya nezinye iziphuzo ezidakayo.
2. Ukudakwa (imithi elula, amaphilisi, amandla).
3. Ukuvunywa ngamazwi nangezenzo ngesikhathi nangemva komncintiswano.

Ukunyaniseka kwezenkolo

Abashisekeli benkolo baqinisa inkolo yabo enkolweni, bephika ukuthi kunezinye izinkolo. Bona kanye nabantu abafana nabo baqhutshwa yisifiso sokubusa phezu kwabeZizwe. Amanani amaqembu abathandanayo aphakanyiselwa ekukhulekeleni - abakholelwa ngokukhohlisayo umholi wenkolo, amlalela ngokungazelelwe futhi alungele ukunikela impilo yakhe, uma kunesidingo.

Ubuzenzisi bamaSulumane nabama-Orthodox buyingozi kakhulu ekufiseni izifiso. Amalungu amasha ehlelo "aphulukisiwe" amasonto angu-2-3, futhi emva kweminyaka engu-4-5 yokuphila ngokusho komthetho womphakathi wenkolo, izinguquko aziphenduleki. Noma iyiphi inkolo ihlanganisa izimfanelo ezifanayo:

1. Unomholi ozibiza ngokuthi unguMesiya.
2. Zilawulwa isimiso sokuxhashaza nefilosofi.
3. Amalungu enkolweni alalela ngokungenakuphikisa imithetho yomphakathi.
4. Ama-fanatics ngokungangabazeki anika impahla nemali ukuze kuzuze umphakathi.

Ungaba kanjani ama-fanatics?

I-psychology of fanaticism ibonisa izizathu ezintathu ezicindezela umuntu ukuba ashintshe.

1. Umona wokuphumelela kwabanye.
2. Ukuzethemba okuphansi.
3. Umuntu odumile oye waphumelela konke futhi ukhanyisa.

I-Psychological of fanaticism yenzelwe ukwakha ukuphelelwa yithemba komuntu lapho ethola isimo esibucayi futhi engaboni indlela yokuphuma kuyo. Ngezikhathi ezinjalo uyangena enkolweni futhi engawaqondanga kahle ngaphansi kwethonya labalandeli behlelo. Bambiza ngolwazi "endleleni efanele", ukuzwela, ukuveza ukuzimisela ukusekela nokukhuluma ngezinkinga abazobhekana nazo manje. Ama-fanatics abalekela ekuqinisweni aye enkolweni, hhayi ngenxa yothando ngoNkulunkulu, kodwa ekuhluphekeni nasekukhathaleleni kwabanye.

Ungasusa kanjani ukushisa?

Ukuthandana njengento yokucabanga kwengqondo kubonakala ngekhulu le-17, lapho uMbhishobhi wamaKatolika efundisa khona lo mqondo ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Ukulahla kahle lesi sifo kungenzeka uma:

1. Umuntu onesibindi uyoqonda ukuthi izitatimende zakhe zingamanga.
2. Funda ukuhlaziya imicabango ecasulayo bese ubheka isimo kusuka kolunye uhlangothi.
3. Izoshintshela kwezinye izenzakalo.
4. Ukwandisa ukuzethemba.
5. Funa usizo ku-psychologist.

Amabhayisikobho mayelana nabashisekayo

Ukuthandana ngothando, inkolo, ezemidlalo kanye nanoma yimuphi umkhakha wezenhlalakahle kuyisibonakaliso sokungazwakali ngokomzwelo, ukucabanga, ukungabi namakhono obuholi, ukusikisela. Mayelana namafilimu amaningi amafilimu adutshulwa - akhuluma ngalokho okungafani nokukholwa okuyimpumputhe nokulandela izithombe, ukukhonza inkolo.

1. "Umfana" noRobert De Niro - umdlalo mayelana nobuhlobo obuyinkimbinkimbi yomdlali wezemidlalo nomdlali wakhe.
2. "Nkosi" ilandisa ngomuntu ohamba ngomkhumbi owathola umsebenzi esiteshini sesithombe ngemuva kwempi. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, isosha langaphambili liwela ngaphansi kwethonya lomholi wenkolo futhi liqala ukushumayela izivumelwano zakhe.
3. "Wafa, uJohn Tucker!" Isiqephu sefilimu sitshela ngesonto esikoleni, ofuna ukuphindisela emantombazaneni akhe amathathu. Akumiswe ukuthi iqiniso lokuhleleka emcimbini wokuqamba intombazane esanda kufika edolobheni.