Umbuzo wokuthi ukuyeka ukuthinta umzimba kuthandwa kanjani. Abantu abasha, bebanxusa intombazane ukuthi ifinyelele ngokushesha, bathi ukuziqeda kuyalimala umzimba. Amantombazane angafuni ukuxhumana nabantu abasha abajwayele ukucabanga ukuthi lokhu kuyadingeka empilweni. Ake sibone, ingabe kuyingozi ukugwema ucansi?
Yini egcwele ukuzithiba kobulili?
Ukuziqeda ukulala ngokobulili, ngokusho komagazini omnyama, kuyinto enyantisayo. Emithonjeni ye-intanethi, ungathola futhi ulwazi oluningi oluthi ukuyeka ukuzibulala luyosongela imiphumela yomzimba nengokwengqondo.
Kukholelwa ukuthi owesifazane ngesikhathi sokuzilahla kufanele ngempela abe nolaka nokugxeka. Abe-sexologists baze bacebise ukushintsha isenzo socansi ngokushaya indlwabu, ukuze bachithe amandla. Amadoda asatshiswa ngokuthi amandla abo angase anciphise ngenxa yokuxhumana okungavamile kocansi (njalo ezinyangeni ezimbalwa). Kodwa-ke, abesifazane basho ukuthi bayotshabalalisa i-libido, okungeyona into engcono. Kodwa ubani odingayo zonke lezi zindaba ezimbi futhi kungani zizwakala kuzo zonke izingalo?
Ukuyeka ukuhlala ocansini isikhathi eside kuvezwa njengento eyingozi kakhulu futhi eyonakalisayo, futhi ukulala ngokocansi (kuze kube yilapho okungahleliwe nokungahleleki), kubonakala sengathi kuyisixazululo kuzo zonke izinkinga. Futhi lokhu akumangazi, ngoba isimo sesimo sabantu kumele sibhekiswe, abantu kumele bande, izwe lidinga ukusebenzisana ngezandla!
Yini ewusizo ekuzigwemeni?
Amandla wesimiso socansi athukuthukiswa kakhulu, futhi imiphumela ngenxa yokungabikho kwayo yenzelwe. Abantu abaningi emva kokuhlukana kobuhlobo bezinyanga eziningana, ngisho neminyaka, bodwa, kodwa impilo yabo ayifuni kulokhu. Futhi uma umuntu engakwazi ukuzilawula, nesidingo sakhe sobulili sikhulu kakhulu - cishe,
Incwadi yombhali owaziwayo waseJalimane, u-August Trout, "Umbuzo wobulili" uhlolisisa zonke izimpikiswano, futhi uchaze ngokucacile isimo sokungaqondakali: umuntu akufanele asebenzise kabi amandla akhe wezobulili uma efuna ukulondoloza iminyaka eminingi. Bobabili ochwepheshe baseNtshonalanga kanye nabahlakaniphi baseMpumalanga bathi into eyodwa: umuntu unamandla okusebenza emvelo, futhi ngokushesha lapho esebenzisa, ngokushesha izinkinga ezisezingeni lezocansi ziqala.
Ukuya ocansini ngokweqile kuholela ekukhatheni nasekunciphiseni amathuba. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuhlolisisa, isinyathelo ngokuhambisana nesifiso sangempela. Ungazivumeli izinkolelo ezingamanga, ungafuni ukungena oxhumana nabo kaningi "empilweni". Kubalulekile ukulalela umzimba wakho futhi uphathe ngokufanele amandla anikezwe wona ngendalo.