Ukungena ebuhlotsheni obuseduze besikhathi esisodwa kuze kube manje kuyindawo evamile. Ubulili ngesinye isikhathi kudingekile phakathi kwamadoda nabesifazane. Futhi isizathu salokhu akunjalo futhi asidingi izincazelo ezikhethekile - sonke singabantu abaphilayo futhi sonke siqhutshwa ukuthanda isifiso, kodwa bambalwa kakhulu abantu abazama ukubhekana nomthwalo wemfanelo futhi ngokuvamile ezimweni ezinjalo, bavula ucansi eyodwa noma kabili.
Ukuthandana ngokocansi ngesikhathi esisodwa kwenzeka kakhulu ngoba abalingani baqonda ukuthi ubuhlobo babo ngeke buxhunywe noma yikuphi, ngakho-ke baya kumuntu onjalo ukuze bazinikezele. Futhi ubulili ngesikhathi kwenzeka lapho omunye wombhangqwana ethemba ukuthi ngaleyo ndlela uzokwazi ukugcina umlingani wakhe noma ukuzondelana naye kakhulu.
Kodwa labo abajwayele ukujwayele kuvame ukuphela ekuseni futhi kunezincazelo eziningana zalokhu:
Ubulili obubi
Ngezinye izikhathi kunento eheha abantu - futhi enemikhuba emihle, futhi ibonakala inhle, futhi ihlakaniphile, kodwa ngokushesha uma ifika ebuhlotsheni obuseduze, khona-ke ukukhanga kwakho njengomlingani wezocansi kuyanyamalala. Ekuqaleni ungavuma ubulili okwesibili, kodwa uma usuphinde ubona isizathu esifanayo.
Uqonda ekugcineni ukuthi lokhu akuyona nje umlingani wakho. Kuyinto engathandeki ukutshela umlingani ukuthi kungani enganelisi. Njengomthetho, ekugcineni uzothi: "Sizokubiza!" Noma into enjengale futhi uthathe umhlalaphansi ngaphandle kokumnika inombolo yakho yefoni. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lokhu kuyisinyathelo esifanele - ingabe kunomqondo ongenalutho ukushayela umuntu kube yizinkathazo.
Akuyona into embi kakhulu ukuqedela ubuhlobo, hhayi ukuyiqala okwamanje, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - ukuqedela ngaphambi kokuthi ungene emangeni.
Izinkinga zabantu
Emva kwengxenye yokuqala emnandi yosuku lwakho, ube nengxoxo enhle, futhi cishe uthandana nomunye nomunye ekuboneni kokuqala, uhambe kahle ku-dessert esemqoka ebizwa ngokuthi "ubulili". Kodwa ngokungazelelwe umlingani wakho unezinhlobo ezithile zezinkinga zomzimba.
Umbuzo lapha uvela kumqondo wesilisa, noma kunalokho ngokuziqhenya kwamadoda. Ngemuva kwalokho, indoda eyakwahluleka ukufakazela yena nomlingani wayo ukuthi uyindoda yangempela embhedeni, ngokuqinisekile iyogwema lowo oye wahlupheka naye.
Umphumela ofanayo kungenzeka uma yonke inqubo isiphelile ngokushesha kakhulu futhi enelisekile, kuphela umuntu oye wahlala, "ukukhohlwa" ngomlingani wakhe.
Omunye ovela kulo mbhangqwana akahambisani nobuhlobo
Ubulili ngesikhathi esisodwa, ngokwesilinganiso, kuthandwa amadoda ayenesaba ukuthatha imithwalo yemfanelo, edingekayo ngobudlelwane bokuthandana, noma ungahle uhlele ukuba nemiboniso ehamba phambili.
Kungenzeka ukuthi umuntu onjalo uzokutshela ukuthi akanayo isikhathi esanele manje sokuthile okubalulekile, ukuthi umatasa ngemisebenzi, njll.
Kodwa-ke, kuyisizathu esiyinqaba, ngoba wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi ngezindlela ezimbalwa zokunqoba ubunzima nezinkinga zokuphila kulula kunokuba umuntu onesizungu.
Kodwa, kufanelekile ukugcizelela ukuthi ukungafuni ukuqala ubuhlobo besikhathi eside esikhathini esithile sokuphila kuyinto evamile futhi yemvelo.
Ubulili ngobungane
Ubulili komunye nomunye kungase kube kuhlelwe, noma ngokuzenzakalelayo. Futhi kungenzeka nakanjani uma unomlingani ocansini ongunaphakade nomunye wabangani bakho.
Isizathu esiyinhloko sokwenzeka kobulili obufana nethonya lomthamo omkhulu utshwala obangela ukukhukhula okungazelelwe, isidingo sokusekela umngane (usizo oluthile) noma isivumelwano esivumelana nabangani ababili, ngenxa yalokho kokubili ukujabulela nokujabulela omunye nomunye ngaphandle kwezibopho.
Sexual Alcoholic
Akusiyo imfihlo ukuthi umthamo ophuza utshwala omuhle ukhubaza ubuchopho futhi ulahle ingqondo. Kunjalo uhlobo lobulili cishe ngokulinganayo kokubili besifazane nabesilisa. Noma kunjalo, ukusabela okukuphela kwalokhu kungahlukahluka.
Njengomthetho, ekuseni emva kwalesi sigameko uzama ukukhohlwa izimo zobusuku obudlule noma nje ungazikhumbuli. Futhi ungakhohlwa ukuthi uma ukhetha ucansi ngesikhathi, khona-ke faka ngokucophelela ukhetho lomlingani, inhlonipho futhi uzithande wena nomzimba wakho, futhi ungakhohlwa ngokuvikeleka ekukhulelwe okungafunwa nama-STD.