Ngumuphi owesifazane ongafuni ukuba ohlukile futhi ohlukile kumuntu wakhe? Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi naye "uyamthanda" umlingani wakhe, ngokoqobo akamvumeli ukuba ahambe futhi ahambe, okuholela emiphumeleni ehluke ngokuphelele nokulahlekelwa umuntu obiza. Indlela yokuba othandekayo futhi oyifunayo ukuba ucabangele kulesi sihloko.
Kufanele uthande futhi uthandeke kanjani indoda?
Okokuqala, uthuthuke ngokwakho izimfanelo zesifazane - ukungenakuzivikela, ubuthakathaka, ubungozi, njll. Ngesikhathi sobuchwepheshe obusha, kuvamile ukulinganisa amadoda nabesifazane abanezimfanelo ezifanayo. Kodwa uma owesifazane engafuni ukuncintisana nomlingani wakhe, futhi ekugcineni alahlekelwe inhlonipho yakhe kanye nesithakazelo njengomuntu olahlekile, kufanele azi ngokuqinisekile ukuthi ungowesifazane wangempela - ukuvikelwa komzimba nokudinga, hhayi ukuphikisana. Ngokufanayo abapristi bathi namuhla, ngokusola ukuthi abesifazane baqala ukudlala i-violin yokuqala emndenini, bephethe indima yomndeni emndenini - umthengisi nomvikeli.
Labo abanesithakazelo sokuthi bayothandwa kanjani futhi bathandeke, kufanele benze konke ukugcina isithakazelo somlingani. Ungakwenza kanjani lokhu? Thola okuzilibazisa, i- hobby . Ungabhalisa kumdanso noma inkambo yangaphandle yezilimi. Akunandaba, into eyinhloko ukuthi kwakukhona into okumele ixoxe ngalo kusihlwa ukuze idle ukudla ngaphezu kombukiso owuthandayo kanye nephupho lakhe lokugcina. Awukwazi ukucwiliswa ngokuphelele ezindabeni kanye nasezimpilweni zamadoda akho, uthathe indima yomama onakekelayo. Kubalulekile ukuthola inhloso yegolide phakathi kokungaziqondi ngokuphelele nokucwiliswa okuphelele empilweni yomngane wakho.
Ungasifisa kanjani othandekayo?
Okokuqala, ukuzihlonipha wena, ngoba isikhathi esisodwa kuphela uma owesifazane evuma ukuthi uyazihlonipha, angakwazi ukuqeda ubuhlobo. Awukwazi ukugijima emva komuntu, umbize futhi umhlambalaze ukuze anakekele. Kulowo wesifazane onjalo, indoda ilahlekelwa isithakazelo masinyane futhi wonke umuntu ofuna ukwazi ukuthi abe ngowona ofisa kakhulu kumuntu othandekayo kufanele akhumbule lokhu. Kuhlale kudingekile ukugcina ubuhlobo obunjalo bokungaphili kahle kanye nemfihlakalo, ukujabulisa umcabango wendoda yakhe, ukuba yinto engavamile futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo esilingayo.
Zibophezele ezithakazelweni zobulili, kodwa zingatholakali. Amadoda athande abesifazane abathokozile, kulula ukukhuphuka, ukuphila okujabulisayo nokujabulisayo. Ukufudumala nokuhlanganisa, bayagwema ohlangothini, ngakho-ke isiboni esivunyiwe sihamba kahle kuze kube izikhathi ezingcono, uma ungafuni ukulahlekelwa othandekayo wakho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukukwazi ukulalela umlingani nokumdumisa, kepha ungadluli.