Ubuhlobo obuseduze sekuyisikhathi eside kithi abaningi besesigaba sento ethiyakala noma enamahloni. Eziningi lapho ungahlangana khona futhi uhlale nezingxoxo, imibuzo nezimpendulo, nokushintshanisa okuhlangenwe nakho. Ukushintshanisa ulwazi olunjalo akuvumela nje kuphela ukuxoxa ngokuphila okubuhlungu noma okuhlukanisa impilo, kodwa futhi kuvumela ukuphendula imibuzo eminingi, ikakhulukazi kulabo abanokuphila okuzoqala ukuqala.
Ukutshela ukuthi ungenzani ngobulili bokuqala, ungangena ekujuleni kobuciko bobulili, iningi lawo ngisho nabathandi abanolwazi abangazange bafunde. Kodwa kulokhu into eyinhloko akuyona ukuyiqeda ngokukhululeka ngokweqile nokuthobeka ngokweqile.
Indlela yokwenza uthando okokuqala?
Okokuqala, kufanele sikhumbule ukuthi ubulili bokuqala kufanele buyenze endaweni ekhululekile, okuholela ekuphumuleni nasekukhululeni. Khetha indawo lapho wena nomngane wakho ozozizwa nikhululekile. Khubaza noma yini engakuphazamisa komunye nomunye, yakha isimo sokusondelana nomculo nokukhanyisa. Ukudla okulula kanye newayini elincane kuzokusiza uzizwe ukukhanya okuncane futhi uqhubekele komunye nomunye.
Zonke izenzo kufanele ngokuyinhloko zihloselwe ukwenza umlingani azizwe ekhululekile futhi ekhululekile. Umfana akufanele agijimise izinto, ake intombazane ingene ngaphakathi kokuzethemba kwayo. Yenza lokho owavame ukukwenza ngaphambili - ukubanga nokukhathazeka, vumela umzimba uzizwe ujabule ngezenzo ezilula futhi ezinomusa. Konke ukunyakaza kufanele kube bushelelezi, ngoba okokuqala kungakhululwa kahle, futhi kunoma kuphi nokuzwa okubuhlungu. Lalela umlingani wakho, ungaxoshe ukugcwaliseka okusheshayo kwezifiso zakho.
Akunakwenzeka ukunikeza incazelo ecacile yendlela yokwenza uthando ngendlela efanele. Isikhathi sokuqala sizobe siyingqayizivele, okukhunjulwa kakhulu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufunda kangakanani isipiliyoni nesinye iseluleko sabanye abantu, uzoba nakho konke ngendlela yakho, ngamunye. Ukuthi ubulili bokuqala bomshado, ukuthi ubulili nomunye umlingani - okokuqala akukho imodeli ehleliwe.