"Ngenxa yokuthi amantombazane angu-10 ngokusho kwezibalo, kunamaqembu angu-9" - yilokho okuhlabelelwa khona ingoma eyodwa edumile. Ukumboza ngokwabo ngaleli qiniso noma nje ukuthandana nezindlebe, abesifazane baqala ubudlelwano namadoda ashadile. Ngokuvamile, inyunyana enjalo iyobhujiswa, ngoba ukuthokoza kubhekwa umnikazi wobunikazi besifazane, unembeza wesinembeza somuntu, nokuthi iqiniso lokuthi ukuxhumana okudingeka kufihlwe akujabulisi. Futhi uma intombazane ingafuni ukuchitha iminyaka yakhe yokuphila ngokulindela ukuvakashelwa futhi "idlala izinhloli", inquma ukuhlukana, ukuthola inkinga, ukukhohlwa indoda eshadile.
Ungakhohlwa kanjani indoda eshadile oyithandayo?
- Okokuqala, qala ukuphila impilo esebenzayo, ukuya eminye imicimbi yezenhlalakahle, ezokuzijabulisa, ngokuqinisekile kulezo zinsuku oye wachitha isikhathi esiningi emakamelweni ehhotela angenawo noma endlini yakho, lapho konke manje kukukhumbuza khona ngaphambili.
- Akukho lutho olulula kunokukhohlwa umthandi oshadile ezandleni zomuntu omusha othakazelisayo. Kodwa ungagijimeli ku-counter yokuqala noma kumjikelezo wezinsuku zobusuku, ngezinye izikhathi ukuphakamisa ukuzethemba futhi ubuyisele umphefumulo esiwudinga kuphela ukudlala ngothando, ukuqaphela ukuthi sifuna futhi siyathandwa.
- Manje kubonakala kuwe ukuthi kunzima kunokuba ukhohlwe indoda eshadile oyithandayo, kodwa ngikholelwe, isikhathi siyodlula futhi uzokhumbula lobu buhlobo ngokumomotheka kancane. Okwamanje, ngenkathi ubuchopho bugcwele uthando futhi awukwazi ukucabanga ngokulinganayo, kubonakala kuwe ukuthi konke kungenzeka ukuthi kuvele ngendlela ehlukile, ukuthi awukho okwanele. Eqinisweni, lokhu akunjalo. Cabanga ukuthi ubani owaphefumulela lo mbono kuwe, owenze iphutha lakho ekuqinisekiseni kwakho, oye wachitha isikhathi esiningi ngaphandle kwemiphumela. Ingabe lo muntu ufanelwe uthando lwakho? Zihlanganise ndawonye! Futhi uma inoveli entsha engeyona inketho yakho, khona-ke thola noma ukhumbule i- hobby yakho endala, okuzilibazisa, ungene empini ekugcineni.
- Abesifazane, naphezu kokuzikhukhumeza kwabo, izidalwa ziyaqondakala, futhi uma ufuna ucabanga ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani ukhohlwe indoda. Ziphefumulele ukuthi ukuba inkosikazi ihlazisa, ukuthi lezo zinsuku zenjabulo azifaneleki isikhathi sokulindela okubuhlungu komhlangano olandelayo.
Zithande wena, xabisa isikhathi sakho, futhi indoda engashadile yamaphupho akho uyobe eseduzane nawe ngokushesha kunalokho ucabanga.