Ukugula othandweni

Uthando lungenye yemizwa emihle kakhulu emhlabeni wethu. Linikeza amaphiko, liphakamisa, ligcwele ukukhanya kwelanga ... Lunikeza impilo, liyakwazi ukuvuselela ngokuthinta okukodwa, ukugcwala nokudla ngaphandle kokudla.

Kodwa kungani ngezinye izikhathi uthando lulimaza? Ubheka kuphi amaqhwa, amehlo abukhuni, ubusuku bokulala?

Uthando olunempilo - eqinisweni, injabulo nesimangaliso, umuntu onothando ugcwele kahle. Futhi ubuhlungu kusukela othandweni uma kusekelwe ekuthandweni kwe-neurotic, ukunganaki, inzondo. Lo mzwa wobuhlungu nokwesaba ukuthi kungenzeka ukulahlekelwa othandekayo. Yingakho ibuhlungu kusuka othandweni. Ochwepheshe ngisho nokuhlukanisa isifo esithile se-psyche, i-obsession ebizwa ngokuthi - i-neurosis yothando. Ngakolunye uhlangothi kufana nothando, kepha ukuthanda ngencazelo yalo yangempela akusebenzi. Umuntu onesizwe esingenabungozi uzwa ikhefu ngaphandle kokuthanda kwakhe, imicabango yakhe igxile kuphela kulowo mzwelo, angaba nomzimba omuhle ngempela. Umuntu onjalo othembekile othandweni angalawulwa ngokweqile yibo abathinteka kuye, noma ngokuphambene nalokho, ulaka kakhulu kuye. Kuncike kubuntu bomuntu ngokwakhe, isimilo sakhe. Ngokuvamile, isimo sokunamathiswa okubuhlungu sikhuphuka ngokumelene nesimo sangaphambili somuntu ngamunye. Uthando olugulayo aluyona into kodwa umlutha, kufana kakhulu nezinye izinhlobo zokulutha. Kulo mhlaba, umuntu uqobo uyaziqhenya, ugula nomunye umuntu, uncike kuye, njengalesi sifo somuthi. Ngokuvamile abantu abanokwethenjelwa okunjalo othandweni bangaba yingozi, ngenxa yokuthi aziqapheli neze. Ukuziphatha kwabo kuvame ukungeneli, futhi izenzo azikholo. Uthando olugulayo lungamandla okubhubhisa, lishaya yonke into endleleni yalo, ngisho nemizwa evelele kakhulu futhi eqotho.

Ungasusa kanjani uthando olugulayo?

Okokuqala, kufanele ugweme ubuphekula ngocingo bomuntu obathandayo, kungcono ubize intombi yakho bese uphazamiseka ekucindezelweni izifiso. Okwesibili, ungenzi izigcawu ezimangalisa, ngikholelwa, awusoze wazikwazi ukubopha umuntu ngokuqinela nokubambisana. Futhi ekugcineni, uthando ngumzwelo omuhle, kodwa ungena ebhizinisini lakho ozithandayo, thatha isikhathi sakho ukusebenza, ukufunda noma ukuzilibazisa, ukwazi ukuthola injabulo hhayi othandweni kuphela.

Ungaphenduli imizwa yethu ekhanyayo ekudakiseni, ngoba kungenjalo isithakazelo, uzwela noma uthando luba yisifo esondla amandla amabi. Ukuphila kwethu kufushane kakhulu, ngakho-ke masigcwalise ngemizwa emihle futhi ekhanyayo.