Wonke owesifazane ufuna ukuthandwa futhi ayingqayizivele. Kodwa-ke, akuwona wonke umuntu omele isigamu esihle angadonsela ukunakwa yindoda ayithandayo. Ukusebenzisa ngobuqili izindlela zobuqili namasu, ungaphumelela ebuhlotsheni bomuntu siqu futhi unqobe inhliziyo yomthandi.
Indlela yokufunda amaqhinga wesifazane?
Abesifazane kusukela ekuzalweni banamandla okudlala ngothando nabesilisa futhi bakhanga. Kodwa-ke, ngezinye izikhathi lamakhono akhona esimweni esibuhlungu. Ukuze uzivuselele kuwe, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi yiziphi izimfihlo zamakhosikazi nobuqili ezikhona futhi zikhuthukise ngokucophelela:
- Yazi ukuthi ungazithoba kanjani . Thola kulezi zimfanelo ezinhle nezakhiwo ozithandayo, futhi mtshele ngazo. Indoda ibaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ihlonishwa futhi iyakwazisa, ngakho uyojabula ngokulalela ukuncoma kwakhe. Noma kunjalo, konke ukuncoma kufanele kube okuqotho futhi kwangempela, ngoba ubuhle bungaphazamisa konke.
- Bonisa ubuthakathaka bakho kanye nesidingo somuntu oqinile . Abamele iqhaza eliqinile lesintu abafani nabesifazane abanamandla kunabo ngokuziphatha noma ngokomzimba. Bathanda ukuba abe mude futhi abahlakaniphile. Ungacela indoda ngomusa omncane noma usizo, okuzomsiza ukuba akhombise izimfanelo zakhe.
- Ukwazi ukulalela . Zama ukukhipha lo muntu ukukhuluma, bese umsekela. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi umuntu uhlala kuphi futhi uphefumula. Bonisa ukuthi awunandaba nezithakazelo zakhe, futhi uyamqonda kahle. I-interlocutor enhle iyinhlupho. Futhi uma umuntu eqaphela ukuthi uyamqonda futhi uthanda ukulalela, uyojabula ukuxhumana nawe.
- Ungabonisi ukuthembela kwakho ngokugcwele kumadoda . Indoda ithanda ukunqoba, ngakho owesifazane kufanele ahlale emele futhi azimele.
- Hlala imfihlakalo . Ungazivuli ngokuphelele futhi utshele zonke izikhathi zokuphila kwakho. Kuwesifazane kufanele ahlale evelele futhi emfihlakalo. It udonsela kuye futhi
kubangela isifiso sokuxhumana. - Ubuqili besifazane ebuhlotsheni bufaka phakathi ikhono lokuba mnene nokukhathalela . Phela, indoda ifuna owesifazane ohlukile kobulili obuhlukile okuwukuthi owesifazane, ubumnene nomusa.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi amaqhinga omama ekusebenzelaneni namadoda angasetshenziswa kuphela uma umuntu ekulungele. Kumele abe nokuhambisana nokuxhumana, aphumule, anikezwe, njll. Uma kungenjalo, lezi zinkinga ezingabonakali zingalimaza noma yikuphi ukuxhumana futhi zivimbele ukuqiniswa kobudlelwane.