Ukuphila kwanoma yikuphi kithi akunakwenzeka ngaphandle kokucindezeleka, ngaphandle kwalokho, ukucindezeleka kuyinto ewusizo kakhulu esiza umzimba ukugqugquzela amandla. Kodwa-ke, emva kokugqugquzela lokho futhi "ukuzigcina ugoba", amandla kanye nezinsiza zihamba phansi, umuzwa wokubhujiswa, ukukhathazeka, ukungaboni kahle ngokomzimba, ukwehla izandla futhi ungafuni ukuhlala. Yebo, ufuna ukuhlala! Umzimba awunawo amandla okuphila, udinga ukuqoqwa futhi.
Ngamanye amazwi, impendulo yombuzo onjalo odumile wendlela yokunqoba ukucindezeleka, ngakithi, iyoba ngumkhandlu wokwenza amandla. Indlela yokwenza ngayo - funda ngezansi!
Ukucindezeleka nokucindezeleka: izakhi zokutakula
Ezemidlalo - siyahamba futhi siphefumula. Uma siphefumula (futhi lapho sisebenza ngokukhululekile), i-oksijeni kanye nezakhi ezengeziwe zifaka ubuchopho, ngenxa yokuthi ngesikhathi sokunyakaza okusebenzayo izitsha zanda, futhi ijubane lokugeleza kwazo zonke izinyathelo ziyasheshisa. Ngamanye amangqamuzana ethu athola amandla, naphezu kokuthi ngenkathi senza imidlalo, siyichitha (khumbula isizukulwane samandla). Ngakho-ke, uma ukhathalela ngempela indlela yokunqoba ukucindezeleka nokucindezeleka, naphezu kokungafuni, ubuvila, ukukhathala nokulahlekelwa amandla, vuka uphinde uhambe, uqaphela ukuthi lokhu kukuhle kuwe.
Ukuthakazelisa - ngokushesha nje lapho i-melancholy iza khona kuyadingeka ukuthi ufunde ukukhuluma. Kulungile! Funda ukuzithokozisa nokuthile okumele ukwenze: thola into oye waphupha ngayo, udle into ongazivumeli nsuku zonke, wenze umuthi womzimba futhi ube novilapha ebhodini. Ngendlela, sizokhumbula ngezinjabulo lapho sifunda indlela yokunqoba ukucindezeleka ngemva kokuhlukanisa.
Ukuhlukaniswa
Kubonakala ukuthi abesifazane banamandla kakhulu futhi bahlatshwa umxhwele ngokuhlukaniswa ngamadoda, ikakhulukazi uma le ndoda ingumyeni wakho, futhi ngisho nangabe ngemuva kokuhlukanisa uhlala nomntwana ezandleni zakho. Engeza amafutha emlilweni:
- Isehlukaniso "esingazelelwe" - uma umqashi wokuhlukanisa engumyeni;
- ukuhlukanisa ngenxa yesinye isifazane.
Ngemuva kwesahlukaniso, abesifazane abaningi bayeke ukuzibuka, bajwayele amadoda, bakholelwa emadodeni futhi besaba ubudlelwane obuseduze. Abesifazane bangena ekucindezelekeni okuphuthumayo, bafinyelele kwengqondo nokuzibulala. Isizathu siwukuthi, lapho sibhekene nesizungu (ngokokuqala ngqa eminyakeni eminingi, noma ngisho okokuqala empilweni), owesifazane wesaba ukuthi akudingekile emhlabeni.
Kodwa empeleni, indlela yokunqoba ukucindezeleka ngemva kokuhlukaniswa akuyona umbuzo ongenalutho futhi ongenalwazi. Khumbula injabulo nento enhle:
- vumela ukukhononda ngomyeni wakho, ukukhalela intombi yakho, ufune ukunakekelwa nokuxhumana;
- Ungazivali phezulu, bheka izindawo ezinabantu abaningi nezihlobo ezintsha;
- qaphela ukuthi maduzane noma kamuva, ngokuqinisekile uzothola inzuzo yokuhlukaniswa, ngoba mhlawumbe isiphetho uye wasindisa othile kangcono kuwe;
- xolela umyeni wakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi wenzani, kuphela ukuze ukwazi ukuqeda okwedlule bese uhlala okwamanje;
- zizinakekele futhi uzithande njengalokhu ungakaze ube khona, ngoba uyakufanelwe;
- Ngikholelwa, kunamadoda amaningi emhlabeni asekulungele ukukuqonda.
Ukucindezeleka ngemva kokubeletha
Wonke owesifazane emva kokubeletha uzizwa ukuthi kukhona okunye okuguquka emzimbeni wakhe futhi. Abanye bakuthola lokhu okunye, abanye bangaphansi. Kodwa-ke, iningi labomama abancane abaza ekhaya kuphela ingane yabo yokuzalwa, ukucindezeleka kokuphuma kwesisu, imbangela yayo kuphela kuma-hormone (futhi ngisho nalokho ocabanga ukuthi kubanda kokubili wena nomntwana, kubangelwa amahomoni). Ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, i-hormone progesterone ikhuphuka ngokushesha, ngemuva kokubeletha, iwa ngokushesha, emva kokuqala kokusebenza kwengane kuya ebelethini lesifuba iqala ukukhula. Konke lokhu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lezi zinqubo zomzimba zizwakala kanjani, kubonakala embonweni wethu wezwe. Amathiphu ambalwa omama abasha ukuthi banqobe ukucindezeleka kokuhamba kwesikhathi:
- ngemuva kokubeletha, uzwa ukungabi nokuxhumana , ngoba ngenkathi uhlezi nomntanakho umhlaba awukwazi ukuyeka, wonke umuntu uphila impilo yakhe - thatha umamukeli wocingo futhi uvumele ukukhuluma nokukhathala;
- hamba - ungahlali ekhaya nokho, kukudabukisa kuphela, ukuhamba kuyasiza kuwe (ngokulahlekelwa isisindo), kanye nengane impilo, futhi uzokwazi "nama-comrades empi" amamama ofanayo "ocindezelayo" njengoba nawe;
- yamukela ukuthi awukwazi ukufunda ukwenza izinto ezintsha eziningi ngosuku olunye, ngakho cela abangani nezihlobo usizo ngaphandle kokuhlazeka;
- bethenga - izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye wena wagqoka hoodies, ngakho manje ufanelwe izibuyekezo eziningana;
- uthethelele umyeni wakhe ukuthi ngeke akwazi ukumbathisa ingane emzamweni wokuqala.