Amantombazane amaningi, ukuze athole indoda ayithandayo, anqume ukusebenzisa imilingo futhi enze isipelingi sothando . Abantu abaningi bamiswa ngengozi ekhona kumaPhakeme aphezulu, okubonakala ekubukeni kwezinkinga eziningi. Konke lokhu kunquma ukubaluleka kwesihloko - kanjani ngaphandle kwemiphumela yokushaya indoda. Ukuze ungesabi ukucabanga, kubalulekile ukuphendukela kumlingo omhlophe usizo, olungenayo imiphumela emibi. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuphoqa othile ukuthi athande umuntu futhi aqhubekele amasiko ahambisana nomuntu ozwa ukuzwelana. Lona umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwemikhuba yomlingo omnyama nomhlophe.
Abesifazane abaningi banesithakazelo sokuthi bangene kanjani indoda eshadile ngaphandle kwemiphumela. Kulesi simo, ulwazi luzodumaza, ngoba umlingo omhlophe awukwazi ukusekela ukubhujiswa komndeni futhi ukuqhuba umkhuba ngaphandle kokukhokha lokho okwenziwe ngeke kusebenze. Okuwukuphela kokukhetha - uma umuntu ngokwakhe efuna ukushiya umndeni futhi ulungele ukushada.
Ungamthinta kanjani umuntu othandekayo esithombeni?
Ukusebenzisa imikhosi yemilingo emhlophe, awukwazi ukwandisa kuphela imizwa yento yokudumisa, kodwa futhi uyikhuthaze ukuba usebenze ngenkuthalo, futhi uvikele ubudlelwano obuvela ezinkingeni ezihlukahlukene. Kubalulekile ukusho ukuthi umlingo ungumsizi kuphela ekufezeni umgomo futhi konke kusezandleni zowesifazane.
Ukukhetha okulula, indlela yokushayela umuntu ekude kuyisiko usebenzisa isithombe sakhe. Kubalulekile ukuthi isithombe sishaqise ngangokunokwenzeka, ngoba sinamandla amaningi. Beka isithombe phambi kwakho bese usimboza ngezandla zakho. Ake ucabange ukuthi amandla nesithando kudlula kanjani kuwe ukuthwebula izithombe. Zama ukuqinisekisa ukuthi isithombe siphezulu kakhulu futhi siyiqiniso. Bese ufunda lawa mazwi:
"Inkosi yangempela, isigqila (igama) ayikwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwesithunzi sakhe, ingilangazelela, isigqila sakho (igama) ngeke silinqobe. Hamba, ukhubeke, kusukela enkundleni yokudabuka. Njengelanga elisezulwini, kanjalo nawe unami, inceku enhle (igama). "
Umkhuba kufanele uphindwe kathathu ngosuku: ekuseni, kwasemini nakusihlwa. Kunconywa ukuthi ufunde isakhiwo kuze kufike umgomo.
Ungamtshela kanjani umuntu ekhaya ngekhandlela?
Ukuze wenze umkhuba, udinga ikhandlela lombala obomvu, ngoba lo mbala uthathwa njengowona oyinhloko kumlingo wokuthanda. Namanje ulungise isithombe sekhethiwe. Thatha iphepha bese ubhala kuyo yonke into ocabanga ngayo ngendoda ekhethiwe, ukuthi kufanele asebenze kanjani, lokho okulindele esikhathini esizayo, njll. Bese uwufake, uwubeke emlilweni obomvu bese uwubamba phezu kwesithombe. Emva kwalokhu, tshela isenzo esinjalo:
"Yini edlula phezu kwekhanda lakhe - iyowela kuye. Njengoba ilangabi livutha ngemuva kwakho - inhliziyo yegqila elishisekayo (igama) izophuma. "
Ukusebenzisa ukubonakala kwesipelingi
Uma unesithakazelo sokuthi uthathe kanjani indoda eshadile, ungasebenzisa lesi siko. Khumbula ukuthi into yokudumisa kufanele ibe yilungele ukushiya umndeni. Kubudlelwane obujabulisayo ukuthatha indoda kunqatshelwe umlingo omhlophe. Kunconywa ukuthi uqale ukuboniswa ngaphambi kokulala, ulele embhedeni. Hlala endaweni ekhululekile bese uzama ukuphumula, kulokhu ukuzindla kuhle. Bese uzama
Uma konke kwenziwa kahle, khona-ke le ndoda iyoba nemicabango ngawe, futhi izobheka ngokuqhubekayo imihlangano. Kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuthi lokhu kuzokwenzeka ngokwemvelo, futhi akekho oyoke acabange mayelana nokusebenzisa umlingo. Konke lokhu kungenxa yokuthi amandla okukhanya ahilelekile, ngoba emlonyeni omnyama konke kungenye indlela.