Kukhona ubudlelwane obunjalo lapho owesifazane ebonakala engeyedwa, unomuntu, kodwa lo muntu njengelanga elibomvu - lizovela, lizolahleka. Futhi akucacile, ukuzicabangela ukhululekile futhi wakhe ubuhlobo obusha, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ulinde le ndoda ukuba inqume futhi yenza ukukhetha okulungile. Uma umuntu engathandi futhi engavumi ukuhamba, ke indlela yokuziphatha kangcono kulesi sihloko.
Kungani indoda ingavumi ukuhamba ibambe?
Lokhu kuziphatha kuvamile kumnikazi kanye ne-egoist engakahle, okwenzela induduzo kanye nokuzikhethela kwakhe, enganaki imizwa yomlingani. Ubuhlobo obunjalo bungase buqale kokubili ngokushesha futhi buguqulwe ngemva kweminyaka embalwa yokuhlala ndawonye, kodwa noma kunjalo kusho ukuthi indoda ayithandi ngempela, kodwa akafuni ukuyeka noma iyiphi inzuzo. Endabeni yomkayo, lokhu kungaba yindlela esekelwe yokuphila, izingane, kanye nesimo senkosikazi - ucansi oluthandekayo. Abaningi bayazibuza ukuthi kungani indoda eshadile ingavumi ukuhamba nenkosikazi yakhe, kodwa nokho konke kulula lapha. Kuyinto elula kakhulu kuye - ekhaya induduzo nokufudumala, ukunakekelwa nokunakekelwa, kodwa engenayo imizwelo ejulile kanye nogqozi, futhi inkosikazi inakho konke, ngakho kungani ulahlekelwa konke lokhu?
Kwenzeka ukuthi indoda ayivumeli ihambe futhi ingasondeli, ngoba engakanqume okwamanje, usacabanga. Ukuhlala emadolobheni ahlukene, kunzima ukwakha ubudlelwane, kodwa emva kwesikhathi esithile, ukuba kulinganise zonke izinzuzo nezindleko, umlingani uhlongoza ukuhlangana ndawonye futhi aphile ndawonye. Uma owesifazane ehlazeka futhi esaba ngesimo esimisiwe esinjalo, kufanele akhulume ngobuqotho nomlingani wakhe futhi athole konke. Kodwa kaningi kunalokho, uyaqonda ngokuzwakalayo ukuthi lokhu kungaholela ekuqhekekeni futhi kukhuthaze, kulindeleke ukuthi lowo muntu athathe umthwalo wemfanelo futhi enze isinqumo. Ingabe kufanelekile ukulinda lokho - kuye kuye, kodwa umkhuba ubonisa ukuthi ubudlelwane obunjalo abuvumi ukuthola ukuqhubeka. Uma owesifazane ekwazi ngokwanele, eqiniseka kuye futhi eqonda lokho akudinga indoda, bese ephula lesi sixhumanisi ngokwakhe, ehamba efuna omunye umlingani.