Intsha iyindlela yokuguqula ekuphileni komuntu. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, ukwakheka kobuntu kwenzeka, ubuhlobo bomuntu siqu kanye nezwe buyena, izimiso zokuphila eziyisisekelo kanye nezinkolelo ezenziwayo. Ukuzihlonipha ngokweqile kwabantwana kungabangela ukunganeliseki ngokwakho, ukungabi nenhlonipho ngokwakho, ukuzama ukuthola ukuhlonishwa kanye nothando ngezindlela ezimbi kakhulu, ngezinye izikhathi eziyingozi. Kulesi sihloko sizokhuluma ngezici zokwakheka kwezingane ezisencane, ukuzilungisa kanjani, ikakhulukazi indlela yokuzihlonipha ngayo intsha.
Ukulungiswa kokuzihlonipha kwentsha
Uma indodana yakho ejabule nenjabulo ivele ivele ngaphakathi kwayo, noma indodakazi eyayivame ukukhutheka nokuzijabulisa, ngokungazelelwe yaqala ukugwema izinkampani, yaxoshwa futhi yazisola, mhlawumbe kungenxa yokungabi nokuzihlonipha kwentsha yokuzethemba. Ukuzihlonipha okuphansi nakho kungabonakaliswa ngenye indlela: ukuhlukumeza ngokweqile, ukuzethemba okukhulu, ukukhwabanisa, isitayela sokugqoka nokuziphatha, njll. Kunoma yikuphi, ukuzethemba okuphansi kuyisithiyo sokuzigcwalisa ngokugcwele komuntu. Izinsana ezinokuzethemba okuphansi zithinteka kakhulu kalula ngamathonya amabi, okusho ukuthi basengozini. Umsebenzi wabazali ukusiza ingane ukuthi ibhekane nezinkinga zengqondo futhi iphile impilo egcwele, ejabulisayo.
Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufuna ukusiza kanjani ingane yakho, ungayidluli. Ukudlulela ngokweqile, ukushisekela ngokweqile nokudumisa okuyishukela ngeke kusize, kodwa ngokuphambene nalokho, kukhulisa isimo. Intsha inomzimba ophansi kakhulu, ngakho-ke akudingekile ukuba uhambe kakhulu. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukulalela izindlela zakho zokugxeka. Zama ukuqinisekisa ukuthi izitatimende ezimbi aziqondiswa ubuntu bentsha, kodwa ngokuziphatha kwakhe, izenzo noma amaphutha, okungukuthi, into engalungiswa. Ungasho ukuthi "Angijabuli nawe", tshela kangcono: "Angijabuli ngesenzo sakho." Awukwazi ukunquma ubuntu bomuntu bese uyibhekisela "kokubi" noma "okuhle", kuye ngokuthi izenzo zakhe nokuziphatha kwakhe.
Ukwandisa ukuzethemba kwabantwana kuyinto engenakwenzeka ngaphandle kwenhlonipho. Uma kunokwenzeka, thintana nengane, ube nesithakazelo embonweni wakhe futhi uhlale ucabangela ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ungayinaki iseluleko somuntu osemusha, ulalele. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza lokhu ezindabeni eziphathelene nengane uqobo. Ngikholelwa, ukungalaleli kwakho iseluleko sakhe futhi ufisa ukulimaza ngokujulile futhi kumcasula ingane yakho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina "imingcele yobumfihlo". Shiya le nsizwa "insimu yomuntu siqu", hhayi nje ngomqondo ongokwenyama kuphela, kodwa nangokomoya. Awukwazi ukulawula ngokuqinile impilo yabantwana bakho - abangani, izinto zokuzilibazisa, ukuhamba ngezinyawo nokuzijabulisa, isitayela sakho kanye nezinkanuko zomculo, izithombe, imidwebo, njll. umntwana unelungelo (futhi kufanele) akhethe ngokwakhe.
Ngakho-ke, sithole izimo ezintathu eziyisisekelo zokwakheka kokuzihlola okwanele:
- Ukugxeka okunamandla kanye nodumo olufanelekile.
- Hlonipha futhi unake.
- Indawo yomuntu siqu.
Amathiphu asebenzayo kubazali
- thanda ingane hhayi ngokuziphatha, ukuhlola noma ukufeza ngobuciko noma emidlalweni, kodwa ukuthi yikuphi;
- Nika ingane ukuthi iqonde ukuthi uyakholelwa kuye futhi ilungele ukuyiqonda futhi imsekele kunoma yisiphi isimo;
- ube nesithakazelo ezinganeni zakho. Yiqiniso, kudingeka wenze lokhu kusukela ekuzalweni komntwana, hhayi lapho efika ebusheni. Ukuguquka okubukhali ekuziphatheni kwabazali - kusukela ekunganakwa okuphelele ekunakekeleni okukhulu kuzobangela ukucasula kwentsha ngaphezu kwentokozo;
- Chaza imigomo yereferensi namalungelo wengane futhi uyigcine ngokucacile;
- thola izithakazelo ezivamile bese uzama ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nomuntu osemusha, kodwa ungaliphoqeleli, kodwa yenzeni ukuze kumnandi wena nomntwana;
- ukwethemba kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu ebuhlotsheni phakathi komndeni. Ingane kufanele ikwazi ukuthi nganoma yiziphi izinkinga nezinkinga angakwazi ukuza kuwe. Intombazane ingesabi ukwesaba kwakho nokuhlambalaza. Kuphela-ke uzoba ngowokuqala ukwazi ngezinkinga zakhe futhi ukwazi ukusiza ngesikhathi.
Uma ubona ukuthi inkinga idlulile kakhulu, futhi ucabanga ukuthi ngeke ukwazi ukubhekana nokwakho, khuluma nengane futhi uxhumane nengcweti yengqondo - ndawonye uzokwazi ukuxazulula noma yikuphi ubunzima.