Kuze kube yamuva, umuntu angacabangela ukuthi anganqoba kanjani inkinga yesilisa yobudala obuphakathi, kanti nokuba khona kwamabonakaliso akhe kwabesifazane bakhetha ukunganakwa. Kodwa namhlanje, ikakhulukazi nomthwalo webhizinisi elikhulu labesifazane, lolu daba luye lwasebenza kakhulu.
Indlela yokunqoba izimpawu zenkinga yokuphila phakathi kwabesifazane?
Inkinga yesilisa iqala cishe eminyakeni engama-40-45, kanti abesifazane kufanele babhekane nakho eminyakeni eyishumi ngaphambili. Umbono womphakathi unecala ngalokhu, ukholelwa ukuthi kuze kube yilapho uneminyaka engama-30 owesifazane kufanele abe yisikhathi sonke: ukubeletha izingane, nokuba kwenzeke kulo msebenzi, futhi enze isidleke esilungele umndeni. Ngakho-ke, lapho kungekho khona ingxenye kulo mkhakha, amantombazane aqala ukuphonsa phansi kwalasha ngokuzindla ngenxa yokuhluleka kwabo.
Ngaphezu kokwesaba ukungafaneli nesithombe esamukeleke ngokujwayelekile senkosikazi ephumelelayo, izimpawu zenkinga yobudala obuphakathi kwabesifazane zihlanganisa:
- ukuzwa ukuthi konke sekusephuzile, ngeke kube khona ukutholakala kanye nezinguquko ezinhle;
- ukuziphendulela ngokweqile ngenxa yezinguquko ezihlobene nesikhathi esiphuthumayo ekubukeni;
- ukuzizwa kungenalutho, ukulahlekelwa amandla, ukungakwazi ukujabulela ukuphila.
Lapho abesifazane beqala inkinga yokuphila, ukuqwashisa ngesimo akufiki ngokushesha. Abanye ukunganakwa kanye nokucindezeleka kwemizwa kubhalwa ukukhathala, okhetha ukungafihli izizathu zangempela. Kodwa uma usuqumile isimo sakho njengenkinga, ke amathiphu alandelayo azokusiza ukuba ubhekane nakho.
- Ukuziqhenya . Inqubo yokuguga emzimbeni ayigodli, ngakho-ke udinga ukuthatha le mzuzu. Kodwa ungakwazi ukulungisa okuningi ngokudla okunempilo , ezemidlalo nokuzinakekela.
- Shintsha amehlo . Ungakwazi ukunqoba izintaba ezintsha kunoma yikuphi ubudala, ngakho uma uyeka ukukhala futhi ucabange ukuthi ungafeza kanjani lokho okufunayo, konke kuzokwenzeka.
- Ungalibali . Kungani ulinde umzuzu ofanele lapho izifiso eziningi zingafinyelelwa ngokushesha?
- Yamukela . Ungaphiki isimo sakho, mhlawumbe uzizwa wena hhayi ngendlela engcono kakhulu, kodwa ungafaki kuso. Lesi sikhathi singasetshenziselwa ukuzisola ngamathuba alahlekile, kodwa ukuhlaziya ukuqhubeka nokubeka imigomo emisha.