Abanye abakuboni noma yini "yokuqhuma" ekuziphatheni kwanoma yini ekhethekile, kodwa kubantu abazungezile bahlale bevutha, amahlazo nokucaciswa kobudlelwane, izingxoxo ezithandweni eziphakeme zidala izinkinga eziningi futhi ziphazamise isimo sengqondo . Uma uqonda ukuthi izici zobunjwa bakho azilimazi hhayi kuphela abanye, kodwa, ngaphezu kwakho konke, uqobo kuwe, cabanga ngokuthi ungaba kanjani obala futhi olinganiselayo.
Ukufunda ukuthula
Ayikho izinkinga ezingenakulinganiswa, uma unqume ukuletha ukuthula nokuvumelana okunye empilweni yakho futhi ungaphenduli kuwo wonke amazwi ngokuqhuma kwemizwelo, thola izeluleko ezingeke zikusize nje ukuthi uqonde ukuthi ungaba ngcono kanjani, kodwa futhi uthole imiphumela yangempela:
- Okokuqala udinga ukuthola ukuthi yini noma ubani obangela ukucasuka kwakho nokuthukuthela kwentukuthelo, bese uhlaziya ukuthi ngabe ukuphendula okubudlova obonisa ukuthi kuyadingeka yini.
- Uma kunokwenzeka, zama ukuhlangana njengokungavamile ngangokunokwenzeka nabantu abakuholayo. Uma lokhu kungenakwenzeka, kodwa ukhathazekile ngokuthi ungaba kanjani nokuzola, uxoxe nabo kuphela ezindabeni ezithile nezinkinga, ungangeni emibhikishweni ende, ungazami ukufakazela ukufaneleka kwakho.
- Yeka ukuchitha izinzwa zakho uma ulindele ukuthutha, futhi sekuphele isikhathi eside, lapho umgcini esitolo kushukunyiswa kancane, futhi kwezinye izimo zansuku zonke, ongeke uthinte. Njengoba ungeke ukwazi ukusheshisa umsebenzi we-cashier, kodwa ufuna ukuqonda indlela yokuzola futhi ungakhathazeki, uphazamise okuthile, ubukeze futhi uqonde lokho ngoba ukhathazekile futhi ungakapheli ukubuka iwashi, ibhasi ngeke lifike ngokushesha - yamukele isimo njengoba kunjalo.
- Ukuze unqabile, thatha inqwaba yokuhlakanipha kwaseShayina yasendulo: "Uma inkinga ixazululwa, akufanelekile, uma kungenakwenzeka ukuyixazulula, ngakho-ke akudingeki ukhathazeke."
- Kodwa kanjani ukuba nomusa nokuzola uma kunezinkanuko eziningi kangaka? Funda ukugqamisa amaqiniso ngokubaluleka, futhi maduzane uzocaca ukuthi izingxenye ezintathu zezinkathazo zakho zingenalutho, akukho lutho olubalulekile olungenalutho noma olungenalo impikiswano enkulu ekuphileni kwakho. Futhi uma kunjalo, ke ungakhathazeki futhi ube nesimo sokukhathazeka.