Ukulahlekelwa othandekayo kuyesabeka. Kubonakala sengathi umnyango usuzovula, futhi uzovela futhi emngceleni, futhi njengoba ehleka njalo, uzoqala ukukutshela okuthile. Isandla ngezinye izikhathi sifinyelela efonini, kodwa inombolo ejwayelekile ayikwazi ukufinyeleleka. Ukungabi nalutho okwakhiwa emphefumulweni, njengenhlaziyi, eyakhishwa esithombeni esisodwa futhi ngeke ivuke endaweni yakhe evamile. Futhi okuwukuphela komcabango wokuthi ukuqhuma njalo ekhanda lakho kungukuthi ungaqhubeki, njalo uma ubuyela efulethini elingenalutho, lapho lingasekho khona? Lesi simo singahlala isikhathi eside futhi sibangele izifo ezihlukahlukene zomphefumulo nomzimba. Kodwa ukuphila ngemva kokufa komyeni wakhe kuyaqhubeka! Udinga nje ukuthatha futhi ubuke umhlaba onamehlo ahlukile.
Ungasinda kanjani ekufeni komyeni wakho othandekayo?
Izinsuku ezimbalwa zokuqala ukuzama ukuzithulisa bese uzama ukuphuma kule stupor akuyona into ezwakalayo. I-psychic ihlelwa ngendlela yokuthi "noma yikuphi ukuvimbela" okubangelwa ukucindezeleka okukhulu. Lokhu kunqanyuliwe kusuka kumbuso wezwe wangaphandle kuyadingeka ukuze umzimba ugcine ingqondo yengqondo. Kodwa umngcwabo nomngcwabo sebephelile, zonke izitifiketi zokufa ziqoqwe, futhi umfelokazi uqala ukucabanga ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuthi angaphila ngemuva kokufa komyeni wakhe. Imithi eyakhelwe ukukhipha ubuhlungu okwesikhashana kancane kancane ibe yingozi, kanti owesifazane olahlekelwa ngumthandi wakhe udinga ukufunda ukuthi angaphinda abuyele yini ekugcineni kwakhe. Ngokujwayelekile lokhu kwenzeka ngenxa yokusekelwa kwabangane nomndeni. Kodwa kwenzeka ukuthi akekho umuntu ozungezile futhi akekho umuntu ongabelana naye ubuhlungu bokulahleka. Indlela yokubhekana nokufa komyeni wakho ngokwakho? Ngenxa yalokhu kuzuzisa ukulalela amanye amathiphu:
- Into esemqoka okudingeka yenziwe ukubekezela okwenzekile. Imvelo yomuntu inemithetho yayo. Abanye abantu bashiya ekuseni, abanye kamuva. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwakunzima kangakanani ukuqaphela ukuthi othandekayo ngeke abe khona, kubalulekile ukuthola amandla futhi uqale nsuku zonke ngamazwi: "Yini engaba, engeke idlule. Umyeni wakhe akakwazi ukubuyela. Kodwa mhlawumbe sizohlangana ngelinye ilanga futhi sibe ndawonye futhi. "
- Ukushona komyeni kuyisizathu sokucabanga ngokuthi ungahlala kanjani "ngokwakho." Kudingekile ukugcwalisa okuthile ngento engeyena eyakhiwe empilweni. Kumele siqonde ukuthi lokhu impilo yakhe yaqedwa, futhi impilo yabo bonke iyaqhubeka. Ukushiya inkumbulo udinga kuphela izinkumbulo ezinhle nezomusa. Futhi nabo kubalulekile nsuku zonke ukujabulela impilo esele ngemva kokuhamba komyeni: izinyoni eziculayo, amaqabunga aqothula emoyeni, incwadi enentshisekelo, njll.
- Embuzweni wokuthi ungaphila kanjani ukufa komyeni, izazi zengqondo zeluleka ukuthi ziphazamiseke yizinsizakalo nezenzo ezinhle. Ungathola abafelokazi abafanayo abasanda kulahlekelwa othandekayo, futhi basize ukuba babuyele emuva ezinyaweni emva kokulahlekelwa. Ungabhala izincwadi kulabo abasinda ekuhluphekeni, basekela abantu abasesibhedlela noma bahlanganyele ekudaleni. Ngamanye amazwi, noma yimuphi umsebenzi kufanele uhlose ukudala, hhayi ukubhubhisa, umuntu onemiqondo ejwayelekile mayelana nokulahlekelwa kwakhe.
- Umthetho oyinhloko emva kokulahlekelwa ngumlingani akufanele ungene ngaphakathi. Ukuba nesizungu kuyasiza uma behlukunyezwa. Namuhla, kunezindawo eziningi lapho ungathola khona abangane abasha, ngokuthula "uphume kubantu" futhi ungesabi ukulahlwa ngaphandle. Ukuba nesipiliyoni somndeni esibalulekile, ungawabelana ngemibhangqwana emisha.
Ukusekela abathandekayo kubaluleke kakhulu kulabo abaye bafunda usizi lokulahlekelwa umuntu othandekayo. Kodwa ngisho ngosizo lwabo, akuwona wonke owesifazane ongasheshe alulame kusuka kulowo ohlangothini. Kwezinye izimo, ukuguqula ekuphileni okusha kuthatha okungenani iminyaka emine. Futhi ngalesi sikhathi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ungama, kodwa okungenani uzame ukuqhubeka ngezinyathelo ezincane.