Kuyinto ejabulisayo njalo ukubhekana ne-interlocutor engqondweni nangokwengqondo, futhi lokhu kusho okokuqala ukuthi ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo yakhe kuqhubeka.
I-Psychology yokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo
Kuze kube neminyaka engama-60 ubudala, amakhono engqondo engabantu awayehli nhlobo, kodwa ukwanda okungafani (kubandakanya uma lokhu kuthuthukiswa kuhlobene nezidingo zomuntu ngamunye). Yiqiniso, ukwehla okusheshayo kulezi zakhono kubonakala ngokushesha nje ngaphambi kokufa komuntu.
Ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo yomuntu ngamunye kuhlale kunqunywa yizici ezifana nalezi:
- imvelo;
- izakhi zofuzo;
- isimo somshado womphakathi, ukwakheka kwayo;
- inkambo yokukhulelwa kumama;
- izici zomuntu siqu zabazali.
Ngakho-ke, uma sibheka ngokuningiliziwe, kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi isici sezemvelo sithonya ingane kakade ezinyangeni eziyisithupha zokuqala zokuphila kwakhe, okokuqala, umthelela omubi wemvelo ubonakala ekungondleki.
Isiqondiso sokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo sinquma ukuthi izakhi zofuzo zikhona. Umqondo onjengokuthi "i-innate intelligence" yenziwa ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa futhi isisekelo sokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo yomuntu.
Ngokuqondene nesimo senhlalakahle yomndeni, ucwaningo lwasosayensi baseFrance luye lwabonisa ukuthi abantwana abazalwa emindenini empofu, kodwa bakhuliswe umndeni onesimo sezenhlalakahle, i-IQ inamaphesenti angu-25 aphezulu kunelabo abakhuliswa abazali.
Ukuba usesibelethweni, umntwana uhlala impilo yakhe, ngakho-ke izinguquko ezibonakalayo zomzimba noma zengqondo emzimbeni wakhe, zithinta ukwakheka kwamakhono okubeletha kwengane.
Izazi zengqondo zithi izinga lobuhlakani liphakeme kulabo bantwana abanabantwana abanesimo sengqondo esihle ekuphileni.
Ukuthuthukiswa kwamakhono okuqonda
Ukuze ukwandise izinga lakho lokuqonda, kufanele uhambisane nemigomo elandelayo:
- Funda okusha, uthuthuke, uphenduke. Bheka umsebenzi omusha, vula. Ukusesha izinto ezintsha kusiza ukuthuthukisa i-dopamine, elungiselela ubuchopho ukufunda.
- Uma usuqaphela umsebenzi omusha, shintsha kwenye into. Uhlala usesimweni sokuthuthukiswa.
- Thuthukisa ukucabanga okudala, ukulahla ukubukwa kwendabuko ezintweni ezithile.
- Funa izindlela ezinzima, inselele ubuchopho bakho. Lokho okuchitha okungenani isikhathi, imizamo yomzimba nengqondo, ngeke kuzuze ubuchopho bakho.
- Hlangana nabantu abasha, nendawo entsha, ngaleyo ndlela uvula amathuba amasha okuthuthukiswa kwakho.