Izimo ezicindezelayo zansuku zonke, ukungabikho kokulala, amavithamini nokukhanya kwelanga kungabangela ukubonakala kwesimo sengqondo esicindezelekile kuwo wonke umuntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uneminyaka engakanani.
Izinhlobo zokucindezeleka kwengqondo
- Uzwela . Ungamangaleli umuntu ngokungabonisi noma imuphi umzwelo. Phela, ukhetho alukakushiywa ukuthi manje empilweni uhlangabezana nokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo. Imvelo yalesi sizwe ifihliwe ebuntwaneni. Kunesigaba sabazali usuku nosuku oluphindaphinda kumntanakho: "Ukhala ngani? Ubani othanda manje? Kungani lezi zemizwa ? ". Ngenxa yalokho, ukungabikho kwemiboniso engokomzwelo kubhekwa njengokujwayelekile.
- Ngaphakathi . Ngokushesha ikhono lokujabulela ukuphila lilahlekile. Lokhu kungabangelwa ukulahlekelwa othandekayo, ukwehluleka ezindabeni ezibalulekile kumuntu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, konke lokhu kuhambisana nesifiso sokufihla ezweni elizungezile, kusuka kuye.
- Psychological . Isimo esicindezelekile, esicindezelekile singaba ubufakazi besaba impilo yakho, ukwesaba ukuthi akukho lutho oluzofezwa empilweni, ukwesaba ukuthi okuhleliwe ngeke kwenzeke.
Ukucindezeleka, ukucindezeleka, isimo esiphelile - indlela yokubhekana nalokhu?
Kukhona njalo indlela yokuphuma. Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuthi usebenze ngokwakho "Mina". Ungalindeli ukuthi lesi sizwe sizohamba ngaphandle kosizo lwabantu. Ngeshwa kungakhula ibe yinto engaphezulu, kuyingozi. Ngakho-ke, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esikhulu u-A. Adler ngaso sonke isikhathi watshela abafundi bakhe: "Uma ufuna ukukhipha isimo esicindezelekile, ukukhathazeka, ukudikibala, udinga ukuzikhumbuza nsuku zonke ukuthi ufuna umuntu ukuba ajabule." Yini eyenza umuzwa wokucindezeleka? Imizwa eqhubekayo ngobuntu bakhe, nalapho umuntu ekhathalela abanye, ibamamatheka, iyamsiza ukuthola ukuthula nokuqeda ukucindezeleka okucindezelayo.