Ukuqhubeka kwakho uhlobo lwamaxabiso. Ubeka ukuthi yini ongayinika umqashi ngemali yakhe. Ukuze "uthengise" izimpahla zakho, kufanele uqaphele ukuthi yini umphathi wakho ozokwazi ukukhokha, nokuthi yini ebheka ukuchitha imali, isikhathi sokusebenza nokuphila.
Lapho kulungiswa kabusha, ngokuvamile, abantu ngobuhlakani baxoxisana ngemibuzo eqinisweni, ngokubhaliswa kwezinsuku, amadigri, izikhundla. Asikho isidingo somqondo omuhle, ikakhulukazi uma unamadiplomas anele kanye nesipiliyoni sokuzizwa uqiniseka kule nsimu. Kodwa-ke, umbuzo wezici ezinobungozi bezinhlamvu ezihle nezingahle. Ungazihlola kanjani: a) ngokuqondile; b) engabonakali ngokweqile; c) kungabonakali ngekhwalithi umqashi, nje engakubekezeli umoya?
Ngokuyinhloko, uhlu lwezimpawu ezingalungile luyadingeka kuphela ekubuyiseni nasekuxoxweni ngokwayo. Kwezinye izigaba zokuphila, ngandlela-thile siyaphatha ukuthi "izimfanelo" zethu ziyabonakala kulabo abaseduze kwethu. Ngakho-ke, sizogxila emkhakheni wokuqashwa.
Formalism
Uma ungaceliwe ukuba ubonise isifingqo mayelana nokushiyeka, ungenzi lokhu. Kufanele uhlathulule izimfanelo ezifanelwe ngokucacile futhi zibe nomthelela ekwenzeni imisebenzi yakho yomsebenzi, futhi uzobuzwa mayelana nokungalungi okukhulunywe ngaye. Ngakho-ke, cabanga ngemithetho yokuchaza izici ezingalungile zengxoxo.
- Uma uthi ungenayo i-cons, uzobonakala ngempela kumuntu ozikhukhumezayo futhi ozikhukhumezayo, futhi futhi akaqotho;
- Uma uthi ukwehluleka kwakho kuwukusebenza ngokweqile, ukuzinikezela ngokweqile, uthando lwesikhathi esengeziwe, umphumela uzoba okufanayo - uyakhohlisa;
- Uzokhuluma ngento ethile yangempela futhi encane, ukwehluleka kwakho kufanele kube "ukuzithoba", kodwa ungaphanga izinga lomsebenzi:
- ukuthembela kukhofi;
- ukubhema;
- ulwazi olubi lwezinhlelo ezithile zekhompyutha (uma ulwazi lwabo lungesona isimo sokuthola umsebenzi);
- umkhuba wokukhohlwa izinto emsebenzini, ushiya amaphepha etafuleni ekupheleni kosuku, ukhohlwa ukuvala ikhompyutha, njll.
Hlola izidingo zomqashi
Kunoma yikuphi, ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukushintsha impendulo mayelana nemikhuba emibi noma emihle yomlingiswa womuntu, zicabange endaweni yabaphathi abafisa futhi ucabange ngokuthi yiziphi izimfanelo isisebenzi esihle okufanele sibe nayo.
Kumelwe ucacise ngokucacile ukuthi yiziphi izici zobuningi ezidingekayo ukuze ufeze umsebenzi owuzingela kakhulu.
Ngakho, uhlangabezana nalolu hlu lwezimfanelo? Uma uthola okuvamile kuwe, futhi ohlwini olufingqiwe lwamafantasti, zizwe ukhululekile ukubhala phansi lezi zimfanelo jikelele ekubuyiseni kwakho. Uma ungenakho, nikeza umqashi okuthile okungaphezulu:
- uma kungekho msebenzi noma amakhono, bhala ukuthi uqeqeshiwe kalula;
- uma kungekho izimfanelo ezanele, bhala ukuthi uphupha ukusebenza kule nkampani, ngoba ...;
- uma ufuna "ukubamba" isibopho esingenalutho kubantu abaphilayo, bhala ukuthi unethuba lokusebenza isikhathi esengeziwe.
Ngabe izici ezingalungile akuzona yini isithiyo?
Ngesinye isikhathi izici ezingalungile zomuntu zingenza ngokuphambene nalokho ziveze kahle phambi kobuholi obukhona. Isibonelo, kubonakala ukuthi ezinye iziphambeko emlingeni zifaka isandla ebuholweni eqenjini, futhi ngokujwayelekile, ukufaka izicelo ezikhundleni zobuholi, kungaba kuhle ukuzithola.
Izici ezimbi zomholi:
- i-narcissism;
- ukulinganisa ngokweqile kwezenzakalo;
- isimo sengqondo esibucayi kubantu;
- ukugcina ngokuqinile imithetho.
Lezi zimfanelo ngesilinganiso esilinganiselwe zingasiza ezikhundleni zobuholi. Isibonelo, ngokuvamile ku-narcissous zengxabano ku-hurray kunengxoxo, kepha uma kudlulisa umugqa, ubudlelwane obumbene ngeke kube obumnandi kakhulu. Futhi uthando lokugcina imithethonqubo luyoba impikiswano enhle kakhulu, uma ufaka isicelo sokuba nesimiso emkhakheni wezomthetho kanye nokuphendula, kodwa ekusimeni okubaluleke kakhulu, akunakufanelekile.