Indlela eyinhloko yokuziqhenya komuntu yizinto ezingokomoya nezingokwenyama. Kusukela ekuzalweni kwengane, izisekelo zekusasa lakhe ziqala ukwakha. Umkhathi emndenini, isimo esizungezile, konke lokhu kuthinta ngqo ekubunjweni kwamagugu .
Nsuku zonke izici ezibonakalayo ekuphileni ziba ezibaluleke kakhulu, zicindezela imizwelo, imizwa nokuhlangenwe nakho ngemuva. Imvelo ngezinye izikhathi ayifuni ukukhetha, ngoba wonke umuntu uzama ukubuka "njengesithombe," ngenkathi ehlala endlini enhle futhi ene-akhawunti yasebhange. Ekuphishekeleni lezi zinzuzo, umuntu ukhohlwa ngokuphelele ngento ebaluleke kakhulu ngokuba enhliziyweni nasemphefumulweni. Ukungatholi ukuvumelanisa ukufeza injabulo akunakwenzeka, ngoba kunezigidi zezibonelo zabantu abaphumelelayo, kodwa abangajabuli.
Indlela yokufinyelela ubumbano?
Ukuthola isethi ephelele yezinto ezibonakalayo nezindinganiso ezingokomoya udinga ukunquma ukuthi yikuphi okubaluleke kakhulu kuwe, nokuthi yini engadingekile empilweni.
Ezingqondweni, kukhona ukuzivocavoca okulula okuzosiza ukubeka izindinganiso ezingokwenyama zomuntu futhi zicacise ngokucacile izinkinga zokuziqhenya. Kuye udinga ukuthatha iphepha bese uphendula ngokuthembeka imibuzo enjalo:
- Cabanga ukuthi impilo izophazanyiswa emva kweminyaka engu-15. Cabanga ngalokho ofuna ukukwenza ngalesi sikhathi? Yini ongathanda ukuyithola ngemuva kosuku lokuphela?
- Manje ukunciphisa isikhathi seminyaka emihlanu. Yikuphi okusha ongathanda ukukwenza, futhi ungabeka ukwenzani?
- Isikhathi esincane sokuphila unyaka owodwa kuphela. Kungcono kangakanani ukukuphila? Yini okufanele ushiye ngemuva?
- Okudabukisayo kakhulu. Awusasekho. Yini ebhaliwe esigabeni se-obituary yakho? Ungubani?
Manje funda ngokucophelela lokho okubhalile bese udweba iziphetho ezifanele.
Umehluko phakathi kwezinto ezingokomoya nezinto ezibonakalayo
Imizwelo nemizwa ayinciphisi ngokulingana nenani labantu abanabo, ngokungafani nezinto ezibonakalayo. Izindinganiso ezingokomoya azifani nezinto ezibonakalayo ngokuthi azidabuki lapho zitholwa, kodwa ziyingxenye yomhlaba wangaphakathi womuntu, ngaleyo ndlela iyamcebisa.