Sonke kusukela ebuntwaneni silungiselela ukuthi uma sikhula, sizoba nomndeni, indlu - indebe egcwele, ohlakaniphileyo, izingane ezilalelayo kanye nomqondo wenjabulo engenamkhawulo. Kodwa ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi isikhathi sihamba, intombazane ikhula, futhi ... akukho okwenzekayo. Futhi njengomuntu, imvelo ayizange icasuke, futhi ubuso buhle, kodwa abukho ukuphila komuntu siqu futhi yilokho. Futhi nakuba abanye beshada ngempumelelo, abanye bayazibuza ngokuzikhandla: "Kungani nginesizungu?". Futhi kungani ngempela? Ake sifinyelele phansi kule nkinga.
Kungani umuntu ezwa enesizungu?
Esikhathini sethu somsindo futhi esisheshayo, isizungu asisamangazi noma ubani. Ukusebenza emadolobheni amakhulu kudinga umsebenzi omkhulu ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, futhi ngisho nesikhathi sibulala kakhulu. Icala lobudala lapho, emva komsebenzi wosuku olukhuni, umuntu ubuyela efulethini elingenalutho, lapho kungekho muntu olindele khona. Futhi isikhathi namandla okuthola ubuhlobo noma ukuhlangana nabangani kusuka kuningi kuphela ngezimpelasonto.
Lesi esinye sezizathu zokuthi kungani amantombazane enesizungu. Lokhu kubonakala ikakhulukazi emadolobheni amakhulu. Ngesikhathi sosuku lomgwaqo, kukhona abangani, abangane, izithuthi zokuthutha, isizungu asitholakali kakhulu. Kodwa ngokushesha nje kusihlwa, abantu behlakazeka emakhaya abo, kukhona umuzwa wokungabi nalutho nokungabi nalutho. Ngesizathu esifanayo, ama-nightclub akhiwa lapho umuntu angakwazi ukukhipha le nzwa. Kodwa-ke, i-intanethi kanye nefoni kuyathandwa kakhulu manje, lapho abantu bezama ukubalekela lo mzwelo ocindezelayo. Izakhamuzi eziningi zengqondo ziye zaqaphela ukuthi ukukhulumisana okuqondile kuyithuluzi lokuvimbela elihle ngokumelene nokucindezeleka kanye nokuphazamiseka kwemizwa. Ngempela, ngokoqobo, isizungu singento nje yokwehluleka kolwazi kanye nekhono lokushintshanisa nokulihlanganyela.
Kodwa-ke, ngisho noxhumana nabo abaningana, amantombazane amaningi aqhubeka ebuza: "Kungani ngizizwa ngedwa?" Futhi izizathu lapha zijulile kakhulu kunokukhulumisana kwabantu.
Kungani abesifazane benesizungu?
Abesifazane abanesizungu nabahle - lokhu kuyinkinga yeklasi, engatholakala namuhla. Futhi ngokwabo abazilahli ubuhlobo. Awukwazi ukuhlangabezana ngisho nomuntu oyedwa. Ukufuna abajwayelene nabo, amantombazane nabesifazane banamuhla basebenzisa amawebhusayithi akhethekile, babuze abangani ukuba bazise noma bahlele umhlangano, vakashela izindawo lapho kunethuba lokuhlangana nomuntu omusha. Kodwa, njengoba umthetho, lokhu kungenzeka kuphela ezimweni ezikude. Ngakho kungani amantombazane amahle enesizungu? Iphuzu lapha alikho ekubukeni, kodwa engxenyeni yangaphakathi.
Njengoba sesivele sithole, isizungu singenalo ukubonakala nokuxhumana. Uma ungafuni ukuzibuza umbuzo: "Kungani ngingedwa?", Zama ukuziqonda wena futhi uqonde ukuthi yikuphi uhlobo lokubona nokuzwela okusobala. Noma mhlawumbe uvele uzitholela izidingo zakho wena nabanye? Ake sithi abaningi abaziqondi futhi bavame ukubuza amadoda ngokwabo ukuthi kungani amantombazane enhle ayedwa. Futhi abantu abajwayele ukujwayela nabangane bokuqala abazi ukuthi zihlephi? Ngakho-ke, akuzona zonke izinto ezinhle kakhulu, uma ungakwazi ukuthola umlingani womphefumulo. Futhi udinga kuphela ukuzibeka icala. Okokuqala, ukuze kuqedwe le nkinga kubalulekile ukuziqonda wena. Ngakho-ke, ake sibheke ukuthi kungani amantombazane ayedwa futhi azama ukulungisa:
- Uziqonda kanjani wena. Uma uvakashelwe umcabango wokuthi awuyena ohlakaniphile kangaka, hhayi omuhle kakhulu, awuphumelelanga kakhulu futhi awufanelekile uthando, lokhu akungabazeki ukuthi kuthinta imibono yabanye ngawe. Ungahlanganyeli ekutheni u-flagellation uqobo. Ukukuthanda, okokuqala, zithande futhi uqiniseke.
- Ungalindi. Iphutha elivamile kakhulu lamantombazane angashadile ukuthi bahlezi ekhaya futhi banciphise umjikelezo wokukhulumisana balindele ukuthi le nkathi izobapha yona. Ngokuvamile iya kubantu, wenze abantu abajwayele ukuxhumana nabo bese uhola ukuphila okusebenzayo. Kuphela uzokwazi ukuphawula nokuwazisa.
- Esinye isizathu esivamile sokuthi kunabesifazane abaningi abangashadile emhlabeni wonke umuzwa wokungazethembi kubantu besilisa. Amantombazane amaningi athambekele ekusola abantu, ngoba impilo yabo ayifaki. Kukholelwa kakhulu ukuthi bonke abantu bayalingana, abafanelanga uthando futhi ngokuqinisekile bayomkhaphela, bayeke, njll. Akumangazi ukuthi ngalombono ngaphambili, akukho lutho olwenzekayo. Ukubandisa ngokweqile nokunganaki kungaphazamisa lowo muntu ozojabula naye. Uma ubona kuphela lawo madoda angakuhambisani nawe, cabanga ngesimo sakho sengqondo kubesilisa besilisa sonke.
- Yazisa futhi uhloniphe inkululeko. Uma ubuhlobo bakho nomuntu bukhula nje, khumbula ukuthi ngaphezu kokuphila komuntu siqu, umuntu ngamunye unentshisekelo yakhe kanye nezokuzilibazisa. Ukuhlambalaza okungenasisekelo, umhawu kanye nokufaka izicelo akukuthembisi lutho oluhle. Ungadingi kumuntu onakekele njalo, futhi uyokukhokhela inzalo enkulu.
- Bheka isholide segolide. Ungalandeli amadoda amaningana. Khetha okuwukuphela kwakhe okufanele uqale ubuhlobo naye. Kulokhu, ungakhulumi kakhulu ngokuhluleka kwakho okudlule othandweni, futhi ngisho nangaphezulu ukuze amehlo akhombise imizwelo ekuqondeni komuntu wangaphambili.
- Hlala ngokwakho. Amantombazane amaningi azama ukubukeka njengezintombi zabo eziphumelelayo nezizijabulisa. Lokhu ukulingisa, futhi, ngeke kuholele emphumela omuhle. Yazisa lokho onakho futhi ukhumbule ukuthi bazokuthanda ngokuzikhethela kwakho.