Kuyini ukwesaba okuwusizo?

Njengoba uyazi, ukwesaba kuyisimo sesiginci sengqondo, sithi kukhona ndawo kwakukhona ingozi. Njengazo zonke imizwelo yabantu, ukwesaba kunomthelela omuhle emzimbeni wethu. Kuyiqiniso, kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuthi kuhlanganisa ukwesaba okunempilo nokuphilisa. Uhlobo lokugcina olwenzile kabi ekuthuthukiseni komuntu siqu, futhi izimpande zalo zingadlulela ekucabangeni. Kuzizwa uzizwa lapho kungekho ingozi encane kakhulu ekugcineni. Kubonakala ngesimo sezinkathazo ezingenangqondo, iziboniso, ukubonakaliswa komzimba akukhishwa. Ake sibuyele efonini lokuqala: ukwesaba okunempilo futhi sithole lokho okuwusizo.

Izinzuzo Zokwesaba

Kuke kwenzeke kuwe ukuthi ngomzuzwana owodwa waqaphela ukuqina kwamanye okwesaba kwakho? Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukwesaba okunjalo kukusiza ukuba ubheke ngendlela efanayo, lo mzwelo ufihla izifiso zakho zangempela emva kwakho. Ngakho-ke, uma usenenkinga yokuphila, okungahambisane nokuphazamiseka kokulala, izimo ezicindezelayo njalo, okubaluleke kakhulu, ukwesaba okuthile noma othile, kufanele uzibuze umbuzo. Zibuze ukuthi kungani ukwesaba. Ungabi namahloni okuzivuma. Mhlawumbe uyakuvimbela ukuba ube umuntu onjalo, kumgomo abawuphikisayo kusukela ebuntwaneni. Mhlawumbe ukwesaba ukwanelisa izidingo zakho zangempela, ngenxa yalokho, udala izinkinga ezingadingekile ngokwakho, uzibophezele.

Ukwesaba kuyimzwelo ebaluleke kakhulu echaphazela imizwa yakho kubathandekayo, ngoba ingabathuthukisa noma ngokuphambene nalokho, vula ubuhlobo bomuntu phansi. Eziningi izizathu isizathu ukuthi imingcele ngaphakathi ubuntu bakho. Zadalwa nguwe. Ngenxa yalokho, inzuzo yesibili yokwesaba ukuthi kuyasiza ukuqeda lokhu imikhawulo. Ngaphambi kokuba uqaphele lesi samuva, vuma ukuthi wesaba okuthile, wamukele lesi simo. Ukwesaba, njengekamelo elingashiseli isibani esisodwa sokukhanya. Ukwamukela kwakho kufana nekhandlela elikhanyisiwe, okusiza ukubona okufihlekile emnyama.

Futhi, ukwesaba ngumsizi oqotho ekuxhumaniseni amandla omuntu uma kwenzeka isimo esibucayi, esiyingozi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngenxa yakhe ukhumbula kangcono izenzakalo ezingathandeki futhi okwesibili ngeke uthole izandla ezimanzi endaweni.

Zuza kanye nokulimala kokwesaba

Uma ungakwazi ukwengeza ekusizeni futhi ukuthi lapho ukwesaba kwakho zonke izinzwa zithuthukisiwe, futhi lokhu kukuvumela ukuthi ubone ingozi ngaphambili, uhlu lwengozi yalo kufanele lubandakanye:

• ukuvela kwama-phobias;
• Ukwesaba okungaxazululwa kuphazamisa impilo yomuntu;
• ukwesaba kungabhubhisa umuntu.