Ngingakhulelwa emathuneni?

Empeleni, noma yimuphi owesifazane angabhekana nenkinga yokunquma ukuthi ngabe ukhulelwe emathuneni. Ngempela, lokhu kuyinkinga ebaluleke kakhulu futhi evuthayo. Iningi lamadolobha asekhaya livame ukuthi iqiniso lokuthi umama ozayo akasoze "exhumana" nomuntu oshonile. Kodwa kukhona olunye uhlangothi lwengqinamba: ungakhombisa umuntu endleleni yokugcina, kodwa akudingeki ukuba uhlanganyele kunoma yimiphi imicimbi noma uya ebhokisini.

Izici zengqondo zenkinga yokuthi kungenzeka yini abesifazane abakhulelwe ukuba bavakashele amathuna

Ngamunye wethu unomkhawulo wakhe siqu wokumelana nokucindezeleka, imizwelo nemizwelo. Uhlobo oluthile lwabafelokazi abalindelekile alulahleki nanoma yisiphi isikhathi becabanga ukuthi owesifazane okhulelwe angaya emathuneni noma cha. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lokhu kungavamile kangakanani, kubaningi, ithuba lokuya endaweni yokungcwaba lomuntu othandekayo kusho ukukhishwa kwengqondo, ukupholisa nokuthula okukhulu.

Izinto eziningi ezihlukene, uma isifiso sokuvakashela ethuneni noma ukuya kumngcwabo, kodwa ukwesaba zonke lezi zenzo kanye nokulimala kwengane kukhona. Inselele, yebo, inkulu kakhulu, futhi ukhetho kufanele lwenziwe ngokuthanda ingane yakho. Kodwa-ke, uma kungenakwenzeka ukuvakashela amathuna owesifazane okhulelwe kuzoholela ekuzisoleni okuqinile nokucindezeleka okukhulu kwengqondo-ngokomzwelo, khona-ke akufanele kuthonywe ubandlululo.

Ngisho nezinceku zesonto zikholelwa ukuthi abesifazane abakhulelwe emathuneni bangahamba, futhi ukuhlala "esimweni esithakazelisayo" neze-contraindication ukuba kungenzeka ukuvakashela izindawo zokungcwaba, ukudla kwasekungcwabeni kanye nemikhuba yomngcwabo. Baphinde baphike ukuthi kukhona okuthiwa amandla amabi, okuthiwa angalimaza ingane. Konke lokhu akuyona into engaphezu kwezimpawu zomzimba ezinomthelela futhi osolayo owasakaza umbono wokuthi ingane esesiswini ayikho ingelosi yakhe yokulondoloza. Ngakho-ke, kubhekwa ukuthi ukukhulelwa kanye namathuna kungumqondo ongahambisani ngokuphelele.

Yiziphi ezinye izindlela ezikhona?

Uma izinkolelo ukuthi abesifazane abakhulelwe abavunyelwe emangcwabeni, namanje banqobile, khona-ke kukhona kungenzeka "ngokungabikho" ukukhuluma noma ukuxhumana nomuntu oshonile. Ungakwenza lokhu ngokwengqondo ngokuvakashela isonto nokubeka ikhandlela ngomphefumulo wakhe. Akufanele uhlushwa ukuzisola, unesizathu esihle esanele. Eqinisweni, imingcwabo kanye nezikhumbuzo zithwele umthwalo ongokomzwelo omkhulu, ongeke ukwazi ukusekelwa yilowo nalowo wesifazane. Okhulelwe ungaya emathuneni okungenani ukuze unikeze ukusekela okufanelekayo kwezihlobo nabangane bomuntu oshonile, khombisa inhlonipho nokuhlonipha inkumbulo.

Ingabe kuyingozi ukuhamba ukhulelwe emangcwabeni?

Uma usenqume ukuya emngcwabeni noma engcwabeni lomuntu othandekayo, ngeke kube yinto engafanele ukugcoba impumu nge-oxolin amafutha. Phela, inani elikhulu labantu lingaba umthombo wokutheleleka ngezifo ezihlukahlukene zokuphefumula, okwesifazane akudingeki.

Futhi, uhlangothi olungalungile lwenkinga yokuthi kungenzeka yini ukuya emathuneni ukhulelwe, kuyithuba langempela lokuphuma kwesisu . Konke okuhlangenwe nakho okuvelele kakhulu nokucindezeleka. Ukukhathazeka okwedlulele kunamandla okubangela ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa yezinzwa zomzimba (ithoni) , eqala ukuvumelanisa nokulahla isithelo ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Xhumana nodokotela wakho ngokuthatha imithi efanelekayo yokudambisa ukugwema imiphumela eyingozi yalokho inhlanganisela njengokungcwaba nokukhulelwa.

Akudingekile ukuthi useshe isinqumo sombuzo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abesifazane abakhulelwe emathuneni, kumaforamu ahlukahlukene kanye namabhulogi ahambayo. Lokhu kufanele kube yisinqumo sakho kuphela.