Ngingakhulelwa yini ukushaya indlwabu?

Kusukela ebusheni, abantwana banesithakazelo ezindabeni ezihlobene nobulili. Bakhathazekile ngezinguquko emzimbeni wabo, izici zobuhlobo phakathi kobulili kanye namazwana amaningi okusondelana. Kukholelwa ukuthi ukwaneliseka ngokuyinhloko kubangelwa abafana, kodwa ngokuvamile amantombazane azama ukugqugquzela izitho zabo zobulili, ezama ukuzijabulisa. Abantu abaningi babuza ukuthi bangakhulelwa yini ukushaya indlwabu. Kodwa ukukhulelwa kuyabethusa bonke abasha, ngakho-ke kudingeka uqonde ngokucophelela.

Okudingekayo ukukhulelwe

Kumele kuqondwe ukuthi izidingo ezithile kumele zihlangatshelelwe ukukhulelwa . Ngeke kwenzeke ngaphandle kweqanda kanye nesidoda, ngakho ngeke kwenzeke ukuthi ukhulelwe ngaphandle kokubamba iqhaza komuntu (ngaphandle kwamacala wokuqothulwa okufakelwayo). Ngakho impendulo yombuzo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukuthi ukhulelwe kusuka ekuziphatheni kwakho siqu, iyoba yinto engalungile.

Kumele kucatshangwe ukuthi ekukhulelweni kwesidoda kufanele kube segwini, futhi bobabili abalingani kumele bavuthwe ngokocansi. Okungukuthi, isibonelo, intombazane mayelana nokukwazi ukukhulelwa izothi ukufika komjikelezo. Kodwa ngisho nalokhu, ukukhulelwa akunakwenzeka nsuku zonke, ngoba lokhu kunezinsuku ezihle (ukuvuthwa) , kuyilapho kwabanye umsuka wokuphila kunzima kakhulu.

Kuziphi izimo ngokushaya indlwabu ongakhulelwa?

Abanye abasha bakulungele ukukhathazeka ngezikhathi zonke, kuyilapho abanye bengathathi izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, kufanele kugxile ekutheni ngezinye izikhathi impendulo yombuzo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukuthi ukhulelwe ngesikhathi sokushaya indlwabu, ingaba yinto enhle. Cabanga ngalezi zimo:

• le ntombazana iyazilimaza ngeminwe yakhe, lapho kunezinsalela zesilisa;
• umfana uvuselela izitho zobulili zomlingani, ngenkathi ejaculate ezandleni zakhe;
• i-caresses yenziwe ngosizo lwento okukhona isilwane.

Amathuba okukhulelwa ezimweni ezinjalo ayinaki, kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi kumelwe sikhohlwe ngakho futhi singanaki imithetho yokuhlanzeka. Lawo mantombazane akhathazekile ngokuthi angakhulelwa yini emva kokushaya indlwabu, kudingeka uqonde ukuthi lokhu akunakwenzeka uma ungeke ukwazi ukuthola isidoda esithombeni somzimba. Ngakho ukuzikholisa akukwazi ukuholela ekubeni umama.

Amantombazane akufanele abe namahloni ukubuza imibuzo enombuzo kunomama wabo, ongakwazi, ekufinyeleleni, agcizelele amaphuzu athakazelisayo. Phela, imfundo yezocansi nayo iyadingeka, njengokuthuthukiswa ngokomzimba noma kwengqondo.