Ukuqala kwenkathi yenkathi yenkathi yobusha kuyinto evivinya kakhulu emndenini wonke. Abazali bayamangala ngokuthi ingane yabo ethandekayo futhi elalelayo ihambe kuphi, kanti ingane yangozolo, igcwele iziphepho ze-hormonal, iba yinto enobungqingili, ingabonakali kahle, ilaka futhi inomsindo. Ukuguquka kwemizwelo kuba abangane bakhe njalo, kunzima kakhulu ukukhulumisana nabanye.
Kodwa ubunzima bokukhulumisana akuyona into ebaluleke kunazo zonke, okubi nakakhulu uma osemusha ecindezelekile. Futhi kuyadingeka ukuhlukanisa ukucindezeleka okuvela enhliziyweni nje. Iyakwazi ukugeleza kufomu lomtholampilo futhi ithinte kakhulu isimo, impilo kanye nokuphila komuntu: intsha enesimo esicindezelekile ijwayele ukuvela kwezifo ezingelapheki, kanye nokubheja, ukuphuza ngokweqile nokuziphatha okuphazamisayo kuze kube sekuzimele .
Ukucindezeleka kwentsha kuhluke kakhulu kumuntu omdala, ngakho kungaba nzima kwabanye ukuyiqonda futhi, ngenxa yalokho, banikeze usizo lwasemntwaneni. Isibonakaliso esiyinhloko sokucindezeleka kubantu abadala, njengombuso, ukunganakwa kanye nomqondo wokungakhathaleli izwe elibazungezile. Izinsana, ngokuphambene nalokho, zivame ukhathazekile futhi zithukuthele, okuyinkimbinkimbi enkulu ekutholeni ukuxilongwa.
Izimpawu zokucindezeleka ezinganeni
- ukudabuka, ukucindezeleka;
- umuzwa wesizungu nokungaqondi kahle;
- ukucasuka kuhlangene nentukuthelo - futhi ukusabela okunjalo akufanele ngokwanele izenzakalo ezenzekayo futhi zanda ukwanda;
- ukungabi nomphakathi, ukuzihlukanisa ngokuzikhethela, ukwenqaba ukuxhumana nabanye;
- ukungabi nesithakazelo - okokuqala ukwenza imisebenzi yansuku zonke, ke - ukuzijabulisa nokuphila ngokujwayelekile;
- ukukhathala okuqhubekayo;
- izinhlungu ezingekho emthethweni;
- ukuphazamiseka kokulala nokudla;
- ukunakwa okuphazamisekile, ukungakwazi ukugxila kunoma yini.
Indlela yokubhekana nokucindezeleka kwabaselula?
Ukucindezeleka Yiqiniso, uma ungabibizi kabi, ikakhulukazi, ukukhathala kanye nokuzizwa kabi, lokhu ukuhlolisiswa kwangempela kwemitholampilo nokuphuma kuyo ngokwakho akunakwenzeka ngaso sonke isikhathi, ikakhulukazi uma uhudula futhi uthatha amafomu aqinile. Into yokuqala intombazane edinga ukucindezeleka kuyisizo sabazali, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi baphikisana kanjani futhi abaphikanga leli qiniso.
Amathiphu ambalwa okukusiza ukuthi uthole ukuxhumana futhi unikeze usizo olufika ngesikhathi kumntanakho ocindezelekile:
- Nikeza ukusekelwa kwentengo - ake ingane ikwazi ukuthi uhlala ulungele ukusiza nokulalela. Kodwa ungafaki futhi ungabuzi imibuzo eminingi - intsha iphika ngokukhululekile ukulawula kanye ne-hyperope.
- Yikhathazeke ngezwe ngokuthakazelisayo, kodwa ngokuqhubekayo. Bonisa ukukhathazeka kwakho mayelana nesimo somntwana nokuzimisela ukusiza nokusekela esimweni esinzima. Gwema izahlulelo, ukuhlolwa, kanye nokuziphatha kahle kanye nokugcina izinto - ingane ngeke ixhumane futhi izongena ngokwengeziwe.
- Thatha yonke imizwelo kanye nesimo somntwana ngokungathí sina - ungamhleki futhi usibize ubuwula bokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe. Khumbula ukuthi umuntu omdala ubonakala engumfana omncane, ngoba intombazane ingaba ingozi yangempela.
- Qinisekisa ingane isidingo sokubonisana nochwepheshe. Ukucindezeleka okudinga isikhathi eside kudinga i-psychotherapy, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ukulungiswa kwezokwelapha. Mhlawumbe, izifundo zeqembu namalungu omndeni zingadingeka, udinga ukulungele lokhu.
- Ngenkathi yokwelashwa, yiba nesineke futhi ube nesiguli, fikela emgodini, zama ukuthola ulwazi oluningi ngalokhu okwenzekayo kanye nokwelashwa kwalo.
- Zama ukusiza ingane ukuba ishintshe imvelo kanye nokuhlukanisa imisebenzi - khuthaza ezemidlalo, ukuzijabulisa okusebenzayo, ezihlukahlukene zokuzilibazisa.