Ngokwezibalo, kusukela ku-1 kuya ku-2% wabantu bakha ubuhlobo (kokubili ubungane nokuthanda), ukuxhaphaza umlingani wabo. Ngokuvamile, izinto zokuxhaphaza azikho ngisho nokusola ukuthi zingaphansi komnqopho womunye umuntu futhi zenza ngokuvumelana nezifiso zakhe, zikhohlwa zona, mayelana nezithakazelo nezidingo zabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngisho nangemva kwekhefu, into yokuxhaphaza ayizizwa ikhululekile. Kunalokho, ngokuphambene nalokho, abantu abanjalo bathandana kakhulu nomlingani wabo kanye nezinyanga eziningi ngisho neminyaka bazizwa benothando olukhulu lomuntu obaphatha kabi.
Ingozi yobuhlobo obusekelwe ekusebenziseni ukuhlukumeza ukuthi omunye wabalingani uphoqeleka ukuba acabange ukuthi nguye ozobhekana nezinkinga ezivela enkonzweni yokuxhumana. Uzizwa engathandeki kakhulu, ezwa imizwelo emibi, kodwa akaqageli izimbangela zangempela zalokho okwenzekayo. Kulesi sihloko, sibhala izibonakaliso zomhlaba jikelele zokuziphatha okukhohlisayo, esithemba ukuthi kuzokusiza ukuthi ubone izitayela ezimbi ngesikhathi sokuqala kobudlelwane, kanye namasu okuvikela ukuvimbela isipiliyoni esidabukisayo. Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi labo abangabonakali ukulawulwa kwengqondo bangakwazi ngokungazi ukuthi bathathe amaqhinga okuxhaphaza. Lapha kuyoba ngokuqondile ngomthelela wokuqonda kwengqondo, lapho isihloko, njengemidlalo yamakhadi e-classic, senza ngamabomu isu elifanele.
Enye yezindlela ezijwayelekile ezisetshenziselwa abasebenzisa abantu ukufaka ulwazi ngokufaka esikhundleni noma ukuhlanekezela kolwazi: "Konke kuhambanga kahle ...", "Ingabe usengqondweni yakho?". Umshayeli wesikhombisi uphika amaqiniso akhulunywa ngumlingani wakhe, ngaleyo ndlela ephoqa omunye ukuba azibuze yena, empilweni yakhe yengqondo, uphazamisa isithombe salokho okwenzekayo. Ukuze umelane nale fomu yokulawula kwengqondo, kubalulekile ukugcina idayari nokuchaza ngokuningiliziwe zonke izenzakalo ezenzekayo. Kunconywa ukuba uxoxe ngalokho okwenzekayo nezihlobo noma isazi sengqondo.
Ngoba umlawuli wezinkampani uyingxenye yokuphika icala labo. Akalokothi avume ukuthi wayephutha. Abantu abanjalo bayokuphikisa nganoma yikuphi ukungaziphathi kahle ukuze baphonse umthwalo wemfanelo. Isibonelo, ozakwabo osebenza nabo bazozibuza umkhiqizo wakho uma izinkomba zabo zihlala ziphansi. Ukuze ungaphathi isikhathi sakho, sincoma ukuthi singangeni ukungqubuzana nabantu abanjalo.
Esimweni sokuxhaphazwa ngezigaba, indaba ngokuvamile ivame ukunyusa imizwelo yakhe. Inhloso yalokhu kuziphatha ukuveza omunye ekukhanyeni okubi, ukumenza abe nomuzwa wokuthi ungumuntu omubi. Isibonelo, esimweni lapho uzama ukucacisa ukuthi awuthandi okuthile, ukusabela kuka-provocateur kungenzeka ukuthi: "Ngakho, ngingumuntu omubi. Ngakho ucabanga? ". Ngokuvamile amazwi anjalo angabonakaliswa ifomu elanele, ukuze angabi nento yokuxhaphaza ithuba lokwenza noma yikuphi ukuphawula kumgqugquzeli.
Khumbula ukuthi kulula kakhulu ukuqondisa umuntu ngentando yakhe, encike ngokugcwele kumlingani wakho. Ngakho-ke, enye yemisebenzi eyinhloko yabantu abanjalo ukulawula isikhathi, imvelo kanye nemizwelo yomuntu owenziwe. Kancane kancane, le ndaba izogcizelela ukunaka kwakho kuye kuphela, ikubeke ngaphansi kwesimiso sakhe sesikhathi, zama ukuqiniseka ukuthi uhamba nomndeni noma abangane abaseduze. Izenzo zakho zokuzilibazisa, okwakuninikeza injabulo yangaphambili kuzokungabaza. Ekugcineni, uzothatha isikhathi njengoba umphathi wezinto ezifunayo. Futhi, uzokubuza ukuthi yini ekunika injabulo nemizwelo emihle futhi uhlanganyele nokuzilibazisa komuntu ophethe i-manipulator.
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo, nakuba kungakabonakali ukubonakaliswa kwangaphandle, kungathinta impilo yakho. Kulula kakhulu ukukhomba ubudlelwane obubi lapho kusongelwa isimo esiqondile. Ziqaphele wena, imizwa yakho kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho. Ukwazi amasu ayisisekelo okucasula nokulawula, kuzokusiza ukuthi uthole abantu abathembekile futhi ubavimbele ukungena empilweni yakho.