Uma sicabanga ukuthi esikhathini sethu inkinga yobungqingili iba yinkinga yezinga leplanethi, kukhona abalandeli bobudlelwane bobulili bendabuko kuphela, futhi lokhu kuhilela ukuthi kuvele into enjalo njengenkulumo-ze yokuzonda abantu.
Ukuziqhenya komuntu kuyisimo esivusa amadlingozi esetshenziswa abantu besilisa nabangqingili ngendlela yokumangalela labo bantu abasekela ukuziphatha kanye nemigomo yemindeni yendabuko. ERussia, umthetho wokuba nokuzonda abantu ukhuluma ngonyaka ka-1706 ukwethulwa kukaPetru I we-athikili yobugebengu obungqingili, nakuba ngisho no-Ivan The Terrible, ama-boyars athungatha cishe u-tsar owabonisa izifiso ezingajwayelekile.
Ngo-1972, ukuhlukumezeka kwabantu kwachazwa ngokuthi ukwesaba ukuxhumana nabantu abangeyona yendabuko, futhi uma sikhuluma ngobungqingili ngokwayo, lokho kusho ukuthi bayesaba ngokwabo. Kubantu abanjalo, ukuhlukumezeka kwabantu kungaba yinkinga yangaphakathi uma ilahlekelwa ukulawulwa ukwesaba kobulili obufanayo kanye nemifanekiso abayibangela. Ukulahlekelwa kokulawulwa okunjalo kwenzeka kusukela ngesikhathi sokungabaza ngendlela evamile yokuqondisa kwayo, lapha kukhula, izithombe ziqala ukuhlasela umdali wayo.
Izimbangela zokuzibulala
Ukuhlukaniswa kwamanye amazwe okugula kwengqondo akubheki njengobungqingili isifo. Izingane ezikhuliswe ngemibhangqwana engqingili engqingili zingabalingqingili ngaphezu kwezingane ezikhuliswa emindenini yendabuko. Ubungqingili abudingi amalungelo, amalungelo ezombusazwe akhethekile nezinzuzo. Kuphi ukuhlala kwabantu abahlala ekhaya?
Izibalo zibonisa ukuthi isikhundla sabantu abaningi asithathi hlangothi futhi abantu abangamaphesenti angu-20 kuphela abonisa isimo sengqondo sokuzicwaba. Kulokhu, izindawo ezilandelayo zihlukaniswa:
- isikhundla esibekezelayo esiqaphela ukufaneleka kwengqondo, ezenhlalakahle nezokuziphatha nokulingana kwabamele abathintekayo bendabuko;
- isimo sengqondo esiqhubekayo sokucwaswa kwabantu, lapho isimo sengqondo sabantombazane besifazane nabangqingili sitholakala, njengokungeneli noma ngisho nokusongela umphakathi (badinga ukuvinjelwa kwamalungelo abo, ukwelashwa noma ukushushiswa kobugebengu);
- isikhundla sokungathathi hlangothi, okungukuthi, ukungabi khona kwanoma iyiphi inzalo kule nkinga noma ukungathandi ukuveza umbono wakhe;
- isikhundla sokuhlangana, okungukuthi, isikhundla esihluka kuye kuye kolwazi lwamanje, isimo sakho somzwelo nesimo.
- iqembu elikhethekile limelelwa abantu abagcina isimo se-quo, okungukuthi, labo abaneliseke kakhulu ngesimo esivele sikhona (ukungabikho kokucindezelwa nokungabandlululwa).
Izivivinyo zokuzithengela abantu zibonisa ukuthi zingavuleka futhi zifihliwe. Ukufihla kubonakala ukuthi umuntu uyalahla ubuhlobo bobulili obunjalo, ubabheka njengokuphambuka, kodwa ngeke abonise ukunganeliseki noma ukuthatha noma yiziphi izenzo ezisebenzayo. Kodwa, ngeshwa, kukhona nabashisekayo abangenqikazi ukusho ukuthi ubungqingili kufanele babhujiswe,
Indlela yokuqeda ukuzithiba kwabantu?
Lahla ukuqothulwa komuntu umuntu kuphela lapho engadingi ukuvikelwa okuyinkimbinkimbi. Ngaphandle kwe-psychoanalysis lapha kuyadingeka. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi kumuntu ngamunye ngabanye abantu abahlukumezekile bayindawo yokuzijabulisa, okuyiyo yonke into, kodwa kuphela uma engakhohlwa isimiso sokuthi inkululeko yokugula yakhe kufanele iphele lapho kuqala khona inkululeko yomunye umuntu.