Umuntu angakhuluma ngokukhipha isisu ngangokunokwenzeka, mayelana nokulimala empilweni, mayelana nengozi nemiphumela engenzeka, kanye nemizwa engokomoya kanye nemizwa yecala nokuzisola, nokuzisola okungenzeka ngalokho okwenziwe. Kodwa-ke, isimo sihlukile, futhi njengoba izibalo zokukhipha isisu kubonisa, abesifazane abaningi bayaziqhenya ngokuqedwa kokukhulelwa ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene.
Abaningi babo bangamantombazane amancane abhekana nenkinga enjalo ngenxa yokungakwazi, futhi ukuzalwa kwengane kuyinkinga kakhulu kubo. Ngezinye izikhathi owesifazane akakwazi ukunquma ukubeletha ngenxa yokugula, isibonelo iziguli eziphilayo, ukukhulelwa kungaba yingozi kakhulu. Noma isimo esinzima sezimali senza owesifazane akhiphe injabulo yokuba ngumama.
Ngeshwa, kunezizathu eziningi ezinjalo, futhi ukulahla imibono kanye nezitatimende ngamantombazane akhiphe isisu ahlale ecacile, ngoba, ngokungangabazeki, lesi sinqumo asilula, futhi sibeka itshe elisindayo emphefumulweni wakho impilo yakho yonke. Uma sicabangela ukukhipha isisu kunombono wenkolo, lokhu kuyindlela engamukeleki, isono esikhulu esidinga ukuphenduka.
Indlela yokuxolela isono sokukhipha isisu?
Ngokungangabazeki, kumuntu okholwayo isenzo esingenakuqhathaniswa nesono sokukhipha isisu asidluli ngaphandle kokulandelela. Emva kwesenzo, wonke owesifazane uzwa umuzwa wecala, ukudikibala nokuzisola, umthandazo kuphela emva kokukhipha isisu kuzosiza ukuwaqeda. Ngokusho kweSonto Lobu-Orthodox, umthandazo wesifazane oye wakhipha isisu ngeke usize nje ukuqeda umthwalo oweqile wobugebengu, kodwa futhi usize umphefumulo wengane engakazalwa ukuthola ukuthula ezulwini.
Indlela yokucela ukukhipha isisu ngokufanele, tshela ngokuningiliziwe izikhonzi zesonto. Kucatshangwa ukuthi bobabili abazali kufanele bathule ngesono sabo, uma bezinikezwe ngemvume kayise.
Uma ingane engakazalwa ilahlekile, owesifazane oye wakhipha isisu kufanele afunde umthandazo okhethekile ekuseni nakusihlwa, kanye nokukhulelwa nokukhulelwa okubandayo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthandaza kulabo abaye baphoxiswa ngaphansi kwezimo ezithile noma ngokungazi kahle esemncane, futhi manje uhlela ukukhulelwa nokubeletha. Ukuthethelelwa kwesenzo esiphelele kuceliwe kuMsindisi, iNdodanakazi Ebusisiwe, uJohane uMbhapathizi, nakwabangcwele, ogama lakhe liboshwe owesifazane. Izibonelo ezimbalwa zemithandazo emva kokukhipha isisu okunganciphisa ukuhlupheka nokuthola ukuthula kwengqondo:
- Nkosi, yiba nomusa kubantwana bami, abafele esiswini sami, ngenxa yokholo nezinyembezi zami, ngenxa yesihe sakho, Nkosi, ungabaphuli ukukhanya kwakho okuvela kuNkulunkulu.
- Nkosi, Nkosi uJesu Kristu, iNdodana kaNkulunkulu! Ukwanda kobuhle bakho, ngathi ngenxa yomuntu nangokwensindiso yethu enyameni, kubethelwe, futhi kungcwatshwa, futhi ngegazi lakho livuselela isimo sethu esikhulile, thola ukuphenduka kwami ezonweni futhi uzwe izenzo zami: sonile, Nkosi, ezulwini futhi phambi kwakho, ngezwi , izenzo, umphefumulo nomzimba, futhi ngicabanga ngengqondo yami. Imiyalo yakho iphukile, ayilalelanga umyalo wakho, intukuthelo yakho iyathukuthelisa, Nkulunkulu wami, kodwa njengezidalwa zakho, angiyikuphelelwa yithemba ngensindiso, kodwa ku-Thmusi wakho ongenakulinganiswa ukuza ukuthandaza kuwe: Nkosi! Ekuphendukeni nginike inhliziyo ephukile futhi ungamukele, ngithandaze futhi unginike umcabango wokuhle, nginike izinyembezi zothando, Nkosi, nginike, ngomusa wakho, ukubeka isisekelo sezinto ezinhle. Ngihawukele, Nkulunkulu, ngihawukele mina, futhi ngikhumbule, inceku yakho eyisono eMbusweni wakho, manje naphakade naphakade naphakade. Amen.
- O Nkulunkulu, onesihawu uKristu Jesu, uMkhululi wezoni, ukuze usindiswe abantu, ulahlile, uMusa, Izulu elikhazimulayo, wahlala esiswini esingenabuhlungu nesononi, Uthole amandla ethu phezu kwesihlalo sobuNkulunkulu, futhi wathwala ukugula kwethu; Wena, Ohluphekile Ongcwele, walimala ngenxa yezono zethu futhi uhlushwa ngenxa yobubi bethu, ngakho-ke nathi siphakamisa ukuncenga kwethu okuthobekile kuwe, Humanoid:
Wamukele kubo, O Oyingcwele kakhulu Nkosi, futhi wehla ebuhlungwini bethu futhi ungasikhumbuli izono zethu, nokuthukuthela okulungile kwabaphambeki bethu, asisuse kithi. Egazini likaNkulunkulu wakho oPhezukonke, hlaziya isimo sethu sokuwa, sivuselele, Nkosi Jesu Kristu uMsindisi wethu, nathi, ekubhujisweni kwezono ezikhona, futhi ududuze izinhliziyo zethu ngenjabulo yokuthethelelwa kwakho. Ngezinyembezi nezinyembezi ezinkulu zokuzisola, siwela ezinyaweni zesihe sakho sobuNkulunkulu, futhi siyancenga: Ngomusa wakho, usihlanze kuzo zonke ukungalungi nokungalungi kokuphila kwethu. Endaweni engcwele yoBuntu Bakho, masikhazimulise igama elingcwele, uYise kanye noMoya okhona ngaphambili nokuphila, manje naphakade naphakade naphakade. Amen.