Kwenzeka ukuthi lo mbhangqwana uphumule, kodwa emva kwesikhathi intombazane iqala ukuzisola ngekhefu. Yebo, uma umfana ecabanga kanjalo futhi engacabangi ukubuyisela ubuhlobo bakhe, kodwa kuthiwani uma esenayo enye intombi, kanjani kulokhu ukubuyela kumuntu wokuqala? Nazi ezinye amathiphu.
Ungabuyela kanjani umfana, uma enomunye?
Yebo, thina amantombazane kukhona izidalwa ezingenangqondo - okokuqala sizoshiya umfana, bese sibheka izindlela zokubuyisela okokuqala, sithi "Ngiyamthanda, kodwa unomunye." Umbuzo uwukuthi, kungani bephule ubuhlobo uma kuhle? Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukunqoba lowo owayengumdala, cabanga ngokucophelela ngalokho okukushukumisayo: isifiso esiqotho sokuba naye noma umuzwa wokuba nomuntu - umfana kufanele abe nesifiso sokugula, bese kuthi isonto lidlule futhi likhona kwenye. Uma umnikazi ekhuluma kuwe, akufanele ucabange ukuthi ungabuyisela kanjani umfana, noma wena, noma owokuqala, noma intombazane enakho, lokhu ngeke kwengeze enjabulweni. Khona-ke, uma uphumelela, ukhathele ukuwuphonsa. Ukusebenza ekubuyiseni kwakho kwangaphambili kuyadingeka kuphela uma wenze iphutha futhi uqaphela ukuthi lo muntu udinga. Yini okudingeka ukwenze ukuze wenze lokhu?
- Hlaziya ngenxa yalokho okwenzekile igebe lakho, mhlawumbe ungabekwa icala? Isizathu esinjalo singaba futhi uma umqalisi wokuhlukanisa unakho. Uma ungazange ukhathele isithombo sesifuba sakho, wayengeke avume ngokushesha ukuthi udinga ukuhlukana.
- Uma isizathu sisekuwe, yenza konke ukulungisa ukungaphumeleli okukhona. Funda kabanzi mayelana nentombazane entsha ye-ex yakho bese uzama ukuba "ngaphezu kwayo ekhanda lakho" kukho konke. Into esemqoka, ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngenkathi ucabanga ngalokho okudingeka ukwenze, ungabanjwa ngamehlo akho, ungambizi. Masilahleke ngamehlo akho okungenani amasonto ambalwa.
- Ngemuva kokuthi zonke izilungiso ezidingekayo zenziwe, ungakwazi ukuhamba ngokuphepha ezindaweni ezithandayo. Kudingekile ukuthi ube khona ngokwemvelo e-parade. Zama ukugwema okwedlule, uma enesinye - umfana kufanele akwazi ukuhlola ukuthi uyathandeka kangakanani kuneyintombi yakhe. Ingabe uhlela ukuya emvelweni nabangani? Mema umbhangqwana kulo mcimbi. Futhi ngenkathi uhlala enkampanini efanayo, zama ukuziphatha ngendlela ehlukile kunejwayelekile, kube yinto yakho yangaphambili engaqondakali, imfihlakalo, okuzoyijabulisa ukuyixazulula.
- Amantombazane amaningi acabanga ukuthi kuhlambalaza ukubhala intombazane entsha kumuntu owayengumfana, ebheka ukuthi yiyona iphutha lakhe kuzo zonke izinkinga zakhe. Nakuba kungenjalo akusilo iqiniso, intombazane entsha yafika kumkakho wangaphambili lapho uyikhululile, ngakho-ke akufanele umlalele, kodwa ukubona kwakho okwesikhashana. Uma ubhala ngempela, khona-ke kukhona okungayekethisi okwangaphambili, ukuze ukufutheka okusha kuwulahle. Kuphela kuleli cala le ncwadi kumele ingaziwa, ngokusobala kusuka kwenye yamantombazane asendulo esoka lakhe. Bhala ukuthi waphoqeleka ukuba akhiphe isisu noma ashiye ngokushesha lapho ezwa ngokukhulelwa. Le ndlela ifanelekile, uma i-ex yakho ingaziqhayisa kakhulu ubudlelwane bobuhlobo, ukuze ukungaziwa kwakho kungabonakaliswa. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, lapho ukhulumisana, zama ukuhlonipha kanye nokuhlonipha ngokuphelele kanye nesoka langaphambili, kanye nentombi yakhe entsha, ukuze ungacabangi ngamasu anjalo.
- Uma kungenzeki lutho futhi umfana angasheshi emuva, bese umshiya wedwa, hambani. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzama kanzima kangakanani, awukwazi ukubuyisela isoka langaphambili uma enesinye intombazane ayithandayo.