Ezweni lanamuhla, uthando lwezinto kubantu abaningi luvamile. Kodwa-ke, lapho lo mzwelo ukhululeka futhi umuntu ovela ezintweni ezijwayelekile ezibonakalayo ezenza isithombe, kubalulekile ukucabanga ukuthi lokhu kuyinto evamile. Siphakamisa ukuthi sithole ukuthi isiphi isisu.
Kuyini ukuthatha umntanakho?
Akuwona wonke umuntu owaziyo ngencazelo ye-fetish yegama. Ivela kumaPutukezi athi "ama-feitic", okuhunyushwa ngokuthi "okuqondene nokusetshenziswa kwamaKatolika". Phakathi kwezinto ezinjengalezi - izintandokazi zabangcwele, ubuhlalu bemilingo namanye ama-talisman zenkolo. Ngemva kwesikhashana, ezinye izinto ezibonakalayo ezingavamile zaqala ukubizwa ngokuthi leli gama - izingcezu zamapulangwe, amatshe amatshe, izimbiza, izinhlanzi, izimpaphe nezinhlamvu.
Kamuva, igama elivele lisetshenziswe ngokuthi "fetiche" nelithi "fetich" lalijwayele isiFulentshi, isiNgisi nezinye izilimi zaseYurophu. Manje ngesiFulentshi kusho "isithombe, isithunzi". U-Comte wandisa futhi wawabiza ngokuthi umbono ophikisayo wabantu bokuqala ezintweni ezibonakalayo kanye nenkolo yokuthoma yonke. Futhi manje ososayensi abaningi babhekisela emthonjeni we-fetishism njengento yokukhulekela izilwane, izimo zemvelo nezitshalo.
I-Fetishism ngefilosofi
Ngokuvamile ukukhulelwa kubhekene namalungu obulili obuqinile. Kodwa-ke, kunezimo lapho abesifazane bekhanga kunoma yiziphi izinto. Ukuze uqonde ukuthi umuntu unenkinga ngempela, kubalulekile ukwazi izibonakaliso zobu fetish:
- Akuyona impela imiyalo evamile ephazamisa ukulala ngokobulili evamile. Isibonelo singaba nobulili njalo endaweni eyodwa kuphela emva kokuphuza utshwala.
- Umuntu obhekene nokuxhomekeka okunjalo akakwazi ukuzama ezinye izindlela zokwanelisa, ngoba inethiwekhi isivele imkhuba wokuzihlanganisa nanoma yimiphi imicimbi. Ngenxa yalesi sifo, abathishist abakwazi ukujabulela ngokugcwele ubulili.
- Iziguli zingenza zonke izinhlobo zezenzo ezihlobene nezinto ezingapheliyo, ezihambisana nezinkolelo ezithandwayo .
- Ngemva kwesikhashana, indima yento yokudumisa iphawuleka nakakhulu, futhi ukuba khona kwayo yisimo esiyinhloko sokuthola ukwaneliseka.
- Inentshisekelo kumageyimu okudlala indima.
I-fetish - ingqondo
Isazi sengqondo esaziwayo sase-Austrian Sigmund Freud fetishism saqala ukuhlola ngo-1927. Ngokombono wakhe, uyaphambukela ekuqondisweni kokuqala kwezocansi. Uyaqiniseka ukuthi ukubeletha kungumphumela wezenzakalo ezithile ezibuhlungu ezingase zenzeke ebuntwaneni, futhi zizitholile ngokwazi. Lesi simo singathuthuka kulezo zimo lapho umuntu engaqapheli ukuthi uqobo lwakhe ucansi, noma uthanda indima engalungile yobulili.
Labo ababhekene ne-fetishism esikhathini esidlule bangaba nobuhlobo nomama wabo eduze kwe-incest. Baba, futhi ngokuvamile abantu abanjalo babonakala bengakufanelekele ukunakekelwa. Ngokusho kukaFreud, kungase kube nesizathu esisodwa sokuqala kwalesi sifo - ukunakekelwa kwengane kusuka eceleni komuntu wesilisa - umama. I-psychoanalyst ithi ukukhishwa kwesisu akukwazi njalo ukubizwa ngokuthi ukuphambene nokuziphatha okuvamile.
Ukudoba - inkolo
Kwamukelwa futhi ukuhlukanisa ukukhulelwa kwesonto. Kuqondwa njengokukhulekelwa kwezenkolo izinto ezingapheliyo, ezingahle zibheke ezakhiweni ezihlukahlukene ezingaphezu kwendalo eziye zathandwa ngisho nakwezinye izizwe zasendulo. Lo mkhuba uyenzeka ezinsukwini zethu. Isibonelo ukukhulekelwa kwezinto ezinamaBuddhism nokukhulekela iBlack Stone e-Islam.
Ezweni lanamuhla kunama-fetish amaningi ngesimo sezinkolelo ezahlukene kanye nezifiso. Izinto ezinjalo zivame ukubhekisela ezintweni zemilingo kanye nekhono lokuletha inhlanhla kumuntu, ukuvikela kusuka ekuhluphekeni. Le talisman iklanyelwe ukuvikela umnikazi wayo ekungabikho kwenjabulo. Ngokuvamile indaba enjalo yokudumisa ingaba yingxenye yento enkulu - itshe elivela entabeni ehlonishwayo ekhethekile, isiqephu somuthi ongcwele noma umdwebo wesilwane esingcwele.
I-Fetishism ne-Totemism
Okhokho bethu babesazi ukuthi babiza ukuthini, beka izinto ezahlukene futhi bakholelwa emandleni abo angaphezu kwamandla. Isihloko esinjalo singaba yizinto ezihlobene nomcimbi obalulekile empilweni yomuntu noma nje ukushaya umcabango wakhe. Ukubonakaliswa kwe-fetishism kungabonwa ekukhulekeleni:
- amatshe esimo esingavamile;
- uhlaka lwenkuni;
- izingxenye zomzimba wesilwane;
- izibalo zamatshe, insimbi kanye nezinkuni.
Ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi into engahleliwe ingasetshenziswa njengengane. Uma umninimzi wakhe enenhlanhla, bekukholelwa ukuthi le ndaba inikwe amandla omlingo . Uma kunesidingo, kungashintshwa omunye. Abanye abantu babe nomkhuba, ngokusho ukuthi yiziphi izibungu ezazidingeka, kokubili ukubonga nokujezisa. Ukuzalwa kwaba izingxenye zento engaphezulu. Kungaba ucezu lwezinkuni ezingcwele noma umdwebo ngesilwane esihloniphekile.
Iyini ingane ebusweni?
Into enjengokuzalwa kocansi ayiyona into engavamile. Ngokuvamile kubasekeli be-fetish into enjabulo yilezi:
- izingubo zangaphansi zabesifazane;
- izicathulo eziphezulu;
- uboya;
- amagilavu;
- izinto zangasese zangabesifazane.
Into yokudumisa iyimfuneko ebalulekile yokuvukela ngokocansi, hhayi isifiso esivamile sokwenza ukuphila kobulili okuhlukile. Abalandeli abaningi besikhombisa kiss noma bacabangela isisu kuze kufinyelele injabulo. Ngakho isitifiketi socansi noma isenzo singenzeka noma kwenzeke nanoma imuphi umnikazi wento enikeziwe, ngaphandle kokuxhomeka kumfanelo yakhe.
Kuthi ukuthini umtshishokazi?
Ngezinye izikhathi abantu abakuzungezile kanye nomuntu ngokwakhe akucaci kahle lapho ukukhathazeka kwanoma yini engabizwa ngokuthi iyinhlangano evamile, futhi uma kukhona ukugula okudinga usizo lobuchwepheshe. Abaningi bethu bangadonsela izinto ezithile futhi babe nomphumela oshukumisayo. Kodwa-ke, ukukhubazeka kungabizwa ngokuthi isimo lapho umuntu engathandeki khona izimfanelo zomlingani wakhe, kodwa uheha kuphela izingubo zakhe noma ezinye izinto (izibungu). Okusho ukuthi, into yokuthola izingane ezinjalo kubaluleke kakhulu futhi inesithakazelo.
Isizathu sokudoba
Akekho ozophikisana neqiniso lokuthi ukubeletha nokungaqondakali kuyizinto ezihlobene. Noma kunjalo, lokhu kuziphatha kusuka. Phakathi kwezizathu zokuvela kwesisu:
- izifo zobulili;
- ukukhathazeka ngokomzwelo nangobuntu;
- ukubambisana kwesinye noma esinye isifundo nokuvuswa kobulili ebuntwaneni;
- ukwesaba ubuhlobo bobulili wangempela nomlingani wakho.
Esikhathini esizayo, umuntu angasebenzisa isithombe nesiphunga sento, noma izinzwa ezithintekayo ukuze afinyelele injabulo. Izimbangela ze-fetish kuze kube namuhla azizange zifundwe. Cishe wonke umuntu unesisusa esithile angasabela ngaso ngokuqinile. Ngakho-ke kungaphetha ngokuthi cishe bonke abantu bazalwa benesimo esilandelayo esithombeni.
Ziyini izingane?
Kunezinhlobo ezahlukene zezitho zobulili:
- izihloko zokugqoka;
- izingxenye zomzimba womuntu;
- izinto nezilwane;
- izici zokuziphatha, ukubukeka kanye ne-gait.
Ngokuvamile, isisu esinjalo siba izinto ezihlobene nabantu bobulili obuhlukile. Ngokuvamile izintambo ezijabulisayo zamadoda ziyi:
- izingubo zangaphansi;
- amasheya;
- i-tights;
- ibhulogi;
- izicathulo;
- umfaniswano.
Izinhlobo ezinjalo zobu fetish zinezingane zabo ezivame ukugqoka izingubo zobulili obuhlukile. Lapha kukhona ukudluliselwa kwesisu. Ezweni leSanga Eliphumayo, ubu fetishane buphenduke enye yezinhlobo zemali, lapho bethengisa khona ingubo engasetshenziswanga. Yazi ukuthi umntanakho nobathandi bezingxenye ezithile zomzimba:
- izinwele;
- izimbungulu ze-mammary;
- izinyawo;
- izinyawo.
Ungaphila kanjani nomuntu ongumfundisi?
Uma umbhangqwana oshadile unomntwana wesibindi, ngezinye izikhathi kuba yinkinga enkulu kulabo abashadile. Ngokuvamile empilweni yomuntu siqu kulokhu, kungase kuvele izingxabano, ekugcineni kungabangela ukuhlukana kobudlelwane. Ngokuvamile, uthando lwezinto nezinto luyabonakala kubantu. Ingxenye yesibili ingashaqeka izimbungulu ezingaziwa, phakathi kwazo okungekho izintambo ezingenasitayela. Uma umuntu ohlala nomntwana wesibindi engakhathazeki kakhulu nge-fetishism yakhe, ungayishiya njengoba kunjalo, kepha uma isimo sibe yinkinga kubhangqwana, kufanelekile ukuphendukela ku-sexologist noma i-psychotherapist.
Indlela yokukhipha isisu?
Uma ngabe umbhangqwana wakho nawo kudingeka afunde ukuthi ingane iyini, zama ukususa le nkinga. Enye yezokwelapha eziphumelelayo kakhulu ukwelashwa kwe-aversive. Le ndlela yinkimbinkimbi kune-psychotherapy ye-fetishism, kodwa ngosizo lwayo imiphumela efunayo ingafinyelelwa ngokushesha kakhulu. Lapha, ukwelashwa kwe-fetish kuvela ngendlela elandelayo - isiguli, esikhangwa into, siyibonisa futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo umzimba wayo ukhonjiswe ekukhuculweni kagesi. Noma njengendlela yokukhetha, nikeza imithi ebangela isicanucanu.