Kukhona abantu abathanda ukuphuma phezulu emhlabathini, bebuka ngaphandle kwe-porthole, ukucabanga ukuthi bathinta kanjani ifu elidlulayo. Futhi kukhona labo abawugwema ngokuphelele. Ngesikhathi ubona noma yikuphi ukushayela indiza, bahlaselwa yimicabango ehlukene, futhi lokho okusaqhubeka kwenziwe kulokhu kungukugwema izindawo ezinjalo lapho ukwesaba okwesaba kuzozizwa khona.
Ngesaba ukushayela indiza - ngingenzani?
Into ethakazelisayo kakhulu ukuthi cishe wonke umuntu onengqondo angathuthukisa ukuphazamiseka kwemvelo. Njengoba ngaphandle kwalo, uma ekuseni kuqala ngezindaba ezilandelayo ukuthi endaweni ethile indiza iwile futhi. Imiyalezo eminingi enjalo "emnandi" evela kumaphephandaba futhi, lapho izwa injini ye injini yendiza, umuntu uyathuthumela ngesaba, ukhohlwe konke futhi akakwazi ukuhambisa.
Ngeke kube yinto engafanele ukukhuluma ngokuthi ukwesaba okubanzi kangangokuthi ngisho nobuntu obudumile njengoMichael Jackson, uColin Farrell nabanye babhekana nakho. Ngokusho kochwepheshe, kunezindlela eziningi ezilula zokusiza ukuyeka ukwesaba ukuhamba. Zifinyeleleke kuwo wonke umuntu. Into eyinhloko ukuthola isifiso esikhulu sokuqeda ama-phobia abathandwayo kuze kube phakade.
Ingabe kufanele ngesabe noma kungani abantu bengathandi ukuhamba ngezindiza?
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukucabangela ukuthi lokhu kwesaba kuyize. Phela, ososayensi sekuyisikhathi eside befakazelwe ukuthi ukuthutha emoyeni kungenye yezokuphepha. Yiqiniso, uma ujwayele ukulawula yonke into, bese uhlala egumbini lendiza ngamakhilomitha ukusuka emhlabathini, ngenxa yokuntuleka kokulawula, ungaqala ukuzwa imizwa emihle kakhulu.
Kuyaziwa ukuthi abangaba ngu-20% wabantu bomhlaba abanolwazi lwesaba okunjalo. Izazi zengqondo ziye zaveza izici eziningana eziyinhloko eyinhloko ye-phobia:
- Ngesinye isikhathi esivundwini esinamandla, umuntu uhlangabezana nokucindezeleka okukhulu;
- Ukuba kude nomhlaba kuyisikhathi sokuzizwa ungalondeki, ukwesaba;
- I-Aopophobia ingaphezu kwenkinga yezinkinga zangaphakathi ezingaphendululwa.
Uyesaba kakhulu ukushayela indiza - yini okufanele uyenze?
Indlela ephumelela kunazo zonke yokuqeda lesi sibizo yi-NLP imikhuba, i-hypnosis, ukuvakashela ochwepheshe. Ukukhuluma nomqondo wezengqondo, izimbangela zesaba ziyacaciswa, iklayenti ifundiswa amakhono okuphumula okufanele, kanye nokuzithiba.
Uma ngesinye isizathu akunakwenzeka ukuvakashela isazi, ngakho-ke kuyakudingeka ukuba unqobe ukuphepha kwamabhomu ngokwakho. Ngakho-ke, uma wesaba ukuhamba, ke ngesikhathi sezindiza udinga ukwenza okuzosiza ukuphazamisa:
- ukubukela ama-comedy movie;
- kubalulekile ukuzama ukuthola ubuso obomothekayo phakathi kwabagibeli;
- Ukuzindla yilokho okukusindisa ezinkingeni eziningi ezingokomoya.
Uma kunesiqalo sokukhathazeka, ungaluma kancane umlomo wakho noma uzibophe. Ngakho-ke, umzimba uzoshintshela ezimpilweni zomzimba, ukhohlwe ngemicabango ekhudlwana.
Yiqiniso, ngokushesha nje uma ubona izindiza noma isinyathelo esiteji, cishe akuzona izivakashi - imicabango engafanele. Kudingeka bazame ukushayela, ngisebenzisa ukuqinisekiswa okunjengokuthi "Ngiyakujabulela ukuhamba ngezinyawo", "Ngizizwa kahle." Uma sikhuluma ngokubunjwa okunembile kwezimpendulo ezinjalo ezimangalisayo, kubalulekile ukuthi singalisho izinhlayiya "hhayi." Uma kungenjalo, umuntu ongenandaba naye ngeke abone "Angesabi ukushayela indiza futhi ngiyazi ukuthi ngenzeni", kodwa "Ngesaba ukuhamba ...".
Kuhlale kudingekile ukuzivumelanisa nesimo sengqondo esihle. Isimo sengqondo sokuqiniseka singenza izimangaliso. Ngisho nangaphambi kokuba indiza ibaluleke kakhulu ukucabanga ukuthi uthatha imithwalo yakho, uyaqaphela ukuthi ubuke iso lokwakho nokwesaba.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi kulabo abesaba ukuhamba, kunezibhebhe ezenziwe ngokwemvelo - izikhukhula ze-motherwort ne-valerian.