Izimpikiswano nezimpikiswano mayelana ne-psychology yezocansi zigcinwe kusukela ngesikhathi sokudalwa komhlaba futhi, kusobala, zizoqhubeka uma nje usuku lwe-apocalypse. Kungani-ke, kubonakala sengathi akuyona inkimbinkimbi kusukela ekubukeni komzimba, isenzo, esingokwemvelo ngezidalwa eziningi eziphilayo emhlabeni, kubameleli bomphakathi wesintu kubangela umbono ongenangqondo wokuthi udlulele nje ukuzalwa komzimba? Impendulo ilula: sinengqondo futhi ngenxa yalokhu sizama ukuqonda iqiniso elifihliwe ngemuva komthombo wenjabulo.
Big Bang
Ekuboneni kokuqala, ukucwaninga kwengqondo kanye nobulili yizigaba ezimbili eziphikisana kakhulu emvelo. Ngempela, owokuqala yi-100% exhunywe nokuqonda kanye ne-"I" yethu yangaphakathi, kanye nesimo sesibili samanzi esihlanzekile sokulondolozwa kwezilwane. Eqinisweni, konke akulula kakhulu. Lokhu kungase kubonakale kungavamile, kodwa i-orgasm kuqala kuyenzeka ekhanda, futhi ngemva nje kokubona kwethu kuqhathanisa zonke izingxenye ezidingekayo ukuze bathole injabulo futhi kuqinisekiswe ukuthi kukhona izici ezivusa amandla (isibonelo, ukubukeka nendlela yokuziphatha komlingani, ukulungiselelwa okuthile noma isici se-situational), ubuchopho buzohlinzeka ngokuhamba phambili kwe "Big Bang", okuvela khona indawo entsha ekwazi ukuzalwa.
Othandayo - akawuthandi
I-psychology yamadoda ezocansi ihluke kakhulu kwalabo besifazane, okudingekayo, okokuqala, ukusabalalisa kwemvelo kwendima yokuzala. Zonke izenzo kule "inqubo ethakazelisayo" yabamele abesilisa abanamandla kakhulu kuncike emisebenzini emibili kuphela eyisisekelo: ukuzijabulisa nokuthola ubufakazi obucacile bokubusa kwabo, okungukuthi, ubheka i- orgasm yesifazane kuphela, njengesiqiniseko sesimo sakhe sesilisa wesilisa nokunye okunye.
Ubulili obuhle bubona yonke into eyenzeka kancane kusuka ekubukeni okuhlukile: owesifazane ongenandaba nomuntu uyazicabangela ubulili njengobufakazi obungenakulinganiswa bothando nesibambiso sokuthi umlingani akhethwe nguye uyomnakekela yena nenzalo yakhe. Ngokuvamile i-psychology yabesifazane besilisa ocansini iyancishiswa ngephutha ngombono: ukulala nami kusho uthando, okungafani kakhulu nombono wesilisa walesi simo. Ukwakhiwa komzwelo ngokomzwelo nakwezinye izikhathi kubalulekile ngaphezu kokumane ujabule futhi lokhu kuchaza izibalo ukuthi abesifazane abangama-65% abakulungele ukudela i-orgasm noma ukulilingisa, ukuze benze othandekayo abe nomuzwa wokuthi "unkulunkulu" noma , esimweni sokuxhumana ngokubala, okungamlethela amabhonasi athile. Ngakho-ke, ubulili ku-psychology yowesifazane akuyona into engavumelekile, ukubeka injabulo kuqala, nakuba kungangabazeki ukuthi kubalulekile, kokubili le nkosikazi kanye nomlingani wakhe.
Yini ebalulekile?
I-psychology yothando nocansi igxile emazwini amabili ekhoneni: isimo sokukhiqiza kanye nokwazi ukwakha ubudlelwane obuvumelanayo, nekhono lokunciphisa. Futhi uma abantu ababili bekwazi ukuzwa omunye nomunye, ngakho-ke ngeke kube nzima ngabo ukuba bafinyelele "ekuvumelaneni" ngokuqondene nalokho okulindeleke ukuthi omunye wabo alindele komunye.
Ngokuvamile ubulili bokuqala, osobuchopho babo obubaluleke kakhulu (emva kokuba konke kuzokwakhiwa kuye imibono engaphezulu ngomlingani ohle nokuthi ubuhlobo obuseduze) bubeka ugcizelele ezintweni eziza kuqala kanye nokuthandwa kobulili komuntu. Ngokokuqala ngqa, wonke umuntu uyakhumbula konke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi imizwa, emibi noma emihle, washiya ngemuva. Futhi ngokuqaphela noma cha,
Ezweni lanamuhla, ubulili bubonakala ngokuyinhloko njengomthombo wenjabulo (futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani), futhi kuphela, njengendlela yokukhulelwa ingane. Yeka indlela efanele ngayo le mbono yemodeli yesikhathi esizayo yomphakathi, lapho kuzodingeka khona ukuba baphile labo abangazange bafundiswe ukuthanda, kodwa nje ukuba bahlanganyele kulolu thando, benqabe ngokuphelele izici ezinjenge-romance, izinzwa, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuzinza kwezibopho zomndeni. Umlando ukhombisa ukuthi ngokuvamile emva kokuba zonke izindlela ezitholakalayo zokuthola injabulo zifinyeleleke kakhulu futhi ziyeke ukulinganiselwa, ngisho nokubusa okukhulu kunazo zonke nokuwa kwemvelo kuzama ukuqondisa isintu ngendlela entsha yentuthuko. Kodwa ubani ofunda emaphutheni akhe? Kunento okumele uyizindle ngakho, akunjalo?