Kusukela ngesikhathi sokuzalwa kwakhe, umuntu udlula ngezigaba ezahlukene zokuthuthukiswa ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, okungabazeki ukuthi yiyona nto ebaluleke kunazo zonke ekuziphendukeleni kwakhe njengommeli wezilwane eziphilayo zeHomo Sapiens. Kodwa okungenani okubalulekile kumuntu ngamunye yizinqubo zokwakheka nokuthuthukiswa kobuntu , ngoba kuxhomeke kuzo izinga lokuvumelanisa ubuhlobo bakhe nemvelo eseduze kakhulu, kanye nomphakathi wonke.
Yonke imvelaphi ebuntwaneni
Sonke siza kuleli zwe ngesethi yamathambo ezakhi zofuzo ezenziwe ngomumo, lapho zonke izimboni eziyinhloko zentuthuko yethu zibekwa khona, kodwa isiphetho somuntu sithathwa kakhulu yizo zigaba zokubunjwa kobuntu, okuyinto esihloselwe ukuyidlula, kusukela ngesikhathi lapho siqala ukubona " Mina "futhi ngizama ukunquma indawo yabo ngaphansi kwelanga.
Ngokwemvelo, konke kuqala ebuntwaneni kanye nobuhlobo ingane ebenayo nabazali bayo kanye namanye amalungu omndeni wakhe. Ngisho noma kunjalo, izisekelo zomuntu zenziwe futhi zivela ngamuphi umkhathi akhulela ngazo, ngezindlela eziningi kuncike ekutheni uzobe engumuntu oqinile futhi ozimele, okwazi ukuholela abanye nokulwa nanoma yikuphi ukuhlaselwa kwezimo ezingathandeki, noma akhule ube ngumuntu obuthakathaka, othanda ukungena okuyinto ezokwesaba njalo lapho kufanele enze izinqumo zakhe.
Bafunda emaphutheni
Azikho izindlela ezilula empilweni, njengoba kwaziwa, futhi inqubo yokuba umuntu akuyona into ehlukile. Khumbula wena ebuntwaneni nasekukhuleni. Zingaki izigaxa owake waziphakamisa ngenkathi ukwazi ukuzibonakalisa wena nabanye ukuthi ufanelwe okuthile nokuthi udinga ukuzibheka. Kodwa leli bhizinisi alizange liphele lapho. Naphezu kokuthi i-80% ye-"scaffolding" enkulu ye-"I" yethu yakha eminyakeni engu-3 kuya kweyi-15, ukwakheka kobuntu bomuntu kuyaqhubeka esikhathini esizayo (nakuba kuhamba kancane), futhi akukho mingcele ecacisiwe yokuphela kwalesi sikhathi . Esimeni ngasinye, bangabakho. Abantu bashintsha ngobudala. Sifunda emaphutheni ethu futhi sithatha isisekelo sokuphila njengesisekelo, zama ukwakha ubuhlobo obuseduze nalabo abasizungezile. Futhi impilo yethu yonke ixhomeke ekutheni yiziphi izimiso zokuziphatha esizibambayo nokuthi yimaphi amakhono okusebenzisana nalo mhlaba esiwutholile ohlelweni lokuziphatha nokuziphatha komuntu siqu.
Ingabe kukhona ukukhetha?
Abanye bakholelwa ngephutha ukuthi ukuthuthukiswa kwethu kuxhomeke kuphela ekusebenziseni kwangaphandle, futhi lapho umuntu ehlala khona, uzimisele ngokuphelele ukuziphatha kwakhe esikhathini esizayo kanye nazo zonke izici zengqondo. Ngamanye amazwi, uma uzalwa emndenini wezigebengu noma izidakamizwa, unendlela eyodwa kuphela: kungaba ejele noma emgodini oseduzane. Eqinisweni, akuzona zonke izinto ezilula. Yiqiniso, isibonelo sabazali yisinye sezici ezibaluleke kakhulu ezithinta ukuthuthukiswa kokuziphatha komuntu kwanoma yimuphi umuntu. Kodwa emva kwakho konke, inkululeko yokuzikhethela, esinikezwe ngokwemvelo, ayikhanseliwe. Iyini incazelo yokuziphendukela kwazo zonke izinhlobo? Ukusinda yiyona enamandla kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, ongakwazi ukuhlukanisa abamnyama emhlophe futhi akhethe indlela efanele yokuthuthukiswa kwakhe njengelungu lomphakathi, uzothola ithuba lokuphila okuphumelelayo, ngisho nangaphambi kokuba "imithwalo" engaphumelelanga.
Qonda futhi ubikezele
Izimpikiswano ezifanayo zibhekwa ngendlela enjalo iseluleko sesayensi njengengqondo yokubumba ubuntu bomuntu, ehlaziya futhi efingqa zonke izici ezithandekayo nezingalungile zezimo zokuphila kanye nemvelo yomuntu othize, ngenxa yokuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ziqonde izisusa eziyinhloko zezenzo zakhe. Izindlela ezinjalo zisetshenziswe kokubili emsebenzini we-psychoanalysis ojwayelekile kanye nokugula kwengqondo, kucabangela zonke izici ezingathonya ukuthuthukiswa kobuntu, futhi kwezinye izimo zize zenze izinqubo zezifo ezithile ezingqondweni.
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