Ukhathele ukulalela imibono mayelana nokuthi ungumuntu omubi kangakanani? Khona-ke kunezindlela ezimbili eziphuma - ukuvula izindlebe zakho noma ukucabanga ukuthi ungashintsha umlingisi wakho nokuthi ungayenza kanjani.
Kungenzeka yini ukushintsha uhlamvu?
Ukusho ukuthi ungashintsha uhlamvu lwakho, kufanele uqale uchaze leli gama. Kusuka esiGrekini, igama elithi "uhlamvu" lihunyushwe njenge-imprint. Futhi impela, lo mqondo uhlanganisa izici zobuntu ezizibonakalisa ngokwabo emikhubeni yomuntu, izenzo zakhe ezimweni ezahlukene kanye nesimo sengqondo somuntu ezweni elikuzungezile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lo mlingiswa ukhiwa njalo, ithonya kuwo lihunyushwa ngezici ezihlukahlukene - ubudala, imfundo, umsebenzi, indawo yokuhlala, njll. Yingakho ngezinye izikhathi singaqapheli abangane besikole abawela kwenye indawo - umuntu ushintshile, ukuziphatha kwakhe nendlela yokuxhumana iyehluke. Kodwa uma sithonywa imvelo, ingabe singashintsha ngokwethu, sifuna nje? Izazi zengqondo zithi kungenzeka ukuthi zifezeke, kodwa kuphela uma umuntu efisa ngobuqotho izinguquko ezinjalo. Ngaphandle kwalokho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzama kanzima kangakanani, lo mlingisi ngeke athuthukise.
Ungashintsha kanjani uhlamvu lwakho?
Njengoba uhlamvu lomuntu lwakhiwa konke ukuphila kwakhe, kuyiqiniso ngempela ukuguqula umsebenzi wakhe, nakuba kungelula njengoba kungase kubonakale ekuqaleni. Kuzothatha amandla amakhulu nokukhuthazela ukushintsha ukujwayela okusheshayo ngokubekezela. Ngakho-ke, into yokuqala okufanele uyenze ithi "Ngifuna ukushintsha umlingiswa wami!" Futhi uqonde ukuthi kungani unquma ukushintsha. Kuyinto eyodwa uma ucekwa ukuba ushintshe uhlamvu ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, uchaza ukuthi intombazane enjalo ukungavumelani yodwa kuyoletha inkathazo. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo wena ngokwakho awuzwa izinkinga futhi uhlala nge-clover. Futhi ehluke ngokuphelele, uma uqonda ukuthi kuzo zonke izinkinga eziwela kuwe maduzane, uhlamvu lwakho olubi lungukusola. Esimweni sokuqala, ukulingana kwayo okuyigugu kufanele kuvikelwe, futhi isimo sesibili sidinga izinguquko kwisitayela sokuziphatha nemikhuba.
Yiqiniso, akunakwenzeka ukushintsha ngokushesha, kuzothatha isikhathi ukuzisebenza. Futhi ukuzithuthukisa kwaba lula, udinga ukuzinzela wena ngaphambili komsebenzi. Ukuze wenze lokhu, bhala phansi eshadini zonke izici zobunikazi bakho ongathanda ukushintsha. Bese ukhetha uhlamvu olubi kakhulu lomlingiswa wakho, ngaphezu kokulungiswa okuzosebenza kuqala. Manje sidinga ukuchaza kabanzi ukuthi lo mkhakha ubonakala kanjani, izinkinga ezivela ngenxa yezenzo ezimbi.
Ungashintsha kanjani izici zakho zobunjwa? Ezweni kukhona okungafani nakho konke: okuhle-okubi, phezulu-phansi, enyakatho-eningizimu, njll. Ngakho ngomlingiswa wethu, kuzo zonke izinto ezimbi ongathola uhlangothi oluhle. Ngakho udinga ukuzama ukufaka esikhundleni sezinhlangothi zakho ezimbi ngezindlela ezinhle. Ngakho-ke bonke ephepheni elifanayo, bhala ukuthi uzokwenzenjani manje kulokhu noma leso simo. Isibonelo, ubheka inkinga yakho eyinhloko ukuba ulaka olwedlulele. Chaza icala lokugcina, uma lo mkhuba wobuciko ubeke phansi. Futhi kwakudingeka kanjani ukuxazulula lesi simo. Ngemuva kokuthi umbhalo obhaliwe ulahleke ekhanda, ungasho ngisho ngokuzwakalayo lokho okushiwo, into esemqoka angayinikezi
Futhi yenza ngokuphila, funda ukuqapha isimo bese uzibamba ngesikhathi ngesikhathi sokubonakaliswa kwezici ezingadingekile zomlingisi. Ungesabi, uma kungenzeki lutho ngesikhathi esisodwa, akukho lutho olwesabekayo, into esemqoka hhayi ukubuyela phansi futhi uqhubeke usebenza wena ngokwakho. Uma isici esisodwa esibi sinqotshwe, qhubeka kwesinye esilandelayo. Into esemqoka akulona ukulinda isikhathi esifanele, ukwethembisa ukuqala konke ngoMsombuluko noma ngemuva kweholidi, kodwa uqale ukwenza ngokushesha. Futhi gxilisa kusuka kini ngokwenu imicabango enjengezifo ezinjengokuthi "Ngibuthakathaka kakhulu, angikwazi ukwenza lutho," ngoba akunjalo, wonke umuntu angashintsha, udinga nje.