Incazelo yegama elithi "ukuhlukumezeka" ekucwaningweni kwengqondo ngabososayensi abaningi ibonakala njengendlela yokuziphatha engavumelani ngaso sonke isikhathi emphakathini, okwenza abanye bangalimazi. Lesi sijeziso, ukubhubhisa ukuziphatha, ukuthonya izinqubo zomphakathi ezamukelekile futhi kubangele ukukhathazeka okukhulu kwengqondo. Lokhu kuyinhlebo, ukusabalalisa ulwazi olungelona iqiniso kanye nefantasy enonya, kanye nokubulala nokuzibulala.
Ezweni lesilwane, ukuhlukunyezwa kusiza ukusinda, futhi emphakathini ophucukile, ukuhlaselwa kobudlova kubangela izifo eziningana ezingapheli zabasebenzi basehhovisi, okungukuthi, abanalo indawo yokukhipha ukunganeliseki kwabo ngokuphatha nabaphathi.
Kuncike kunhlobo luni lokugqugquzela umhlukumezi, futhi yikuphi ukusabela okulindelekile kumuntu ohlukunyeziwe, izinhlobo eziyisishiyagalombili zokuhlukunyezwa zibonakala:
- ecasulayo - umuntu ohlaselayo wanciphisa lo mkhuba;
- engavunyelwe - isisulu asizange sikhuphe umhlaseli nganoma iyiphi indlela;
- ecasulayo - lo muntu wayengowokuqala owabangela ubudlova, futhi hhayi ukuzivikela;
- ukuzivikela - ukuphendula izenzo zobudlova;
- impendulo - ukubuyiselwa komonakalo;
- ukuhlukunyezwa okubangelwa ukucasuka, - izenzo ezisiza ukususa ukucasuka;
- ukugqugquzela - imbangela yezenzo ezinjalo isifiso sokuthola into ethile;
- ukuvunyelwa - kusekela imigomo yomphakathi.
Okubizwa ngokuthi ukuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi kunethonya elikhulu kumuntu: isisulu singashukunyiswa emicabangweni yokuzibulala, kuhlanganise nge-intanethi. Kubonakala ngokukhala, ukuthuka, ukuhleka, ukunyundela. Ngeshwa, le ndlela yethonya elibi lizuze umoya wesibili ngenxa yokuphakanyiswa kwamanethiwekhi omphakathi, futhi ikakhulukazi intsha kanye nabantu abasha bayisabela kakhulu, baze bazibulale.
Ngezinga elikhulu, izenzo zobudlova zenhlalo. Isibonelo salo singaba yingcindezi kahulumeni ezakhamuzi zakhona, futhi impendulo kuyo kuyoba ukunganaki, ukufutheka, ukusola, ukuhlukunyezwa.
Ukugcina okubalwe ukubonakaliswa kobudlova kunqunywa ukuhlola ukuhlolwa kwe-Bassa-Darka. Yenzelwe ukuhlola ukuhlukunyezwa kwabantu. Indlela yimibuzo yemibuzo engama-75. Ngenani eliphelele lezinketho ezifananisiwe, izinkomba zokuhlukumezeka nokuphendula okunenzondo zibalwa.
Kungenzeka ukususa ukuhlukumeza komuntu kuphela emva kokuqonda izimbangela zokubonakala kwayo, nokusebenzisa imithi ngayinye (izidakamizwa zokucindezeleka) noma indlela ethandwayo (isazi sengqondo noma i-psychotherapist, i-sports, massage, itrapy therapy).
Iqembu eliyingozi lihlanganisa nalabo aba:
- umele umuntu okhombisa noma owehlayo;
- ukugula kwengqondo okunzima kakhulu;
- Kubudlova ngemuva kwezinguquko ze-craniocerebral;
- unokucindezeleka okuhlobene nokukhathazeka nokuphulwa komzimba we-serotonin;
- ungumfana osemusha;
- inezinkinga ezingokomzwelo.
Ezinye izizathu ziwukuthi: utshwala, izidakamizwa nokuphila okungahambi kahle.
Ekulweni nokuhlukunyezwa, kubalulekile ukuqonda yonke indlela yokubonakaliswa kobudlova. Sivame ukucabanga ukuthi ukuhlaselwa kobudlova kuqala ngokuzonda, kokubili ngesimo sengqondo esibi ngezwe kanye nesistimu yokuhlola, ngokusho ukuthi umuntu uhlulela abantu, izinto kanye nezimo. Okulandelayo, kukhona intukuthelo eyenza isenzo, futhi izenzo noma ukuziphatha komuntu kungukuhlukunyezwa. Kodwa ngokusekelwe ezinhlotsheni ezikhona zokuhlukunyezwa, akuhlali njalo ngokuhambisana nentukuthelo. Kodwa-ke, njengentukuthelo, umuntu akayena onobudlova.