I-Phobia iyinkolelo eqinile, engalawuleki lutho. Kunzima ngisho nokucabanga ukuthi mangaki ama-phobias umuntu ovamile ongase abe nalo ekhulwini lama-21.
Yini, ngokubona kwakho, yi-phobia ejwayelekile kakhulu? Mhlawumbe othile ukholelwa ukuthi lokhu kuyi-arachnophobia - ukwesaba izinsipho, noma i-claustrophobia - ukwesaba isikhala esivaliwe, noma okubi nakakhulu, ukuhlukunyezwa-ukwesaba kobumnyama. Ngisho nokwesaba ukwesaba njenge-phobia kuyenzeka nokuba kube emphakathini wanamuhla.
Yiqiniso, zonke lezi zinkolelo azikho isizathu, ngoba abaningi bethu besaba konke okushiwo ngenhla, kodwa lokhu akuyona into ejwayelekile kakhulu. Indawo yokuqala ohlwini lwama-phobias ajwayelekile phakathi kwabantu bazo zonke izizwe kanye nezizwe yi-tanatofobia - ukwesaba ukufa.
Uyini umehluko phakathi kokwesaba nama-phobias?
Ukwesaba kuyindlela yokuvikela yomuntu engokwemvelo. Kusukela ukubonakala kwesintu njengezinhlobo zezilwane, ukwesaba kuye kwaba enye yezindlela zokuzivikela ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu. Uma singenalo ukuzwa ukwesaba, ngabe sizame ngaphandle kokusaba ukugibela ngaphesheya kolwandle noma sizulazula ngokuthula ngasemaphethelweni ophahleni lwesakhiwo esikhulu. Ukwesaba kuyaphela ukuthi kungokwemvelo lapho kwenzeka khona kungalungile. Kulesi simo, ukwesaba kuqala ukuthatha imicabango yomuntu futhi kuguquke.
I-phobia yikwesaba into ephenduka yinkinga yangempela kumuntu. Uma isikhathi esiningi umuntu ephila ngokwesaba, kunzima kakhulu ukuphulukisa ukugula kwakhe kwengqondo okuthiwa i-phobia.
Ama-phobias ahlukahlukene awavimbeli nje umuntu ukuthi angabi nesikhundla esiphakeme emphakathini futhi enze imisebenzi yakhe yomphakathi, kodwa futhi ahambisana nokubonakaliswa ngokomzimba. Phakathi kwezibonakaliso ezijwayelekile ze-phobias yilokhu:
- isiyezi;
- ukuthuthumela;
- ukuhlushwa;
- ukujuluka okukhulu;
- ukushona kwamalungu.
Kuyini ukwesaba?
Izinhlobonhlobo ze-phobias ziyamangalisa. Uma ucabanga ukuthi konke kuxhumene nento esabekayo kakhulu futhi isongela ukuphila, khona-ke uyiphutha. Abanye abantu bane-phobias, into engabanacala ekuqaleni kokubona izinto noma izici. Siyakubonisa ukulinganisa kwama-phobias angu-5 angenangqondo.
- I-Anthophobia iyesaba izimbali.
- I-Acrybobia - ukwesaba ukungaqondi incazelo yombhalo ofundwayo.
- I-Somniphobia iyesaba ukulala.
- I-Dextrophobia ukwesaba izinto ngakwesokudla.
- I-Tetra phobia iyesaba inombolo 4.
Ukwesaba nama-phobia - izindlela zokunqoba
I-Phobia yinkinga yengqondo esekelwe esimweni esidabukisayo esasibhekene nakho ngaphambili. Ukuqeda ukwesaba kanye nama-phobias alabo abakuzingela iminyaka eminingi ukuphendukela kuchwepheshe wezengqondo noma kwengqondo. Ukwelashwa kokwesaba nama-phobias kuyisiqondiso esihlukile ku-robot ye-psychotherapists, kodwa impumelelo yokwelashwa incike kumlayenti, icala ngalinye likhethekile futhi aliboleki kunoma yikuphi ukukhiqiza.
Ungasusa kanjani ama-phobia nokwesaba?
Kunezindlela eziningi zokuqeda ukwesaba nama-phobias. Uma uqaphela ukuthi unokwesaba okungaqondakali kokuthile, ngakho-ke uma usesiteji sesenzakalo, unayo yonke ithuba lokuzinqoba wena ngokwakho. Cabangela ukhetho lokunqoba ukwesaba ngendlela ka-Jacobson. Ngakho-ke, udinga ukuhamba ngezigaba ezintathu ngaphambi kokuthi ususe ukwesaba okukhulu.
- Funda ukuphumula, cabanga. Yenziwa ngezigaba ezintathu. Esigabeni sokuqala kudingeka ufunde ngenhloso yokuphumula yonke imisipha yomzimba. Esigabeni sesibili kudingeka ufunde ukuphumula lawo maqembu omzimba angabandakanyeki kuwo
umzuzu wokwesaba. Isibonelo, uma umile, kuzomele udonsa izandla zakho nemisipha yangemuva. Esikhathini sokugcina, kuzomele uzibuke futhi uzame ukunquma ukuthi yimiphi amaqembu omzimba osikhathazayo ngenkathi uhlangabezana nemizwa emibi futhi ekugcineni uneminyaka ukuze unciphise izinga lokucindezeleka kwabo. Lokhu kunciphisa kakhulu ukuqina noma amandla okuhlangenwe nakho lapho kuqala ukuzwa ukwesaba. - Thola ukuthi yiziphi izinkomba ezenza ukwesaba okungalawulwa. Udinga ukwenza uhlu lwezimo noma izinto ezenza ukwesabe kusuka kokuncane kuya komkhulu, ngendlela yokubeka.
- Ukwenza ukuphumula esikhundleni sokwesaba. Phinda uhlaziye uhlu bese ucabanga ngezimo ezenza ukwesabe. Ukuzizwa kokukhathazeka, kubonakala ekuhlukumezeni kwemisipha ethile yomzimba, zama ukushintsha ukuphumula. Ukuphumula umzimba kunciphisa izinga lokukhathazeka futhi kunciphisa umthelela wokucindezeleka nokwesaba kumuntu.