Abantu abahamba phambili balithalenta elimangazayo, ngakho-ke abacwaningi abahlukahlukene bawuhlola ngentshiseko ekhethekile. Kuze kube manje, kunezinkolelo eziningi ezingachaza isici esinjalo, into entsha kakhulu iyisimo esisekelwe emizweni yabantu. Ekuboneni kokuqala, ukucabanga ukuthi kubonakala kungenangqondo, kepha lapho kuhlolwa ngokucophelela, ukwanela kwayo kuyacaca.
Umbono womzwelo wobuholi
Sekuyisikhathi eside bekukholelwa ukuthi i-IQ yomuntu ephakeme, ehlakaniphile futhi ephumelele kakhulu eyenza le nkomba ibe umphathi wekhwalithi ebaluleke kakhulu. Kodwa kancane kancane baqala ukuqaphela ukuthi akukona lokhu okulinganayo futhi okuyimpoqo, ngokuvamile abaholi babethwa kanye nabanikazi bokulinganisa okulinganiselwe. Ngakho kwakukhona isidingo sokuthuthukisa indlela entsha, okwaholela ekufundeni okungokomzwelo kobuholi, okufakazela ukusetshenziswa nje kuphela kwamakhono okuhlaziya ukufeza imigomo yabo. Ukulinganisa amandla omuntu kuleso simiso, isilula esisha sakhiwe-ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo komholi, okuveza ikhono lokuqonda imizwa yabanye abantu futhi ubaqondise. Lokhu kungukuthi, akuyona umuntu ophila ngokuthanda kwezinzwa, kodwa umuntu owazi ukuwalawula ukuze athole okuhle. Ngakho-ke, izingxenye ezibalulekile zobuhlakani ezinjalo ziyi:
- ukuzithiba;
- zmpatiya;
- ukuqwashisa;
- ikhono lokuthonya abanye.
Konke lokhu kwenza ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo (EQ) umlingani njalo umholi ngezizathu ezinjalo:
- Ngezinga eliphezulu layo kulula ukuthola indlela yokuphuma kwenkinga ngaphandle kwempi engadingekile.
- I-EQ ephezulu iqinisekisa ukulula kokusungula ukuxhumana nabantu, yingakho bezimisele kakhulu ukuya kumuntu onjalo.
Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi inkolelo engokomzwelo yobuholi ibonisa ubuciko beqiniso bokuphatha abantu, ikhono lokuhlola isimo ngasinye bese ukhetha isitayela ngasinye sokuziphatha. Kungakhiwa ngobuntu bomholi, noma kungabhekiswa izimo zesikhashana. Abaholi benhliziyo bayashintshashintsha kakhulu, ngakho kulula ukuba bashintshe izindlela zabo, bazikhanye njengamakhadi emgodini wabo ukuze bathole isakhiwo esinenzuzo kakhulu.